Can she stay in US even if her husband wants her to go home

[caliliving 606]

  On 1/11/2018 at 7:13 AM, Boiler said:

Does sound she would be much better off at home surrounded by her family and support network.

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Yes, they are always better off moving back home.  but he probably came and visited her once for a week.  petitioned k1 she moved here got him to do the AOS pretty quick and suddenly things arent great but she uprooted her life and wants to stay.

 

 

[Boiler 46,782]

  On 1/11/2018 at 7:41 AM, caliliving said:

Yes, they are always better off moving back home.  but he probably came and visited her once for a week.  petitioned k1 she moved here got him to do the AOS pretty quick and suddenly things arent great but she uprooted her life and wants to stay.

 

 

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Sounds like she has nothing here.

[caliliving 606]

  On 1/11/2018 at 7:43 AM, Boiler said:

Sounds like she has nothing here.

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she has a 'friend' 

[amaada 18]

  On 1/11/2018 at 7:13 AM, Boiler said:

Does sound she would be much better off at home surrounded by her family and support network.

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I just wanted her to stay with me for the meantime so she’ll have time to cool off before she will fly back home if things didn’t work out between them.

 

It’s hard on her part especially the stress of having to deal with shame and starting from scratch when she goes home.

 

I’d really like to take her in if her visa allows but given her situation she’s in right now I don’t know if that would be possible anyway.

 

so like I said maybe I’ll just make her stay with us until she cools off and then she can go home.

[Boiler 46,782]

When is her ticket booked for?

[amaada 18]

  On 1/11/2018 at 8:01 AM, Boiler said:

When is her ticket booked for?

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She said this Sunday.

 

I just talked to her earlier and I learned he has actually threatened her to be sent home several times and gives her conditions so he will not do it (can’t remember the details but she is not crazy!)... or he has told her that the police will take her because of her status since she “doesn’t” have greencard yet. (Well, it’s being processed and he even consented and filed it.)

 

But I don’t know why he has to inflict fear of being taken by the police. 

 

This is like the third time she contacted me for help and same thing happened. Scenario goes like this: husband will buy a ticket for her to go home, and he will only cancel it if blah blah ... (I cant remember the conditions he have her) I know his wife and she doesn’t demand for anything. She always takes care of him. She’s not crazy.

 

one time the guy would say “you’re most wonderful person Ive ever met” the next thing he’ll say “You go home! I’ll buy you a ticket!” And then he’ll cancel it. This is the 3rd time.

 

and I don’t know what to do or how to help her.

[Boiler 46,782]

Have they been interviewed or was that waived?

 

Anyway sounds like she is well out of it.

 

And often there is nothing much you can do, she is an adult.

[amaada 18]

  On 1/11/2018 at 8:13 AM, Boiler said:

Have they been interviewed or was that waived?

 

Anyway sounds like she is well out of it.

 

And often there is nothing much you can do, she is an adult.

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They don’t know yet if there will be interviewed or it will be waived.

 

you’re right.

 

That’s true. ☹️ So sorry for her.

 

Thanks Boiler.

 

 

 

[JFH 12,192]

  On 1/11/2018 at 6:08 AM, amaada said:

please do not reply further.

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Please be advised that telling other posters not to post or comment is against the TOS of Visajourney.

 

If you post on a public forum, be prepared for all opinions, including those that you don't like. Does your friend know that you are publicly posting about her private life?

 

It sounds like she would be better off going home. After all, she left everything there and has her support network. So she has plenty to return to. Good luck to her.  

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[LKMK 86]

  On 1/11/2018 at 8:35 AM, amaada said:

They don’t know yet if there will be interviewed or it will be waived.

 

you’re right.

 

That’s true. ☹️ So sorry for her.

 

Thanks Boiler.

 

 

 

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So sorry for her situation.  Maybe this is a blessing in disguise.  If he doesn't want to be with her, then I have one word to say...Alimony!  Teach him a lesson for playing with her heart.

 

So sad, but I wouldn't let him get away with it.

[Boiler 46,782]

  On 1/11/2018 at 5:28 PM, LJ2016 said:

So sorry for her situation.  Maybe this is a blessing in disguise.  If he doesn't want to be with her, then I have one word to say...Alimony!  Teach him a lesson for playing with her heart.

 

So sad, but I wouldn't let him get away with it.

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How much should she get?

[Californiansunset 336]

  On 1/11/2018 at 3:40 AM, JFH said:

Would she tolerate this kind of behavior from a man in her home town? Or is she tolerating him because there is the prized green card, citizenship and the chance to bring her family here at stake? 

 

Yet again someone posting for a friend. Had the person in question posted themselves we could have saved at least 20 posts where we were trying to work out if her AOS was merely accepted or actually approved. I suggest your friend creates her own account so that she can give accurate information and we don't have your random guesses to work with. 

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I actually think the confusion was mostly triggered off by a language barrier (not knowing that there isn't something as an approved filing for the Greencard) and not so much by the fact that it's someone else posting. OP seems to exactly know what stage her friend's case is in especially considering that she is going through the same immigration journey, she just had trouble expressing it correctly. I think often VJ members forget that there are others posting on here who don't have English as their native language and thus might have trouble using the correct words. That just as a side note.  

[LKMK 86]

  On 1/11/2018 at 5:37 PM, Boiler said:

How much should she get?

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I don't know, but it would definitely be something to work out with her divorce attorney. 

 

http://alimonycalculator.us/

 

Even if she could get $1000/month from him, she would be able to live very comfortably in the Philippines.

[geowrian 22,338]

Alimony is unlikely for such a short marriage. Even then, the amount and duration of any maintenance would be quite minimal, and even more so if her COL is so low if she moves to PI.

[LKMK 86]

  On 1/11/2018 at 5:49 PM, geowrian said:

Alimony is unlikely for such a short marriage. Even then, the amount and duration of any maintenance would be quite minimal, and even more so if her COL is so low if she moves to PI.

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True, but you never know.  Divorces can be drawn out over long periods of time as well as being quite costly.  Some people may opt for the easy way out and just "settle" for an alimony payment vs a costly divorce.