Really need an advise. SO dessesperate

[Ontarkie 14,236]

1 minute ago, Illiria said:

He is asking for a signed statement from you that when you got married that it was a genuine marriage, not that it was a perfect marriage or that it ended amicably but that it was genuine when you signed the marriage certificate as that is all he has to prove. Now you are perfectly entitled to say no if you don’t want to do this. However be aware that your ex can file as divorced, as you are going through a divorce. If he is in his 90 days before the conditional green card is up he can file now and if he doesn’t have the final decree already submit the final decree later on when they ask for it. 

 

 

You said earlier that he was filing as married, people judged him to be fraudulent by you saying this. Are you now saying that you dont know how he

is filing? 

When you quote someone make sure you quote the right person. i am not the OP. 

Edited February 3, 2018 by Ontarkie

[Illiria 980]

15 minutes ago, Ontarkie said:

When you quote someone make sure you quote the right person. i am not the OP. 

😊 No I was using your post to illustrate how the OP’s original post stating that he was filling as married led to people judging him to be fraudulent or false. Sorry If it was confusing.

Edited February 3, 2018 by Illiria

[Nitas_man 3,100]

12 hours ago, yeya23 said:

 I WANT TO ASK THE PEOPLE THAT HAD PREVIOUS EXPERIENCES DO YOU THINK I HAVE A CHANCE FILLING FOR THE SECOND TIME IN THE FUTURE?? MY EX-HUSBAND IS FILLING HIS REMOVE OF CONDITION AS MARRIED, HE ASKED ME TO SING AFFIDAVIT AND MY FATHER WOULD HAVE TO SING ANOTHER ONE TOO, WHAT REALLY GOT ME WORRIED IS THAT MY EX-PARTNER TOLD ME THAT IF HIS CASE IS DENIED I won't BE ABLE TO FILE FOR ANYONE ANYMORE, OR HE IS JUST BEING A MANIPULATOR SINCE HE WAS HOLDING ME UP WITH THE DIVORCE PAPER? HAVE ANYBODY HAVE AN IDEA? I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE ANY ADVISE. THANK YOU!!

Sign nothing.  He is responsible for removing conditions on his own.  You owe him nothing.  He IS being a manipulator.

 

The truth is - IF he successfully removes conditions (on his own) then you still have to declare him as a supported alien on your next filing, unless he files for citizenship. 

 

If he is denied then you are off the hook on your support affidavit. 

 

SO:  it is to your advantage to do as little as possible (do nothing) to help his case, not the other way around.  Otherwise the bar for the affidavit of support is higher. 

 

 

[Nitas_man 3,100]

9 hours ago, yeya23 said:

I don't think its an affidavit of support I think they are about the marriage itself. Can he lift his conditions in a separated status? or how that it works? I don't really don't know how he will be failing, once I know for sure I will give all of you an update.

I would advise you to let him move on and not sign or provide a single additional thing.  What happens on this case has nothing to do with any future filings.  Removal of conditions is his problem not yours.

[Illiria 980]

32 minutes ago, Nitas_man said:

If he is denied then you are off the hook on your support affidavit. 

But if he is denied he wouldn’t be stripped of his permanent residency until he either gave it up and left or went through removal proceedings through a judge if he doesn’t leave and that could take a while. He could apply for removal of conditions again, we have seen it on here.

 

Op if the new guy makes you happy, has talked about all the important stuff inc children and wants what you want then go be happy without any consideration for anything the ex is saying. Just wait for finalization of divorce, plus any waiting period after if there is any for your state, then marry your new guy and file for him. 

 

But unless you know that the ex meets one of the conditions of no longer needing to be counted please list the ex on any affidavit of support for your new guy so that you don’t have any delays for requests for evidence and the resulting further stress on account of your ex. 

 

It sounds like for you to be happy you need to block all communication with the ex unless it’s from his lawyer to your lawyer about the divorce.

[NikLR 13,227]

Im a little lost but I think I catch most of it. 

 

You do not have to sign anything.  Certainly do not sign his I-751.  You also do not have to give him a sworn affidavit about your marriage.  It sounds like it was originally a happy marriage until you had a deal breaker.  You want children, he does not.  Instead of forcing the issue in either way, you both should have realized the impasse and left the marriage on better terms.  I don't blame him for checking on your birth control but I don't blame you for trying to change his mind either.  

 

Is your divorce final? If not he cannot be approved with a divorce waiver.  Who filed for divorce first?  Are there limitations in your state regarding remarriage after divorce.  Make sure you check those before remarrying.

 

You may face more scrutiny if you file for another spouse mostly because you already have petitioned one spouse already.  It won't be arduous though. Certainly you must count your ex on a new affidavit of support until he leaves the USA permanently, dies, becomes a USC or works 40 work quarters.  

 

It's possible that you could come to an agreement to sign affidavits for each other explaining why your marriage was genuine and why it ended. You both just wanted different things in life and you are allowed to have those deal breakers in relationships.  

[Boiler 45,575]

Divorce is nearly there.

[Jawaree 718]

You or your dad should sign nothing for him...Yes you can petition a new husband he's ;ying to you that you cannot....They may ask questions however

make sure you co-mingle funds have insuraces etc that shows you are a real couple...if its authentic there is nothing to fear

Edited February 3, 2018 by Jawaree

[Dianalorena 1,153]

I agree with the importance of developing your current relationship further, document everything and don't rush into things. Also, make sure you have the kids conversation with your partner beforehand which I know can be uncomfortable. Even when people say they want kids, they might change their minds eventually, and it's something that I understand is a deal breaker for you. So the best course of action is to move on. 

 

PS:  I don't mean to pry, but 30 is certainly not too old to have kids. Just make sure that you want them for the ''right'' reasons and know everything it involves, and not because you feel pressured because of your age.  Good luck! 

 

[Elsalove2016 34]

IM sure you will be able to marry someone else and sponsor them , they understand that you can’t help it that the first relationship didn’t go well and also you can’t help to have fallen in love again with someone who needs your sponsorship to say legal in this country . Just make sure you are fully divorce before you start any paper work with your new boyfriend . Good luck 

Edited February 3, 2018 by Elsalove2016

[sparkles_ 456]

I've filed for my ex husband, and my current husband as well, each interview was 20-30min tops. But there was also almost ten years passed between the two filings....I have heard time between counts for a lot in the eyes of USCIS. As for signing anything for your ex, let him handle his business and gather evidence for proof of bonafide marriage, you owe him no favors, especially not one that does all the work for him. XOXO.

[Ontarkie 14,236]

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[yeya23 1]

I have an update since he blindsided me with his phone call on Friday, he said: " because were are not technically divorced yet and your stupid lawyer i need an affidavit from you and your father...."  I assumed then that he was lifting the conditions like married" I had a conversation with him today because i had a million questions after reading the threat. He made it clear that the affidavits he need arent support affidavits, and that he was lifting his conditions as separated, pending for the final divorce. He needs to submit his application by Feb 17th, his conditional green card is going to expire on May, the 17th.  Like I said before i don't think he will try to hurt me, however, when I needed the signed paperwork for the divorce he took more than 2 months to send everything, he was always giving me excuses. And now that he needs this affidavit he wants them by the end of the week, so he used the phrase " by the way if my case is denied, you won't be able to file for no one else" he knows I'm in a new relationship, so I felt desperate and with no hope,  at some point, i was thinking about returning to my home country one the divorce is over because i didn't know that I had a chance of filling for my new partner and its good to know that al least i have that option.

 

[Sandra G. 5,048]

On 2/3/2018 at 8:03 AM, Nitas_man said:

I would advise you to let him move on and not sign or provide a single additional thing.  What happens on this case has nothing to do with any future filings.  Removal of conditions is his problem not yours.

 

People don't have  to end  their relationships  with resentment or bitterness.  Her marriage worked for a while, it's just not working anymore. She can give him an affidavit stating that they entered into marriage  in good faith.

[payxibka 10,045]

5 hours ago, yeya23 said:

He needs to submit his application by Feb 17th, his conditional green card is going to expire on May, the 17th.  

 

Not true...  He has until May 17 to submit the application. The application window opens 90 days prior, but that is not the day when the application must be submitted.  Submission must occur before the card expires