Wanting to go back after K1 visa marriage, I don't want to live in US

[cornel.orlat 1]

I'm curious about how will the divorce process be, will the US citizen need to go to the court and start it or can I do it from Romania? What if she doesn't cooperate? Can there be a case for annulment? 

[NikLR 13,227]

When one person files for divorce it is inevitable.  Someone can only argue it so long but why don't you talk to HER about this.  If you want a divorce be a decent human being and do it sooner than later.  Dragging this out only gives her hope that you want to be with her.  

[cornel.orlat 1]

I have talked to her about this, few days after I came here, then a few weeks after, then after a month.. even right before the marriage. Seeing the person you love cry and blame you for not wanting to stay here is painfull, it's why I tried so much to make it work. She knows I'm not feeling good and well, it's christmas now, we'll have the talk soon, just wanted to be well informed. 

[Ontarkie 14,237]

Before you leave please talk to a counselor. You deeply care about your wife or you would have been gone by now. 

 

It took me 3 years to really feel like this was home. I also brought 4 kids with me sold my house, and gave up a decent job. I really had nothing to go back too. I worried left, right and center that I may have screwed up my kids lives bringing them here. 

 

I've been here 9 1/2 years now and some days I just want to pack up and go. I don't think that feeling will ever go away, but at least this does feel like home and I know it was a good move for my older kids. 

 

The panic that you left your mom all alone is normal. I had to leave my father days after he had a major stroke. I knew I couldn't get back home if anything further happened.

 

Christmas also makes homesickness worse, I can't remember if you started the AOS Process but if you need to get home fast you can get emergency AP if AOS has been started. Start AOS if you haven't and take a trip home and then see how you feel then. Give your marriage a chance with AP and a visit home. If you still feel the same way then you can honestly say you tried your best. 

Edited December 26, 2017 by Ontarkie

[little immigrant 801]

Can an LPR actually bring their parents? I know USC can but I'm not 100% sure about LPR. Maybe that's something to think about. If that's not possible then go home so your wife can move on with her life. 

[cornel.orlat 1]

Unfortunately my mother won't consider moving here, I don't blame her.

 

4 hours ago, Ontarkie said:

I've been here 9 1/2 years now and some days I just want to pack up and go. I don't think that feeling will ever go away, but at least this does feel like home and I know it was a good move for my older kids.

That's exactly what I fear, that I become accustomed because it's inevitable but then I'll always have that hole in my soul, it's something I only realized after I came here. 

I'll see how I feel the following days and go from there. She doesn't deserve abandonment but at the same time I need to do what's best for me.

 

[Chris Duffy 1,257]

2 hours ago, cornel.orlat said:

Unfortunately my mother won't consider moving here, I don't blame her.

 

That's exactly what I fear, that I become accustomed because it's inevitable but then I'll always have that hole in my soul, it's something I only realized after I came here. 

I'll see how I feel the following days and go from there. She doesn't deserve abandonment but at the same time I need to do what's best for me.

 

Good Point

 

Don't make a life choice and live with regret about it.  Yes, you must do what is best for you and you at the only one who knows that answer.  Don't ever just settle in life, you will look back and regret that choice

[Orangesapples 1,954]

5 hours ago, cornel.orlat said:

Unfortunately my mother won't consider moving here, I don't blame her.

 

That's exactly what I fear, that I become accustomed because it's inevitable but then I'll always have that hole in my soul, it's something I only realized after I came here. 

I'll see how I feel the following days and go from there. She doesn't deserve abandonment but at the same time I need to do what's best for me.

 

Would she move to your country with you? 

[cornel.orlat 1]

I just talked to her about it, needless to say she's mad, she says how I don't love her because I don't want to be with her and I only care about going home. She doesn't want to move, has 2 grown sons, over 20 years and she doesn't want to leave them, I knew this from a long time ago.

 

She only said how I should buy my ticket as soon as possible, she doesn't care just wants me gone. I didn't even bring up any divorce subject because it's too delicate. She wanted to be alone.

[caliliving 606]

8 hours ago, cornel.orlat said:

I just talked to her about it, needless to say she's mad, she says how I don't love her because I don't want to be with her and I only care about going home. She doesn't want to move, has 2 grown sons, over 20 years and she doesn't want to leave them, I knew this from a long time ago.

 

She only said how I should buy my ticket as soon as possible, she doesn't care just wants me gone. I didn't even bring up any divorce subject because it's too delicate. She wanted to be alone.

Well she loves you and I'm sure alot has to do with the fact she brought Y iu here...just remember once you leave you can't fix or repair this...but if you do feel this strongly you probably are just not that into her? Lol does she have a decent job? America is expensive and if you couldhave a better life back home why not go? Why stay here any longer if your mind is made up 

[Chris Duffy 1,257]

16 hours ago, cornel.orlat said:

I just talked to her about it, needless to say she's mad, she says how I don't love her because I don't want to be with her and I only care about going home. She doesn't want to move, has 2 grown sons, over 20 years and she doesn't want to leave them, I knew this from a long time ago.

 

She only said how I should buy my ticket as soon as possible, she doesn't care just wants me gone. I didn't even bring up any divorce subject because it's too delicate. She wanted to be alone.

You stated you were living with her parents at one time, now you state she has grown kids.  

 

Did she use you as a future meal ticket?

Edited December 27, 2017 by Chris Duffy

[gregcrs2 1,778]

15 minutes ago, Chris Duffy said:

You stated you were living with her parents at one time, now you state she has grown kids.  

 

Did she use you as a future meal ticket?

He's from Romania.  Wages there are very low so I seriously doubt he was a meal ticket for her.

[Chris Duffy 1,257]

9 minutes ago, gregcrs2 said:

He's from Romania.  Wages there are very low so I seriously doubt he was a meal ticket for her.

Meal Tickets as in bringing him here to the USA and putting him to work

[cornel.orlat 1]

She's not that kind of a person, she's not materialistic. She was just saving money while waiting for me to come.

I just miss my home and I'm not confortable here. 

 

We wre at the court house but noone was helpful there, she read the documentation and saw that the case gets looked at at least after 90 days of petition. She was too upset and I said we should go home. 

 

I don't even know how to handle this and I can't leave until smething's in the works.

[Lemonslice 4,860]

39 minutes ago, cornel.orlat said:

She's not that kind of a person, she's not materialistic. She was just saving money while waiting for me to come.

I just miss my home and I'm not confortable here. 

 

We wre at the court house but noone was helpful there, she read the documentation and saw that the case gets looked at at least after 90 days of petition. She was too upset and I said we should go home. 

 

I don't even know how to handle this and I can't leave until smething's in the works.

You can leave when you want and initiate divorce from your home country, if you wish to do so.