Cancel AOS while married?

[DaveCi 0]

Hi everyone, I am in trouble and need some advice. My wife has gone crazy and is threatening me financially and otherwise. I want to cancel the AOS as soon as I possibly can but I also want to keep her from knowing if possible. I have tried everything to make this work, and to even divorce her and make sure she is taken care of, but she just threatens me more. Can I send a letter to cancel the AOS before we are divorced? Does anyone have an example letter? Please don't say I should try to make it work with her, she has slapped me, palm punched me, spit in my face etc. She is paranoid and has to have her way and her money or she flips a switch and goes completely psycho. I have my little boy to worry about and I can't have this in my life or his. Any other options or advice are greatly appreciated, thanks.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

  First you need a restraining order , protect your child before anything else

 

  You can pull your affidavit of support via letter ( send it with a receipt required )   which kills the underlying AOS. 

 

Beware she will probably call the cops and try a VAWA petition.

[John & Rose 7,239]

27 minutes ago, NigeriaorBust said:

Beware she will probably call the cops and try a VAWA petition.

It seems like he should count on that!  @DaveCi, document EVERYTHING!!!!  I mean EVERYTHING.  Dates, times, actions.  She will claim you are abusing her and she will get to stay here on a VAWA petition.  Those are difficult to fight (he said, she said...)  Make sure you have a lot of evidence of what she is doing.  Pull the Affidavit of Support but only do that after speaking with an attorney.  She can try to take you for everything you have.  

 

Please be careful and protect your son.

[DaveCi 0]

Thank you both very much. If I file a restraining order where is she going to live? She once said she will go home if I divorce her and buy her a ticket home, do you think that's worth a try? What if I buy the ticket and she decides not to get on the plane, and then later complains to USCIS that she wants to go home and tries to make me buy another ticket?

[NoProblem 69]

Did you do a prenup?

 

Is she on your lease or if you own a home, a co-owner?

If not then it may be about getting a restraining and eviction order.  There is no guarantee she will board the plane and you will lose that ticket or even leave your home.

I own rentals and know that even if someone gets into my rental without a lease it can take a long time to get the person out.

 

You can also get her into long term apartment with weekly or daily lease to protect your son and then pay for it for a few weeks with a ticket in her hand.  Once the time has run out, she will either have to leave or find other means to support herself.  

Its a difficult situation for you financially and emotionally.  

You may consult a lawyer to be on safe side.

 

Good luck.

Edited December 8, 2017 by NoProblem

[Unlockable 7,315]

3 hours ago, DaveCi said:

Thank you both very much. If I file a restraining order where is she going to live? She once said she will go home if I divorce her and buy her a ticket home, do you think that's worth a try? What if I buy the ticket and she decides not to get on the plane, and then later complains to USCIS that she wants to go home and tries to make me buy another ticket?

Seen it all before.

 

TBH, there is no guarantee of anything. And the VAWA method is VERY MUCH AN REAL and trust us it can get very bad for you really quick if she were to go that route. Even if she is the instigator, one call to the police and your life will change. We have literally seen men lose their house over false claims of abuse all so the immigrant can have a case for VAWA.

 

We have seen the spouse claim they will leave the country at will only to move in with another lover or a relative.

 

If you 100% sure it is over you need to protect yourself at all cost. You ask where is she going to live. If she claims abuse so she can have a VAWA case against you, where are YOU going to live?

 

She has already threatened you. Why are you taking it lightly?

Edited December 8, 2017 by NuestraUnion

[noraliz73 243]

I can't give any advice or pretend I understand the situation.  I am just giving you love and support for you and your son.  I hope you guys get to stay together and your family doesn't suffer too much.  I hope everything works out!  May god bless you!