Chain Immigration.

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6 hours ago, NickD said:

We were strongly advised to wait until she received her US citizenship, would be much quicker, did this in 2008, it was not until last year, 2017 we finally received a notice from the NVC that he would be called in for an interview, but made the bad mistake of getting married.  Guess you can't expect a young man to stay single all of his life.

 

Response from the NVC was to check with them in the next 10-12 years, if we are still alive by then.  

 

Has your son been petitioned by USC or LPR?

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He said USC

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I am a natural born USC, I could not petition for him. wife is naturalized,  said we received bad advice by waiting until she became a US citizen before applying was informed, would be faster this way. 

 

Ironically when she petitioned for her son, little over nine years went by, for all we knew at the time, another nine years could have gone by.  And by some odd coincidence, a month after he was married, finally received a notice for is interview.  In terms of priority was next in line as a son, if he remained single, but now, way back in the line.

 

We know of a family here in our town from Venezuela, husband is here on a work visa, sent him job applications, but not our decision, but his and his wife's, and have a strong feeling, his wife doesn't want to leave her mother.

 

Chain immigration is on the news, perhaps my greatest comment, it doesn't happen instantly, can take years, or never at all.

 

From another aspect, just wasn't meant to be.

 

Curious as to how others are making out.

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I feel like the same people who rail against chain immigration by citing what other countries do are also the first to sputter "but this is America! We are different!" when arguing why socialized benefits that work well in other countries would never work in the US. Surprise.

 

I feel bad for families split up in non-VWP countries. Usually they can't "just visit" and eventually age and ill health get to most of us, making "just visit"-ing over there also impossible.

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9 minutes ago, dirtyhippiegirl said:

I feel like the same people who rail against chain immigration by citing what other countries do are also the first to sputter "but this is America! We are different!" when arguing why socialized benefits that work well in other countries would never work in the US. Surprise.

 

I feel bad for families split up in non-VWP countries. Usually they can't "just visit" and eventually age and ill health get to most of us, making "just visit"-ing over there also impossible.

Families were split up by choice of the person deciding to immigrate to the USA.  

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6 minutes ago, dirtyhippiegirl said:

I feel like the same people who rail against chain immigration by citing what other countries do are also the first to sputter "but this is America! We are different!" when arguing why socialized benefits that work well in other countries would never work in the US. Surprise.

 

I feel bad for families split up in non-VWP countries. Usually they can't "just visit" and eventually age and ill health get to most of us, making "just visit"-ing over there also impossible.

 I think the people that mostly say things like that are immigrants hoping America is different until they find it's actually not supposed to be. 

 I'm from a VWP country, all of my family live there, can't 'just visit' and aren't all old. Assuming that it's an 'us' and 'them' thing isn't fair. I also moved here to be with my husband, but as with everyone else who immigrates to the US via marriage it was my choice and it certainly wasn't a decision made with the idea I could bring every Tom, Richard and Harry that I'm related to over when I obtain citizenship in mind. Gosh, half (read most) of them I'm glad don't live on the same street. It'd drive me batty and I do love my family before you cry out about family values etc. We aren't, however, all fortunate enough to be Italian or Greek. 
 Those with children who are actually adult age need to learn to accept that grown ups lead their own lives without Mum and Dad joined at the hip. People can travel, take vacations to visit the family they left behind. You don't have to bring your whole extended family like they're luggage just so you can cope with the change of culture. . . or not have to change anything but location. 
 I don't feel bad, the OP's Son was an adult even when he was petitioned and needs to be treated as such for his own sake more than anything. Life genuinely does go on when parents aren't around. Hoping someone would put their adult life on hold for a decade or two just so they can join up here is honestly selfish. 

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45 minutes ago, NickD said:

I am a natural born USC, I could not petition for him. wife is naturalized,  said we received bad advice by waiting until she became a US citizen before applying was informed, would be faster this way. 

 

Ironically when she petitioned for her son, little over nine years went by, for all we knew at the time, another nine years could have gone by.  And by some odd coincidence, a month after he was married, finally received a notice for is interview.  In terms of priority was next in line as a son, if he remained single, but now, way back in the line.

 

We know of a family here in our town from Venezuela, husband is here on a work visa, sent him job applications, but not our decision, but his and his wife's, and have a strong feeling, his wife doesn't want to leave her mother.

 

Chain immigration is on the news, perhaps my greatest comment, it doesn't happen instantly, can take years, or never at all.

 

From another aspect, just wasn't meant to be.

 

Curious as to how others are making out.

So basically his petition was transfered from F1 to F3, what will add 5-6 additional years of waiting (if immigration reform will not hit it). I am not sure why NVC tells you, that it will take 10-12 years if the petition has not been voided?

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1 hour ago, dirtyhippiegirl said:

I feel like the same people who rail against chain immigration by citing what other countries do are also the first to sputter "but this is America! We are different!" when arguing why socialized benefits that work well in other countries would never work in the US. Surprise.

 

I feel bad for families split up in non-VWP countries. Usually they can't "just visit" and eventually age and ill health get to most of us, making "just visit"-ing over there also impossible.

Families are not split up by nonVWP countries. The decision to immigrate is based solely on immigrants. Countries are not forcing people to leave their families and move to another country.

 

If they pick a place where it may be difficult for family and friends to visit, that is all on them.

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