K-1 visa and the death of a spouse

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Anyway, folks, while I await information from the moderators of this forum as to why on earth the link was censored, needlessly and erroneously, I might add....

try checking this site for information!!!!!

http://www.ssad.org

Talk about "Big Brother". Hrmphhh. What the has been going on here?

[Lovetoteach 53]

I'm so sorry for your tragic loss and the pain you must be feeling . For the present you need to focus on the grief of losing your husband which personally I think would be to go back home and spend this time with your family who can support you. If you do stay longer than the 90 days then you will start to accrue unlawful presence which may cause complications down the line.

If you still intend on staying in the US, as far as wanting to remain in the US I believe the I360 for a widower is only for someone who has been married for more than two years. You could also try contacting the Catholic Charities for some legal advice which is free. If you search on Womenslaw.org you can find one in your area.

If you do, at sometime in the future, fall in love in love again, then I don't think this would cause any problems with another K1 due to the circumstances. Assuming of course you fall in love with a US Citizen. No-one knows the future and who knows ,you may find love again not necesarily with someone who lives in the States.

Once again my heart goes out to you. Spend this time dealing with the loss of your husband.

Shona

[KarenCee 3]

I concur. In fact, I wonder if it is entirely possible that the poster was referring to the visa by type rather than to indicate she has an interest in another fiancé. Gosh, folks....

I assure anyone reading my post I was NOT in any way judging this poor lady. Merely trying to explain that it was the mention of dreading another K1 process comment that got a few people in an uproar. IMHO it was an odd thing to say but I was NOT judging her as apparently it seemed her attorney made the comment to her. I sincerely hope she takes time to grieve and start the healing process.

Edited April 28, 2007 by KarenCee

[rebeccajo 14]

K-1 is about being with the person that you love, not about staying in the US.

Actually, the only reason for applying for a K1 is to be in the US.

You can be with the person you love anywhere.

[Mags 112]

This lady's husband has just died-tragically so, English is probably not her first language and so many of you here just jump down her throat telling her she couldn't have loved her husband. I'm sorry, but if someone had just died in RL and their husband/wife asked for your opinion I can bet my ####### that none of you would react the same way.

Have some heart people. Thank goodness for the Mermaid.

[meauxna 15]

Anyway, folks, while I await information from the moderators of this forum as to why on earth the link was censored, needlessly and erroneously, I might add....

try checking this site for information!!!!!

http://www.ssad.org

Talk about "Big Brother". Hrmphhh. What the has been going on here?

by way of FYI...

The only entity here who can edit someone else's posts is Ewok, and I don't see an 'edit' note in your post...

(is it possible it was forgotten?)

( how's that for the passive voice...)

[Captain Ewok 1,900]

Diad and I already spoke on it. All is good.

[meauxna 15]

Diad and I already spoke on it. All is good.

Meaning? Are there links we are not supposed to include? Are moderators editing posts? Do I need to edit incorrect info out of my post?

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Diad and I already spoke on it. All is good.

Meaning? Are there links we are not supposed to include? Are moderators editing posts? Do I need to edit incorrect info out of my post?

Hmm. I am not so sure it is 'good' but what to do? I did PM Ewok, because I had posted a link to a thread on the Family Based Immigration forum http://www.***removed***.com/forum/, of which I am also a member, and it had been modified (a.k.a. removed) by Ewok. Frankly, although he later explained that he had done so as a result of something that had occured in the past, I maintain that information that is intended to assist an alien in finding information that might assist with an immigration dilemma is the express purpose of a site like VJ. The link I posted was announcing a possibility of a change in law that could preserve the OP's opportunity to continue with her immigration process, in spite of the untimely demise of her US citizen husband, and is critical for her to be aware of. Not only that, but it is the only forum, of which I am aware, that has posted such information.

I think in this case, for the moderator to resort to removing it, regardless of any prior event, represented a very poor sense of fellowship that a site like Visa Journey is supposed to instill. Sorry, Ewok, but it needs to be said

I haven't been participating on VJ as much in the past few weeks, due to workload in preparation for my relocation, but I guess I am disappointed to see such petty matters take from the very essence of a community such as this. Too bad.....

And there he goes again....... alas!

[meauxna 15]

Color me confused.

[kitkat1 5]

hmmm . . . I provide links here to the 601 forum on I2us.net all the time since there is a much larger community and knowledge base of people filing 601 waivers there. Never had a problem . . . .

[Jenn! 918]

I had posted a link to a thread on the Family Based Immigration forum http://www.***removed***.com/forum/

....

And there he goes again....... alas!

You mean the link you gave there was edited too?

What the heck is going on?

[rebeccajo 14]

uh-oh........

[J&D_anon 0]

[Autumnchik 6]

I don't have anything to add regarding legal / immigration issues, but I wanted to say this in response to those who criticized the poster's choice of words:

Everyone processes grief and loss in different ways. Often, after a loss, people may appear numb or emotionless. It is a coping mechanism and is NOT a reflection of whether they truly loved the person.

My heart goes out to the poster for her loss.