Long distance is so damn hard

[NicolaBolton87 161]

Hey guys,

 

just venting a bit really and wanted to share with people who understand. My fiancé had been here in England with me for 2 weeks and today I took him to the airport and said goodbye. It’s so hard, so unbelievably hard to say goodbye. You’d think we’d all be used to it by now but god it never gets any easier.

 

We filed for our K1 in September so we’re still waiting, hoping for news in feb/March. This was his first trip to England, I’ve been out to the US a a few times to be with him. Now we wait for news in the new year and hope that the next time we are together is for good, no more goodbyes.

 

like I said, just venting to people who get it xxx

[Ontarkie 14,207]

The goodbyes are always the hardest. 

 

I'm probably the very odd one but I wasn't in a rush most of the time to move. Or struggled with the time apart. I had my kids my house and life to keep me busy. It seems the busier you are the easier it can be. 

 

Use this time to make sure you get nice and sick of all your family

Edited November 28, 2017 by Ontarkie

[Chris Duffy 1,257]

You are lucky, most countries can't come to the USA to see their loved one.

 

And now of day so many ways to communicate via electronics is so much easier. 

 

My relative dated a girl in Philippines about 20 years ago, only way to communicate was via letter and the mail.

[yuna628 9,667]

10 years apart for us, so the waiting on the paperwork, while a pain in the butt, was just a drop in the bucket by that point. The goodbyes are always the worst, for sure... and it took a toll and would rip us up inside for weeks afterward. But I tend to think of my great grandma who did things the really old fashioned way with her LDR... using letters and traveling via ships.. which must have been terribly difficult. That sort of gave me focus, even when it became really hard. And no... it never gets easier, but it will get better, I promise. Once the ball starts rolling, you'll be together before you know it and then it'll be the rush to cram all of your life into boxes and suitcases! While it can be difficult to think of this in not being with your fiancé, cherish the small moments you have in the UK by yourself. Take in everything and make a memory of it, because often after a time people do miss home and feel adrift in a strange new country for a little bit.

[slk1995 4]

Definitely feel your pain.  We can all empathize here. Fortunately, this online community exists for us going through this crazy process. That's an upside.  

 

You're not alone. Last time I saw my Australian fiance in person was June 26th this year; just learned we won't get a second Christmas in person this year like last. 

 

As said above, I feel like the pain of LDR's is totally surreal. You'll have your good days and your bad days. Some days, are a lot easier to accept the fact it is this way for now, but some other days, it's completely natural and okay to let yourself fall into the emotions for a bit and get it out of your system. Keep that contact with your partner up. I read a comment saying to keep yourself busy. It's definitely a true comment, and it really does make things easier to handle. Less time to become overwhelmed or sad. 

 

But after all, at the end of the day it simply becomes about fighting the good fight of immigration. If it's meant to be, IT. WILL. COME.  

 

And, before I submit this: my fiance's best friend once said, "If something you're trying to obtain isn't EASY to get, it probably means it will be worth it in the end." Worth it because, by accepting a challenge you become passionate about, you take on new life lessons, learn new things in general, and learn how to overcome a deep-seated obstacle. Hope this helps!