221g embassy problems

[Mgwlkr 41]

27 minutes ago, Auds said:

I have been there in diff circumstances maybe but I know what you are saying - hats off to not sending him money - I did that sort of thing too.

 

you can't make him into what he is not.  (This is a msg to OP only).  You are intelligent enough to see religion for what it is like most people with high IQ.  Unfortunately we do have our need of companionship which again is a reality and how human make up is.  Not this one though it won't last.  Let it go.

Thank you for your kind words

[mytruelove18 608]

35 minutes ago, Mgwlkr said:

 yeah last time I tried to protect him by making it my fault we didnt Have photos.    Oh well still get attacked either way.   I dont care about vj tos. I have a right to say dont attack me.   If you dont have anything nice to say dont say anything at all. Isnt that what we teach our children?

I don't believe in god.  I believe religion is a crutch created by man to justify the things he doesn't understand

Ok you have the right to no belive in God, but about this man?, if i were you i would belive in God at this moment and no in this man.

Reading all you have written, i feel he is a scammer using you to get a green card and go back to his home country and get marry with his girlfriend that looks he loves her so much because he protected himself very well about no pictures with you, when you share with someone 3 months even one day you can take a picture even if you dont share that picture on facebook or other site.

Just for be polite during 3 months you can have a picture.

HERE THE CONSULAR OFFICER IS WATCHING SOMETHING THAT YOU DONT SEE: THIS MAN ISNT THE RIGHT FOR YOU.

BUT AS YOU ARE BLIND AND DONT WANT SEE WHAT OTHERS ARE WTACHING, SO GO TO HIS HOME COUNTRY TAKE PICTURES AND BRING THIS MAN TO USA, BUT GET PREPER WHEN HE RUNS FROM YOU.

do you trust this man after you found he had another girlfriend?

If you trust in him go and take pictures,

[Mgwlkr 41]

The embassy doesn't get to decide who is right for me. No pos co in Serbia is going to tell me how to live my life 

[mytruelove18 608]

4 minutes ago, Mgwlkr said:

The embassy doesn't get to decide who is right for me. No pos co in Serbia is going to tell me how to live my life 

So go to his home country maybe his girlfriend can help you to take pictures fron you both.

And sorry if i am hard.

But as embassy and  nobody is going to decide who is right or no for you, dont ask in a public forum.

Sorry for you, you dont want see he is using you, 

[javadown2 308]

1 hour ago, Mgwlkr said:

I'm lonely and set on having a partner.    But I'm certainly not desperate and he treats me like I am.   As statyed before.   I'm almost 37.  I dont have time to play games with him or wait on anyone.   Its nowor never.  Him or if need be someone else  (dont judge my need of companionship )

I can already tell you that this won't work if your just rushing it, if you really want to be with someone you will do WHATEVER it takes to be together. Sounds like you can't afford the process and exactly why can't you wait another year, who cares if you are 37, life goes on so slow down and try to just be patient. Most people don't research into the process of getting a visa and find out the hard way. 

But honestly after reading all that you've responded I think your heart isn't into this guy, just saying your ready to throw it all away....good luck with this. 

[cdneh 3,112]

12 minutes ago, Mgwlkr said:

The embassy doesn't get to decide who is right for me. No pos co in Serbia is going to tell me how to live my life 

Yes. They do. They get to decide who is admitted to the USA and who is not.

[Mgwlkr 41]

3 minutes ago, javadown2 said:

I can already tell you that this won't work if your just rushing it, if you really want to be with someone you will do WHATEVER it takes to be together. Sounds like you can't afford the process and exactly why can't you wait another year, who cares if you are 37, life goes on so slow down and try to just be patient. Most people don't research into the process of getting a visa and find out the hard way. 

But honestly after reading all that you've responded I think your heart isn't into this guy, just saying your ready to throw it all away....good luck with this. 

Thanks.   I knew the process long before I met him....ive spent 1.5yrs with him  waiting 

I can also afford what I choose to.  I won't piss away money on someone that won't do the same 

[cdneh 3,112]

Sounds like more of a relationship issue than an immigration issue. 

[javadown2 308]

Just now, Mgwlkr said:

Thanks.   I knew the process long before I met him....ive spent 1.5yrs with him  waiting 

I can also afford what I choose to.  I won't piss away money on someone that won't do the same 

I'm sure you already know the answer and are just venting, it does help to talk about it. Don't let negative comments get to you. This site's sole purpose is to get answers on Immigration/visa subjects. 

And your still giving yourself the answer you already know, don't put anymore effort into this relationship, step back and read what you are saying. I'm thinking they will close this post soon, you've got your answer now.

[javadown2 308]

2 minutes ago, cdneh said:

Sounds like more of a relationship issue than an immigration issue. 

Exactly what I'm thinking. She knows the answer but doesn't want to let it go. 

[Springrain22 427]

4 hours ago, Mgwlkr said:

Well it does sound harsh since you don't know our story and you are making general assumptions.    If either of us travel to get additional photos for the approval neither of us will be able yo afford the aos etc.

We have spent 3 months together in person.   That should be more than enough for an approval

 

I am seeking advice on how to escalate the issue 

 

I am VERY aware of the costs involved in the process and how marriage works.    I am however not willing to put my life on hold for another year and a half to wait for approval after marriage 

Proof of meeting.   Everything minus a photo together.  Very long story I will not publish here for fear of personal attacks 

Well, we don't need to know your story to tell you the truth about immigration process. There's a set of rules you MUST follow in order to immigrate to the country. If you don't like it, it's not our fault, it's yours.

 

If you're not able to travel to see each other during the process and also save up the amount of money for AOS, then I am afraid you won't be able to immigrate and support yourself. Time to get a better job, work better, make more money and try again. We all go through this process and the USCIS and NVC don't care about it. It's your problem, not their.

 

You may think that 3 months seeing each other is enough for approval, but you're not the person to approve it, only the CO has the right to determine whether you are elibible for this or  you are not.

 

Great that you know the costs of the process. If "you're not willing to put your life for another year to wait" then simply cancel the process and stop killing yourself. Sounds like you just can not afford it. Again, you are NOT the person who set rules here. US does set the rules for you. You can either follow them or simply stop immigrating.

 

If there is no photo of you together then it looks suspicious. Then I am even wondering what do you mean by "everything" if you even have no photo of you together. Very simple thing to have and you don't have it. It's weird.

[Springrain22 427]

4 hours ago, Mgwlkr said:

Concert tickets. Uber receipts.  Photos of us in the same place but not together which the co requested.    No traveling there with two kids isn't an option  and I wont leave them 

All this is not enough to be considered as a proof of relationship. Someone can easily fake the same thing. So you must present something better.

[Springrain22 427]

3 hours ago, Mgwlkr said:

He cant afford to travel to this continent.  We were just hanging out when he was here it wasn't serious and after he went home I found out he had a gf there wh8ch would explain why he didn't want to take pictures

Go ahead tell me I'm stupid for perusing this

Now he wants me to pay for him to travel so we can take photos

I refuse 

My point is the embassy is part of the us govt for us citizens correct?  So why aren't they working for me?

They will work for you but only if you follow their rules. Unless you prove everything you must, there's no way they help you with this. Just follow the rules.

[little immigrant 801]

1 hour ago, Mgwlkr said:

Thank you.  Trhat is exactly how I feel.  If I have to scrape and save that m7ch money at this point I will use it for myself and my kids.     He's a 25yr old able bodied educated man. He could have worked all this time.  It was bad enough I knew he wouldn't have much money when he got here for awhile but as time passed and he flat out refused to save what he had or go out and earn more a huge red flag.   He is harrising me non stop not to withdraw the petition.   I hate togive up something I've worked countless hours on but at the same time I can't imagine just leaving the case open (or the door for him to try and convince me I need him) for another year

It won't get better if you marry. You worked hours on it but imagine wasting YEARS in a marriage of no financial support, harassment and emotional blackmail. 

 

You can do better than that. And you deserve better. 

 

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

     Have you tried asking friends and families if they have any pictures of the two of you ?