I-751 divorce waiver/difficult case/help

[sandy303 1]

Hi everyone,

 

I have been reading on VJ for a long time and now I decided to write here so I can get some help, some opinions, anything.

I met my ex husband in 2014 , fell in love , started the K1 processs and got married in 2015. things went downhill horribly. he had anger issues, he was dealing with addiction and he became verbally and phisically abusive. never in a million years I thought he would ever become the man he had become. his family knew about what was going on they tried to send him to get help with his issues but since it was a deeply religious family everything got sugarcoated and put under the rug. i had no one, i thought i had his familys support but they teamed up and started accusing me as im only hear for green card purposes. which is horrible to say since everyone knew what was going and behind closed doors, how horribly everything was. i was brainwashed i was told i will end up in jail and deported if i calll the cops and i did not know about any option for me back then,,, i long story short the leader of the church helped me escape and i was staying at friends in anothr state since i had no money to go home at that point. i filed for divorce and less than a year from that point our divorce was finalized. now i am close to the deadline, the 90 day window. I have to file the I 751 but i am facing many difficulties here. i am out of the country right know. visiting my family. 

first of alll I dont know if I should file I 751 as the marriage was entered in good faith but ended with divoce or file as I was abused.  I am honestly scared, I havent had any communication with my ex and i am terrified what if i telll uscis about abuse and he will know about it and as he always told me he will get me in trouble since he has money he willl not ever get in trouble but me.  I have pictures of us together, bunch of emails, unfortunately when i left him i had to disappear because i didnt want him to find me so i ended good friendships with mutual friends because of him. so they only know his story as oh i just ran off... which is totally false. and where i lived with friends i had some arguements with one person there and she told me oh she will contach my ex husband they will report me and get me deported.. things she d say out of anger but im not sure if it happened. i have plenty of pictures of th abuse, video recordings of him.. basically admitting he hurt me and hes sorry etc. I thought abouut staying home and abandoning my green card but i have ambitions and i dont want to be destroyed by someone so evil meanwhile he is living his life all happy. 

also i am sure he filed taxes i just dont know if he filed married joinlty or seperately but i didnt sign any documents ... i myself didnt file since i wasnt working. this years gonna be the first year im going to file since i worked last year but i was divorced by then.

 so yea the evidences i have:

-pictures, emails from the beginning of the relationship up until i escaped (some real nasty email from him after  i left him as well)

-I can go to the bank ask for bank statements ( we had a joint bank account, he was the primary card holder and i had my own card but he had access to it )

- i can go to irs ask for tax copies or see how he filed

- my personal statement

I know its not much and i am very devistated i wasnt more cautious before. i never thpught we d end up the way we are with him so it was a horrible time of my life. I am looking for the time i can get back on my feet and this chapter wuld be the fnal chapter so i can leave the past behind me. 

also i am dealing with health issued and i got fired due to taking too much time off so now im unemployed im hoping to have a I 751 fee waiver approvd. i will attach bank statements , charity care approval form and a written explanation that im going thru financial hardship.

what do you guys think about my story? hopefully there is some ppl out there who is going or went thru the same . 

also the personal statements have to be handwritten or typed in on a computer? 

thank you so much for any replies in advance.

 

[divorcedgayman 11]

This thread should be moved to the Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits for better help.

 

I am very sorry that this happened to you. I know how this feels. I was in a very similar situation to you.

 

I suggest that you should start collecting all the documents ASAP. Since you are divorced, you may go either 1) VAWA or 2) divorce waiver. @sandranj will be better equipped to help answer questions with VAWA. In either case, you will need to show that you were in love with the person who broke your heart later. Pictures, emails, text messages, social media posts, maybe some cards he gave you from before the marriage are all good ideas. Did you travel together before the marriage?

 

From the financial documents, I think it would make sense for you to quickly go to the bank and get full bank statements with complete transactions month by month. Go to IRS and ask for either transcript or full tax forms that you submitted.

 

Did you live together at any point? If so, do you have any documents that show this?

 

15 hours ago, sandy303 said:

 so yea the evidences i have:

-pictures, emails from the beginning of the relationship up until i escaped (some real nasty email from him after  i left him as well)

-I can go to the bank ask for bank statements ( we had a joint bank account, he was the primary card holder and i had my own card but he had access to it )

- i can go to irs ask for tax copies or see how he filed

- my personal statement

I know its not much and i am very devistated i wasnt more cautious before. i never thpught we d end up the way we are with him so it was a horrible time of my life. I am looking for the time i can get back on my feet and this chapter wuld be the fnal chapter so i can leave the past behind me. 

also i am dealing with health issued and i got fired due to taking too much time off so now im unemployed im hoping to have a I 751 fee waiver approvd. i will attach bank statements , charity care approval form and a written explanation that im going thru financial hardship.

what do you guys think about my story? hopefully there is some ppl out there who is going or went thru the same . 

also the personal statements have to be handwritten or typed in on a computer? 

thank you so much for any replies in advance.

 

 

Edited January 16, 2018 by divorcedgayman

[sandy303 1]

23 minutes ago, divorcedgayman said:

This thread should be moved to the Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits for better help.

 

I am very sorry that this happened to you. I know how this feels. I was in a very similar situation to you.

 

I suggest that you should start collecting all the documents ASAP. Since you are divorced, you may go either 1) VAWA or 2) divorce waiver. @sandranj will be better equipped to help answer questions with VAWA. In either case, you will need to show that you were in love with the person who broke your heart later. Pictures, emails, text messages, social media posts, maybe some cards he gave you from before the marriage are all good ideas. Did you travel together before the marriage?

 

From the financial documents, I think it would make sense for you to quickly go to the bank and get full bank statements with complete transactions month by month. Go to IRS and ask for either transcript or full tax forms that you submitted.

 

Did you live together at any point? If so, do you have any documents that show this?

 

 

thank you for your comment. I thouht that going wth VAWAs oly pssible if I dont have my conditional card yet. in my case I do have it and its about to expire.

I had nevr filed taxes before, this year is gonna be my first year im filing since i worked last year. so the only reason to go to IRS to find out how my ex filed andget a copy of it. but i dont want him to get notified about it that im gettting alllthese documents since im glad enough he had stopped writing me a couple months ago. .. i hope he will never contact me ever again.

we lived together for 7 months and then i left him. escaped. but his parents were our landlords.. and no bills were on any of our names. nor phone bills, nothing since it was on a big family plan. and i dont want to contact any of them for affidativs snce i know how all of them turned against me, although they knew what was going on.. 

[divorcedgayman 11]

34 minutes ago, sandy303 said:

thank you for your comment. I thouht that going wth VAWAs oly pssible if I dont have my conditional card yet. in my case I do have it and its about to expire.

I had nevr filed taxes before, this year is gonna be my first year im filing since i worked last year. so the only reason to go to IRS to find out how my ex filed andget a copy of it. but i dont want him to get notified about it that im gettting alllthese documents since im glad enough he had stopped writing me a couple months ago. .. i hope he will never contact me ever again.

we lived together for 7 months and then i left him. escaped. but his parents were our landlords.. and no bills were on any of our names. nor phone bills, nothing since it was on a big family plan. and i dont want to contact any of them for affidativs snce i know how all of them turned against me, although they knew what was going on.. 

 

If taxes were filed together, you can request either a transcript or a full certified version of the forms submitted. You are entitled to it, and nobody else will be notified. If filed jointly, all you need to do is provide your SSN, your name and address inserted on the tax forms (I imagine that would be your in-law's address). When you request this, your spouse will not be notified. 

 

https://www.irs.gov/forms-pubs/about-form-4506 ($50 fee for each certified return)

 

https://www.irs.gov/individuals/get-transcript (free transcript - some users have hard time accessing this and may need to go to the IRS in person/find some other solution)

 

I'd get on getting those things soon. IRS will be incredibly busy soon, and processing any form will take forever.

 

For the living together part, I'd encourage you to think whether you have some other evidence of living together, e.g. driver's license with the address, correspondence you received at the address, affidavit from the leader of the church you mentioned, etc.

 

 

Edited January 16, 2018 by divorcedgayman

[sandy303 1]

30 minutes ago, divorcedgayman said:

 

If taxes were filed together, you can request either a transcript or a full certified version of the forms submitted. You are entitled to it, and nobody else will be notified. If filed jointly, all you need to do is provide your SSN, your name and address inserted on the tax forms (I imagine that would be your in-law's address). When you request this, your spouse will not be notified. 

 

https://www.irs.gov/forms-pubs/about-form-4506 ($50 fee for each certified return)

 

https://www.irs.gov/individuals/get-transcript (free transcript - some users have hard time accessing this and may need to go to the IRS in person/find some other solution)

 

I'd get on getting those things soon. IRS will be incredibly busy soon, and processing any form will take forever.

 

For the living together part, I'd encourage you to think whether you have some other evidence of living together, e.g. driver's license with the address, correspondence you received at the address, affidavit from the leader of the church you mentioned, etc.

 

 

see thats my problem right there that idk how he filed... he asked for my social. but i wasnt asked to sign anything whatsoever, so after i left him  he filed his tax return and i had no idea if he did it married jointly or married seperately... same with the year after... idk how he filed and he was the only one who filed so for me to go to IRS and ask about will him get in trouble? i dont wannt to be in danger if irs finds out he filed jontly without my consent, and then he ll go furious for getting busted with it because he willl know i did it... its crazyyou divorced friom someone and yet that person still has an effect on your life and is taking away from you, from your life.