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[sandy303 1]

hi everyone,

 

If you are divorced and  check both boxes on I 751, as entered in good faith but the marriage ended up with a divorce and also good faith marriage but abuse, the ex spouse will get any notification of it? how you file, and if you represent your evidences for abuse he wont get notified right? thank you for any answers

[Going through 5,671]

Your ex will not be notified.

 

 

Edited February 4, 2018 by Going through

[NikLR 13,227]

Theres really little point in checking both boxes.  If you have a great deal of evidence that you were abused but very little for marriage,  check the abused box.  If you have evidence showing you entered the marriage in good faith, check the dicorced box. The general consensus is, it's much easier to provide genuine relationship evidence than abuse evidence.  You do not need to make it harder on yourself by checking both. 

[sandy303 1]

2 hours ago, NikLR said:

Theres really little point in checking both boxes.  If you have a great deal of evidence that you were abused but very little for marriage,  check the abused box.  If you have evidence showing you entered the marriage in good faith, check the dicorced box. The general consensus is, it's much easier to provide genuine relationship evidence than abuse evidence.  You do not need to make it harder on yourself by checking both. 

i dont have the full list of evidences for the divorced box and the main reason why things are missing because it was a complicated relationship where abuse was involved and i had no way of getting certain evidences . or should i just check divorced, attach the little evidences i have and write a personal statement about our relationship and how the abuse accured and attach the photos and no check the box?. 

[Lemonslice 4,859]

4 minutes ago, sandy303 said:

i dont have the full list of evidences for the divorced box and the main reason why things are missing because it was a complicated relationship where abuse was involved and i had no way of getting certain evidences . or should i just check divorced, attach the little evidences i have and write a personal statement about our relationship and how the abuse accured and attach the photos and no check the box?. 

What evidence do you have? If you list what you have, we might be able to advise you on what else you can get on your own.

[sandy303 1]

49 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

What evidence do you have? If you list what you have, we might be able to advise you on what else you can get on your own.

- photoes. before we got married,, engagement wedding photoes and during our marriage

-different type of mails coming to both of our names

-proof of me added to his bank account named as POD beneficiary ( payable-on death)

-affidatives 

-personal statement

- and photoes of abuse,  bruises etc 

 

any more evidence i cant get. it was a very isolating and controlling relationship where i had no word in financial things so no receipts, no shared bills, no lease, nothing since we lived at friends. and i cant get affidativ from them because after i escaped every communication was cut off and they never answered. i dont know if he filed taxes or not i was scared to ask irs because i didnt know if they notified him and my divorce lawyer adviced me not to trigger anything. he didnt ask for my signature so if he filed and i go ask for copies and turns out he commited fraud i dont want nothing to come out of it because im scared he d take revenge on me after. 

[NikLR 13,227]

Did you ever file a police report on the abuse? Go to a shelter? The abuse waiver is much harder than just a few photos of bruises.  Im sorry for everything you've had to go through.   

[sandy303 1]

15 minutes ago, NikLR said:

Did you ever file a police report on the abuse? Go to a shelter? The abuse waiver is much harder than just a few photos of bruises.  Im sorry for everything you've had to go through.   

noo unfortunately i was completely scared and brainwashed and i didnt file any reports. i escaped, stayed with friends and never looked back. it was horrible. thats all i have. 

the only reason i thought to check both boxes because as u can see i dont have a strong list of evidences and i have to explain why. because of what happened. and thats abuse. but the only thing i can send in is the photos and my personal statement. so if i just send in as divorced waiver i m gonna get an rfe immediately and i wont be able to send documents in. i dont want to lie and be like okay yea we just divorced here are some papers i have sorry for not having the other. but if i only check divorce box itself and i attach myy personal statement and the photos of my injuries and me and the destroyed room etc will it be enough? im sure they d be like oh why didnt she check the abuse box as well if that happened. or they will deny me for checking both boxes but not having strong list of evidences for them? 

[NikLR 13,227]

You need to provide evidence you "entered" the marriage in good faith.

 

It sounds like you did and you can explain why you have a lack of marital evidence at the interview.  

[sandy303 1]

1 hour ago, NikLR said:

You need to provide evidence you "entered" the marriage in good faith.

 

It sounds like you did and you can explain why you have a lack of marital evidence at the interview.  

im about to file it now so thats why im hesitating.

[Lemonslice 4,859]

12 minutes ago, sandy303 said:

im about to file it now so thats why im hesitating.

Is there any immigrant help center/legal clinic or similar services in your area - it might be worth it to check in with them and have some support.