I-129F June, Part II

[Kari & Atti 411]

32 minutes ago, dulxecita said:

Whatever your issue is... May God bring peace and clarity... God bless you both!

We spoke briefly today via FaceTime. My birthday is this Sunday and my friends took me out for dinner. Plus time difference and work. I have also taken time to digest because I don’t want to speak out of anger or any negative emotions I might be feeling at the moment. I really hope I can make a good decision, I just don’t know what that is right now 😭

[Cabovercat 179]

Yah I get that. That's a tough situation to be in especially once you guys got serious about the relationship....I can't begin to know your details but I'm certainly hoping for you guy to pull through!

 

[Perfect two 💑 1,147]

2 minutes ago, Kari & Atti said:

 

It’s not a shame to be deported. I think he felt it was. I come from a family of immigrants some even illegal immigrants I know first hand what it is. I’m not judging him for that though, my issue is the fact he “forgot” to share that difficult situation with me and the effect it would have on our plans. 

Have you asked him about that before? Maybe he feels like it is not something material/important to tell you about it. Whatever it is, you have my prayers and good energy.

[Kari & Atti 411]

1 minute ago, P&R2017 said:

Did he ever visit you in the US? 

Because as far as I know, once you get deported for over staying you'll be banned for 10 years... but in this case of false documents... I don't know...

 

Just let cool down for few days, don't make decisions with a sad hart... 

No he hasn’t visited me here. I have traveled to Europe instead. His work didn’t permit him from leaving until now that is somewhat free from those obligations. That was apparently 28 years ago and 18 years. I think we might have a chance to appeal if we tried. But at this point that is not a conversation we are contemplating because we have “trust” issues to deal with. It’s a difficult one for me as rational as I am trying to be. 

[P&R2017 409]

Just now, Kari & Atti said:

No he hasn’t visited me here. I have traveled to Europe instead. His work didn’t permit him from leaving until now that is somewhat free from those obligations. That was apparently 28 years ago and 18 years. I think we might have a chance to appeal if we tried. But at this point that is not a conversation we are contemplating because we have “trust” issues to deal with. It’s a difficult one for me as rational as I am trying to be. 

I understand, Good luck and I really hope things work well on your both behalf...

[Kari & Atti 411]

3 minutes ago, Perfect two 💑 said:

Have you asked him about that before? Maybe he feels like it is not something material/important to tell you about it. Whatever it is, you have my prayers and good energy.

That’s is exactly what he said! We never spoke in deep detail about his visits here. Based on what he is telling me now he was embarrassed that it happened to him and was told that he would be able to return 6 years after with no problem. He said he never tried though because it left a bad taste for him. He is very chill and doesn’t dwell on negative events, that’s his overall personality and how he deals with things in general. So it’s not out of character for him to do something like that. I just feel he should have known better than that and told me about this event. Am I being too difficult?

[Kari & Atti 411]

9 minutes ago, Cabovercat said:

Yah I get that. That's a tough situation to be in especially once you guys got serious about the relationship....I can't begin to know your details but I'm certainly hoping for you guy to pull through!

 

I agree! I’m just in a rut right now. 

[KBA 542]

7 minutes ago, Kari & Atti said:

That’s is exactly what he said! We never spoke in deep detail about his visits here. Based on what he is telling me now he was embarrassed that it happened to him and was told that he would be able to return 6 years after with no problem. He said he never tried though because it left a bad taste for him. He is very chill and doesn’t dwell on negative events, that’s his overall personality and how he deals with things in general. So it’s not out of character for him to do something like that. I just feel he should have known better than that and told me about this event. Am I being too difficult?

I’m sorry you’re going through this! So they told you about the deportation, but did they say how it is impacting your application? Did they say it was denied? Good luck, and I always tell myself to trust my gut and what it tells me is the right thing 

[Perfect two 💑 1,147]

2 minutes ago, Kari & Atti said:

That’s is exactly what he said! We never spoke in deep detail about his visits here. Based on what he is telling me now he was embarrassed that it happened to him and was told that he would be able to return 6 years after with no problem. He said he never tried though because it left a bad taste for him. He is very chill and doesn’t dwell on negative events, that’s his overall personality and how he deals with things in general. So it’s not out of character for him to do something like that. I just feel he should have known better than that and told me about this event. Am I being too difficult?

You are not being too difficult. You just react based on how you feel. On your previous reply, you did mention that you come from a family of immigrant and some even illegal immigrant. I believe that you know how he feels more than I do. It is not like he's committed a crime (just my opinion) since he's so young that time and for me, he has been tricked. But yes, it is still his mistake to not let you know about it much earlier. My fiance and I, we did have a talk about this before. We were asking each other "Is there anything you should let me know that will affect our journey later on". So I told him everything he should know about me even some of it is a bit difficult for me to tell him at the beginning. And he told me everything that I should know about him. So we make it clear that we do not have a secret between us.

[Kari & Atti 411]

5 minutes ago, KBA said:

I’m sorry you’re going through this! So they told you about the deportation, but did they say how it is impacting your application? Did they say it was denied? Good luck, and I always tell myself to trust my gut and what it tells me is the right thing 

They couldn’t share that. They didn’t tell me a decision was made they just said he had a deportation. The lady was kind and helpful and she said I could contact attorneys and so on. She did say to keep in mind that they (attorneys) could only do so much in this cases. And I walked out of there broken hearted. 

[Kari & Atti 411]

5 minutes ago, Perfect two 💑 said:

You are not being too difficult. You just react based on how you feel. On your previous reply, you did mention that you come from a family of immigrant and some even illegal immigrant. I believe that you know how he feels more than I do. It is not like he's committed a crime (just my opinion) since he's so young that time and for me, he has been tricked. But yes, it is still his mistake to not let you know about it much earlier. My fiance and I, we did have a talk about this before. We were asking each other "Is there anything you should let me know that will affect our journey later on". So I told him everything he should know about me even some of it is a bit difficult for me to tell him at the beginning. And he told me everything that I should know about him. So we make it clear that we do not have a secret between us.

Yes, I’m in absolute agreeemnt with you. I think that he, as bad as it might sound did not commit a crime (some might disagree with my opinion) but the issue for me is him not telling me because if makes me doubt and that is no good in any kind of relationship, especially one in which we commit to share our lives together. 

[Perfect two 💑 1,147]

16 minutes ago, Kari & Atti said:

Yes, I’m in absolute agreeemnt with you. I think that he, as bad as it might sound did not commit a crime (some might disagree with my opinion) but the issue for me is him not telling me because if makes me doubt and that is no good in any kind of relationship, especially one in which we commit to share our lives together. 

Do whatever you feel right for you. It is okay to doubt him. Totally understand how you feel right now. But, don't make a decision solely based on this situation (he didn't tell you about it). It is not fair to judge someone just based on one mistake that he/she make. You know him better than anyone here do. You know how he is through your relationship.  Whatever your decision is, my prayers always be with you and I will always be here for you if you want to share

P/s: One thing that I learned from my relationship. Don't make a decision while you are emotional (angry, feel betrayed, sad, upset). Afraid that when all that emotion is gone, you will regret making that decision. 

[Kween 167]

11 hours ago, Fchesca1 said:

are you June 26th too?

Yes i am and i cant wait...we are almost there 

[Ana Maria 265]

1 hour ago, Kari & Atti said:

Yes, I’m in absolute agreeemnt with you. I think that he, as bad as it might sound did not commit a crime (some might disagree with my opinion) but the issue for me is him not telling me because if makes me doubt and that is no good in any kind of relationship, especially one in which we commit to share our lives together. 

What about marry in a country you both can enter without a VISA?

Then k-3 petition to bring in your spouse?

Does it carry any more weight?

 

[ChuAni 1,191]

5 hours ago, vocaledge said:

Although for the record.... You very clearly responded to Johns comment about purgatory, which had nothing to do with your visa, nor to do with thanking God.  You called him simple minded for a comment that had nothing to do with you or your visa.  I may not be his biggest fan but have some goddamn respect, especially when you quote others in your posts.

I'm not a catholic and I sure as hell wasn't bullied.  Stop being foolish.

Ooh! I'm @John & Rose biggest fan and I'm a Catholic. I came late to the discussion and was about writing an Epistle, but saw the matter has already been settled.

Now, I go back to my Normal Mood!😶😷😎