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DEAR ABBY: I have been happily married for nearly three years. My husband is fine except for one problem: He has a very tiny male organ. It does not bother me, but he constantly apologizes to me about it. He's so self-conscious that he doesn't like for me to see him undressed.

I'm an old-fashioned girl. I saved myself for marriage. Before I met my husband I did some heavy petting with a couple of former boyfriends, but that was all. When he and I dated, I knew he was not as well-endowed as my former boyfriends, but I accepted it.

Now he has started saying he thinks I should have an affair with someone "properly endowed" so I won't feel cheated. He says he wants me to experience satisfaction in a way he knows he can't provide me.

Abby, I don't want this. I can't understand why he's asking me to do such a thing. He keeps harping on it. At first, I was shocked. Now I must admit, he has me wondering if I really am missing something. Should I do it to pacify him and satisfy my own curiosity? I can't bring myself to go against my upbringing and commit adultery.

Please advise me. I'm frustrated about this entire situation. -- NO BIG THING?

DEAR "NO": If you do what your husband is suggesting, he will never forgive you, and it will spell the end of your marriage. He is only testing you; don't go for it.

Your husband's insecurity has gotten the best of his reasoning, and he's overdue for a frank talk with his doctor about what it takes to provide satisfaction for his wife.

While he's at it, he should ask for a referral to a specialist who can help him overcome his irrational insecurity. If he refuses to go, I urge you to go without him. It could save your marriage -- which at this point is in big trouble.

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That guy's a dumbass. If he's hat worried about it, he should just buy her a toy.

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That guy's a dumbass. If he's hat worried about it, he should just buy her a toy.
he's overdue for a frank talk with his doctor about what it takes to provide satisfaction for his wife.

Your absence runs through me like a needle

Everything I do

Is stitched with your color

Married in 2005

I-130

2/6 NOA1

5/11 touch

5-10 Approval for both 129F and I-130

129F

2/14 applied

3/01 NOA1

5/1-11 a few touches

5-10 Approval for both 129F and I-130

5-21 sent to NVC

5-22 129F recieved @ NVC

5-29 forwarded to Embassy

6-12 interview date set (discovered, rather) ... (still no NOA2)

6-22 email notification of NAO2 for I-130

6-27 email notification of NOA2 for 129F

7-15 Medical appointment - Docs say she has pneumonia and want to run 2 months + $2K USD of tests.

7-19 interview

7-20 informed that she has cleared medical. Documents not yet forwarded to Embassy, they will not release them to her, saying they must deliver the documents themselves. (Not true. many people had their medical papers @ the interview)

7-21 Missed flight

7-25 Docs recieved by embassy, visa all ready to go

7-27 Visa revieved

7-28 ARRIVED IN USA!! :D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D

...

waiting for AOS NOA

9-28 5 page RFE sent :(

10-7 RFE recieved

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That guy's a dumbass. If he's hat worried about it, he should just buy her a toy.

i was thinking the same thing. He should go to the local "toy store" and get the biggest meanest you-know-what!

BTW: I am always amused by the words "heavy petting" What a horrible way to say what you mean. lol

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He could try one of those "perk-up-a-peter" drugs. The commercials about male enhancement are on everyday.

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too bad he didnt work in that pizza place, he could have swiped that one :lol: .....yeah that was sick, i'm sorry.

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He could try one of those "perk-up-a-peter" drugs. The commercials about male enhancement are on everyday.

lol, yeah... or he could stuff an oscar meyer into a condom before putting it on, that should give him a good 5 inch gain.

I was going to suggest maybe the guy going out and buying himself a strap-on and wearing it. He could have any size or color he wants. I'm thinking may he should wait for Rosie O'Donnell's garage sale blowout. There should be one fairly soon :lol:

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So get a ####### for crying out loud. Sheesh.

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hmm..sound like he is hung like a hamster..

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So get a ####### for crying out loud. Sheesh.

I know a married couple who #### other people on occasion. Both of them think it's ok;

they love each other and have been together for 10 years now.

I would probably be open to sharing if my wife was. I never really understood the

concept of "jealousy", I believe it's a Judeo-Christian thing.

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So get a ####### for crying out loud. Sheesh.

I know a married couple who #### other people on occasion. Both of them think it's ok;

they love each other and have been together for 10 years now.

I would probably be open to sharing if my wife was. I never really understood the

concept of "jealousy", I believe it's a Judeo-Christian thing.

How does your wife feel about your opinion?

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