update on age differance & collaboration.

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

22 minutes ago, adil-rafa said:

 

they are really not suppose to mention age as it violates the USC constitutional rights and they do know that in US people like Larry King married a woman 26 years younger

but they use other reasons

 

They can and do mention age differences.  I don't know what you are aware of when it comes to constitutional rights, but immigration is not covered.  I think you are perhaps thinking of certain other scenarios.  Age discrimination in employment is even pretty shaky legally speaking.    I'm not sure we should base our immigration policies on Larry King or his needs for a woman who could be his daughter's age.  

[Jeanne Adil 1,651]

I know some embassies use it but every branch of the government is covered by our rights

that is how many have fought and won a visa

it is discrimation and age, sex and religion can not be a factor

when it is used,  it can be fought

[mytruelove18 608]

Just now, adil-rafa said:

Don't be surprised if your case is returned to the US

some embassies ask about age

some have actually been laughed at as happened inTunisia for one member

they are really not suppose to mention age as it violates the USC constitutional rights and they do know that in US people like Larry King married a woman 26 years younger

but they use other reasons

you can fight the age difference if it comes up as we have the big ae differnce and he is here ready for naturalization

good luck to you

my case isnt going to be return to usa, yesterday my status change on ceac and soon they will change to issue.

my case is under ap for some court papers.

i know that some country they are more concer bour age diference but no all country.

[NewBeginnings1 10]

I don't know your faith or what you refer to to ground yourself. However, the advice I can give is to take your time and get to know this woman. Spend time with her family as they will become yours. Really focus and self-check yourself and not just reassure yourself based on words. She may love you and be excited about building a life in America. However, many Jamaican only know what they see on TV or what they have been told about America. Once they get here, they quickly see how they lived in paradise and Americans work harder, play less, and have many expenses.

 

I'm not saying there aren't true love stories, but I can say there are lots of deceivers out there. You meet, get hypnotized by the charm and what seems humble and sincere demeanor, and then after all is done you realized it was  just a veil. What is meant to be will be and you must be patient. Sometimes what is perceived as a roadblock could be a devine intervention.

 

While you wait, continue to build your future. A congressional inquiry only helps if your congress person is for immigration. It is expensive migrating someone and also time consuming. This country is huge in comparison and completely different than Jamaican culture. Remember many Jamaican's never have left the island that is about is big as Connecticut and Rhode Island combined. Jamaica is not America and the immigration process is not the greatest challenge about marrying someone who is from abroad. Marriage is serious and we as Americans tend not jump in and jump out of marriage. K1s need to be reformed to allot more time so couples can have more time to discern and get to know each other as well as adjust to a new life. 

 

Subscribe to the "Adjustment of Status" or "Removal of Conditions" forums to gauge the challenges further along the process. Many will arrive to this country, realize it isn't a dream land they perceived it to be, and accept they have to work just as hard as they did back home to survive. You will see some posts where the financial arguments start, then the cheating, then the violence. I've been seeing these types of post for the past four years.

 

Just be still, seek your peace, and trust that if she and you are meant to be things will fall into place.

 

Good luck!

Edited December 15, 2017 by NewBeginnings1

[neilsqueen 433]

There is a 14 year age difference between my husband and myself, however, I visited him many times in Jamaica.  I agree with others that you really need to do more visiting to really get to know your fiancee.  Have you met her family? Did you mingle in her home or families homes and not just at a resort/hotel when you have visited?  I wish you much happiness but please make sure you aren't looking through rose colored glasses.

[bostonBruce 38]

On ‎12‎/‎14‎/‎2017 at 12:59 PM, adil-rafa said:

Don't be surprised if your case is returned to the US

some embassies ask about age

some have actually been laughed at as happened inTunisia for one member

they are really not suppose to mention age as it violates the USC constitutional rights and they do know that in US people like Larry King married a woman 26 years younger

but they use other reasons

you can fight the age difference if it comes up as we have the big ae differnce and he is here ready for naturalization

good luck to you

thank u yes i think we will b fine its real relationship...yes the lady at embassy did mention age like I said..im planning on going back in january

[angelbrown 195]

8 hours ago, bostonBruce said:

thank u yes i think we will b fine its real relationship...yes the lady at embassy did mention age like I said..im planning on going back in january

And try not to get caught up on the age factor. The CO may have asked abt the difference but it could’ve been to confirm or deny suspicions she had based on the other evidence submitted and/or questions asked. They can’t deny you based on age. You can’t be emotional going through this process, as you stated your fiancé cried out during the interview. Don’t know if you mean literally cried or not. As lionessdeon pointed out you and your fiancé have to be confident and mostly importantly know each other. Focus on that SOLID evidence that will prove them wrong. 

[Jeanne Adil 1,651]

On 12/14/2017 at 1:25 PM, N-o-l-a said:

 

They can and do mention age differences.  I don't know what you are aware of when it comes to constitutional rights, but immigration is not covered.  I think you are perhaps thinking of certain other scenarios.  Age discrimination in employment is even pretty shaky legally speaking.    I'm not sure we should base our immigration policies on Larry King or his needs for a woman who could be his daughter's age.  

sorry but my constitutional rights were the way i won my appeal 

we are covered everywhere in US and an embassy is US territory

also fought another denial for VJ member with same issues

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

27 minutes ago, adil-rafa said:

sorry but my constitutional rights were the way i won my appeal 

we are covered everywhere in US and an embassy is US territory

also fought another denial for VJ member with same issues

 

Yeah, I'd love to see the details on that sometime because there simply isn't a constitutional right to what you are describing.

Edited January 4, 2018 by N-o-l-a

[Boiler 45,486]

1 minute ago, N-o-l-a said:

 

Yeah, I'd love to see the details on that sometime because there simply isn't a constitutional right to what you are describing.

May mean something slightly different?

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

15 minutes ago, Boiler said:

May mean something slightly different?

 

I'd be interested to see what arguments a lawyer made because I have a feeling that (legal) literacy is not high in this scenario.

[angelbrown 195]

@bostonBruce Goid luck on your interview!!🙏🏽

[Paul & Marina 53]

On 12/15/2017 at 10:29 PM, NewBeginnings1 said:

I don't know your faith or what you refer to to ground yourself. However, the advice I can give is to take your time and get to know this woman. Spend time with her family as they will become yours. Really focus and self-check yourself and not just reassure yourself based on words. She may love you and be excited about building a life in America. However, many Jamaican only know what they see on TV or what they have been told about America. Once they get here, they quickly see how they lived in paradise and Americans work harder, play less, and have many expenses.

 

I'm not saying there aren't true love stories, but I can say there are lots of deceivers out there. You meet, get hypnotized by the charm and what seems humble and sincere demeanor, and then after all is done you realized it was  just a veil. What is meant to be will be and you must be patient. Sometimes what is perceived as a roadblock could be a devine intervention.

 

While you wait, continue to build your future. A congressional inquiry only helps if your congress person is for immigration. It is expensive migrating someone and also time consuming. This country is huge in comparison and completely different than Jamaican culture. Remember many Jamaican's never have left the island that is about is big as Connecticut and Rhode Island combined. Jamaica is not America and the immigration process is not the greatest challenge about marrying someone who is from abroad. Marriage is serious and we as Americans tend not jump in and jump out of marriage. K1s need to be reformed to allot more time so couples can have more time to discern and get to know each other as well as adjust to a new life. 

 

Subscribe to the "Adjustment of Status" or "Removal of Conditions" forums to gauge the challenges further along the process. Many will arrive to this country, realize it isn't a dream land they perceived it to be, and accept they have to work just as hard as they did back home to survive. You will see some posts where the financial arguments start, then the cheating, then the violence. I've been seeing these types of post for the past four years.

 

Just be still, seek your peace, and trust that if she and you are meant to be things will fall into place.

 

Good luck!

Look at all the relationship in the US to US citizens, many breakup,  fall out of love, and many get divorced like in many countries. How many folks talk about getting divorce decree or I thought I only needed to disclose my last marriage. We have all looked "through the veil". I haven't met (although there might be) or know anybody the married someone with the intent or desire to divorce them. NewBeginnings1 I would say was to take a relationship slow, let it grow and develop, and perhaps over time you will have a much clearer picture.

 

I wish for the both of you a happy life,

[bostonBruce 38]

we have an interview together Jan 26 they still want to meet even tho I sent them more text messages of us all year. I will let u all know what they asked and how it went.

[LionessDeon 2,060]

2 hours ago, bostonBruce said:

we have an interview together Jan 26 they still want to meet even tho I sent them more text messages of us all year. I will let u all know what they asked and how it went.

Be prepared for a stokes interview.  You can use the advanced search tool to read other threads posted on this subject.  They may separate you, ask the same questions to both, and see how your answers match up.  Questions range from what you ate for breakfast, where did you sleep, to family history, etc.  A member dealing with the JA embassy who has experience with this is @lala64

 

 

Edited January 15, 2018 by LionessDeon