K-1 visa and the death of a spouse

[broma25 2]

I am sorry to hear of your loss - it very sad. If I was faced with the same situation I would not want to stay in the states another second. I would fly straight back to my family and friends because the only reason I am moving over to the states is to be with Jamal. My life would be completley crushed and thinking about how I can stay in the usa would be last thing on my mind. I would honestly never think about coming back because he is the only man I would ever do any of this immigration stuff for! Man, even writing this has made me upset!!!

I am with you on this one, I have been here for almost 2 years and the US is now what I consider home, however if anything should happen to my husband I would be on the first flight back to England. I would not want to stay here without my husband as he was the ONLY reason I came here.

[TracyLuis 0]

This whole topic is lost on me

[Yodrak 7]

All of you,

She did not write that she had any intention of finding a new husband for a new K1. What she did write was that it was an option put to her by an attorney.

Big difference.

Yodrak

I have a couple of questions in my mind about this story ..

How long ago did your husband die?

I'm sorry that your husband died, but your intentions are somewhat questionable to me in that; if you are still in the US then your husband has been dead for less than 68 days yet you are considering another K-1 visa already. (another sponsor to petition for you? dread going thru that again? fearful of being denied on the second try?) K-1 is about being with the person that you love, not about staying in the US.

Sorry I don't have any helpful advice for you.

CB

Ditto on that, I was thinking the same thing. Maybe we're wrong but it's hard to feel your pain and sorrow with the post you wrote. It is mainly focused on how you can stay in the US instead of how sad you feel about your husband's tragic death. I know that if it had happened to me (knock on wood!) I would devastated. But again... maybe it was your choice of words that do not transmit this sentiment.

I think I agree with you both, this is actually the 2nd time am seeing such a thing on VJ and am sorry to say it's like a trend and one is forced to asked what their real intentions are but then I guess we are not in a position to judge. It is just sad that you loose someone you 'claim' to love and you are already considering thinking about soming back with another k1 visa....very sad and I think you should have a re-think about your real intentions

[dkalXuan 0]

i would like to chime in just a little on this too. first and foremost. i am so so sorry about the death of your husband. i can only imagine what you are going through.

i will not even judge.

i can only think that your mind is going through a lot. you are just trying to think of what to do now. this has to be very stressfull for you. i will keep a good thought for you. i hope that you will find peace with all of this.

lean on your friends and family in times like this.

the fact that you ARE here in America now is something that should not be judged by others, it might be just as bad for you back in your home land. hey, at least you came here by the book and legal.

take care and good luck

keep us updated...

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

While some people from countries such as the UK may gladly decide to return if something similar happened, let us not forget that there are countries where life is not so good.

Where is it written that you can't be in love AND want a better life which would be afforded by living in the USA?

She may very well have severed her ties with her home country, given up her job, and as JamalNTam is doing decided not to pay loans/declare bankrupcy etc...

She also may have friends and family in the USA.

This doesn't seem a thread looking for sympathy or to express her grief, but rather looking for constructive advice on her IMMIGRATION status.

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

I'm sorry, my words don't translate well. I was just telling what the lawyers said. Please do not judge me. You have no idea what I have been through since the accident.

there is new legislation coming out for widows.. call an immigration attorney