Venezuelan WIfe

[RO_AH 1,659]

2 hours ago, Scott Rusticus said:

I am definitely not going to lie. Yes am going to suggest to her that we do the K1 route because we want to be together as quickly as possible. The additional money is not an issue, nor is her having to wait to work. 

You are also forgetting the impact on her coming to a new place with no friends or family and basically feeling like a prisoner every day while you go out and work. That alone breaks up a lot of young marriages. You read these stories all the time on these forums.

[JFH 12,190]

5 hours ago, Scott Rusticus said:

I am definitely not going to lie. Yes am going to suggest to her that we do the K1 route because we want to be together as quickly as possible. The additional money is not an issue, nor is her having to wait to work. 

Going to work is more than just making money. It's about making friends, finding her feet, settling in. I'd have gone stir crazy if I hadn't been able to work for months. What will she do all day in a country where she has never been before and knows no one? It's great if you live in midtown Manhattan and are coukd step out the foot and be in galleries, museums, coffee shops, a library, etc in minutes. But if you live anywhere less connected then she'll be very isolated. Especially if she isn't allowed to drive. I also would have hated to feel dependent on my husband for everything - having to ask him for money every time I wanted some gum, needed tampons, or a bother of water, or some shampoo or Kleenex would have been the end of me. 

[Orangesapples 1,954]

39 minutes ago, JFH said:

Going to work is more than just making money. It's about making friends, finding her feet, settling in. I'd have gone stir crazy if I hadn't been able to work for months. What will she do all day in a country where she has never been before and knows no one? It's great if you live in midtown Manhattan and are coukd step out the foot and be in galleries, museums, coffee shops, a library, etc in minutes. But if you live anywhere less connected then she'll be very isolated. Especially if she isn't allowed to drive. I also would have hated to feel dependent on my husband for everything - having to ask him for money every time I wanted some gum, needed tampons, or a bother of water, or some shampoo or Kleenex would have been the end of me. 

While it's true that social isolation is really hard and I wish I could work from the beginning, I don't completely understand the money part. My husband made me an authorized user on his card in my first week here, added me to his Amazon account and has repeatedly told me I don't need to ever ask him about small expenses. We discuss bigger purchases, 

of course. I don't feel like I depend on him, I feel like we're a team. It also helps that I'm very frugal and don't like wasting money. 

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

  You posted in a group that is monitored by immigration that you are planning to marry and that you may file a K1 after marrying for speeds sake.  You may find yourself in AP  after your interview if you file  a K1 . 

[NYCruiser 423]

9 hours ago, Scott Rusticus said:

What if I get married there but do not say I am married when I apply?  How would they know if the marriage is in Aruba? We have not yet met. We have talked for a long time but this will be our first face to face due to the current situation in Venezuela and my and her inability to get a tourist visa.

You haven't yet and you are already planning marriage? Is that not risky? You may not get along etc....

Plus what you are wanting to do is fraud and lying to USCIS will mean an automatic ban on your proposed fiance/wife,,,,

[CEE53147 559]

13 hours ago, Scott Rusticus said:

What if I get married there but do not say I am married when I apply?  How would they know if the marriage is in Aruba? We have not yet met. We have talked for a long time but this will be our first face to face due to the current situation in Venezuela and my and her inability to get a tourist visa.

 

Good grief!  You have never met yet are planning to marry.  You need to spend a lot of time over in the other sections of the forum for a reality check. Immigration to the US is a privilege for both the immigrant and the sponsor. It was not promised to be either easy or fast.  If it is true love, it will survive the time it takes. If not, the delays will benefit both parties. During the delay, you need to get some serious counseling to determine if you are doing the right thing. Marriage in today's world is difficult (advice from someone married for 48 years); breaking up is even harder (watching son try to recover after breaking up with GF of 12 years who he planned to marry once he had a stable job). Be sure you are doing the right thing because it could cost a lot both emotionally and financially.

 

And do not even think about lying about your marital status to US immigration.  Meet more than once over several years and when you and she are sure it is "right", file for the visa that fits the situation at that time.

 

If you go through with a quick marriage, be sure you protect yourself with prenups and a sound financial plan. 

[Boiler 45,516]

Very common on VJ for people who have never met to investigate their immigration options.

 

She is probably quite desperate to get out of Venezuela.

 

(GF waiting for a 12 years for a guy to get stable job? Probably not going to happen.)

 

 

[Christy&J 837]

13 hours ago, Scott Rusticus said:

What if I get married there but do not say I am married when I apply?  How would they know if the marriage is in Aruba? We have not yet met. We have talked for a long time but this will be our first face to face due to the current situation in Venezuela and my and her inability to get a tourist visa.

Good God ! you haven't met yet ?!

 

my 2 cents ! take your time and go there visit her and get know her in person ( talking online is different) Then apply K1 or CR1. don't rush a marriage. Marriage is not thing that you do just like go to store and decide to buy a big box of chocolate and if you don't like it/or had enough with it  you can trash it or give it to someone else. Marriage is a commitment and hopefully a lifetime commitment.

 

 

 

 

[Scott Rusticus 12]

What are is AP?

[JFH 12,190]

8 hours ago, Orangesapples said:

While it's true that social isolation is really hard and I wish I could work from the beginning, I don't completely understand the money part. My husband made me an authorized user on his card in my first week here, added me to his Amazon account and has repeatedly told me I don't need to ever ask him about small expenses. We discuss bigger purchases, 

of course. I don't feel like I depend on him, I feel like we're a team. It also helps that I'm very frugal and don't like wasting money. 

Depends on how independent you've always been. In the U.K. I worked, owned a house and everything in it. If you see that you are a team, don't you feel that you should contribute to the income, not just the spending? My husband would never not buy me anything I needed but it's just uncomfortable to me to not contribute to the expenses. 

[Orangesapples 1,954]

30 minutes ago, JFH said:

Depends on how independent you've always been. In the U.K. I worked, owned a house and everything in it. If you see that you are a team, don't you feel that you should contribute to the income, not just the spending? My husband would never not buy me anything I needed but it's just uncomfortable to me to not contribute to the expenses. 

Being a team doesn't have to mean equal financial contribution all the time. 

[AshMarty 360]

2 hours ago, JFH said:

Depends on how independent you've always been. In the U.K. I worked, owned a house and everything in it. If you see that you are a team, don't you feel that you should contribute to the income, not just the spending? My husband would never not buy me anything I needed but it's just uncomfortable to me to not contribute to the expenses. 

 

2 hours ago, Orangesapples said:

Being a team doesn't have to mean equal financial contribution all the time. 

As a women who is in her 30s, has been independent, bought a house on her own, and has a career; my mother had to remind me of this during the immigration process:

 

The goal is to have a supportive spouse, which means, the financial support may shift over the years depending on the situation you and your spouse are in (job loss, health, children, or in our situation immigration) but being a team means you tackle it together.

 

Edited December 21, 2017 by AshMarty

[payxibka 10,045]

4 hours ago, Scott Rusticus said:

What are is AP?

Administrative Processing.  Means the visa was not approvable at the time of the interview and they need more time to investigate.  AP can take from days to years to resolve.  Sometimes the result is a denial

[Russ&Caro 1,549]

FYI, there is an immigration ban that is in effect for Venezuela and 7 other countries. But in the case of Venezuela, it only effects some of the people who work for the government and the ruling administration. If your fiancee works for the government you'll want to make sure she is still okay to immigrate.

 

I can see the bind that you're in.

1. You haven't met yet so you can't submit a k1 app yet.

2. You've been denied a travel visa to Venezuela, so marriage there with her family present is impossible.

3. Once you're in Aruba together you will have met. If you marry you can file cr1 and wait 13 months, or not marry and file a k1 and wait perhaps 7 to 8 months.

4. Things continue to deteriorate in Venezuela.

 

Wish you the best of luck in whatever decisions you make.

[Etamkoos 100]

AP is most commonly used as an acronym for Advance Parole.

 

AP is a reentry permit that allows the applicant to travel internationally and return to the US within its validity period.  It is highly recommended to apply for this while adjusting status in the US. If you do not have AP and leave the US for any reason while adjusting status your application is considered abandoned.

 

AP is obtained by submitting an I-131 Application for Travel Document and can be filed alongside the I-485 Application to Register Permanent Residence or Adjust Status (or thereafter) at no additional fee.

 

This would only be applicable for the K1 route in your situation, OP.  It is not necessary when filing for a CR1/IR1, as there is need to adjust status.

 

AP is currently taking around 4 months after the application from being accepted to successfully approved by USCIS.