me and my overseas wife only skype once a week or once a month now is that ok?

[JRF 117]

People are especially judgmental - frequency of communication has no bearing on whether a couple stays married.  My grandfather was in theatre for three years during WW2, and he remained married to my grandmother until her death, despite the absence of anything more than an infrequent letter (they didn't Skype while he was transiting the Hump to Burma, and Whatsap was not an option).  I called my first wife daily or more when I travelled and, well, that marriage ended in divorce.

 

I've spent time in remote areas of Vietnam, and internet/mobile service can be very spotty and expensive.  OP, you go to your interview with what you have.  Fortunately, CO's won't expect you to be either 1) rich or 2) living in an area with fibre optic service.

 

Best of luck!

[Auds 223]

Really it won't affect your immigration.

 

it does sound very strange to us who talk several times a day despite worse issues than you mentioned.  Including internet issues.

 

Dont worry about inmigration too much they very rarely ask about frequency of calls.  She can always say you'll message in between.  

[JFH 12,190]

2 minutes ago, JRF said:

People are especially judgmental - frequency of communication has no bearing on whether a couple stays married.  My grandfather was in theatre for three years during WW2, and he remained married to my grandmother until her death, despite the absence of anything more than an infrequent letter (they didn't Skype while he was transiting the Hump to Burma, and Whatsap was not an option).  I called my first wife daily or more when I travelled and, well, that marriage ended in divorce.

 

I've spent time in remote areas of Vietnam, and internet/mobile service can be very spotty and expensive.  OP, you go to your interview with what you have.  Fortunately, CO's won't expect you to be either 1) rich or 2) living in an area with fibre optic service.

 

Best of luck!

Best answer of all on this thread.

 

Daily communication and video chatting is nice if you can get it, but not a requirement for this process or a successful marriage. People have successfully obtained visas with an incarcerated spouse or a spouse deployed in the middle of nowhere with the military where daily communication is often not possible. 

 

I lived in the U.K. with 100 Mbps internet speed in my place and we didn't spend hours every day talking before I moved here. We both worked, we had an 8-hour time difference and we were both busy. He worked weekends when I was off and I worked Tuesdays and Wednesdays when he was off work. I wasn't asked during the interview to provide any records of calls. I was asked how we communicate but no questions about the frequency or length. 

[bad4tatt 168]

Based on ALL of your posts on this forum it may appear that your relationship is not genuine but more so a business deal. That is just what it appears when I read it. I do not speak for anyone else on here. I'm looking at it as an outsider which is what an I/O is so, they could possibly come to the same conclusion. I would try real hard to get communication going with your spouse. Once a month is not good enough.

 

 

[cyclone27 710]

Just remember the Viet Embassy isn’t a pushover like other countries because of high fraud. Maybe the question will arise or maybe not.

 

However saying you only speak once a month in this day/age will seem odd especially after communicating so often before the marriage.

 

My point is you can easily remedy this now.

[DILAW 94]

3 hours ago, cyclone27 said:

You don’t need to talk about much of anything really. It’s more about hearing and seeing one another when so far apart.

 

As for speaking to my mum and dad that happens every couple of days.

I completely understand what you mean, but i am just telling you how i feel that after a while it gets old.  I think that's how life is, we get used to things

[gregcrs2 1,778]

1 hour ago, bad4tatt said:

Based on ALL of your posts on this forum it may appear that your relationship is not genuine but more so a business deal. That is just what it appears when I read it. I do not speak for anyone else on here. I'm looking at it as an outsider which is what an I/O is so, they could possibly come to the same conclusion. I would try real hard to get communication going with your spouse. Once a month is not good enough.

 

 

Well, you are NOT the I/O.  I/O are trained what to look for without judging based on their personal relationship beliefs.

[Noe&Estella 57]

I give you advice because she's the love of your life isn't she? You came here and ask for advice and not all are going to be what you want to hear. 

[Russ&Caro 1,549]

3 hours ago, JRF said:

People are especially judgmental - frequency of communication has no bearing on whether a couple stays married.  My grandfather was in theatre for three years during WW2, and he remained married to my grandmother until her death, despite the absence of anything more than an infrequent letter (they didn't Skype while he was transiting the Hump to Burma, and Whatsap was not an option).  I called my first wife daily or more when I travelled and, well, that marriage ended in divorce.

 

I've spent time in remote areas of Vietnam, and internet/mobile service can be very spotty and expensive.  OP, you go to your interview with what you have.  Fortunately, CO's won't expect you to be either 1) rich or 2) living in an area with fibre optic service.

 

Best of luck!

 

Exactly right, and coincidentally applies to my own parents who courted via weekly letters back and forth, having only met a few times over 2 years, then married, and then stayed married for 60 years.

 

 

17 minutes ago, Noe&Estella said:

I give you advice because she's the love of your life isn't she? You came here and ask for advice and not all are going to be what you want to hear. 

 

He asked for immigration advice, not counsel about his life or relationship. And this is an immigration forum. You should stick to giving immigration advice unless the OP asks for other kind of advice.

[cyclone27 710]

Not just relationship advice when you are dealing with tough embassies and consulates.

 

Side note: #1 cause of relationship issues is?  

[Eric-Pris 1,607]

48 minutes ago, Russ&Caro said:

Exactly right, and coincidentally applies to my own parents who courted via weekly letters back and forth, having only met a few times over 2 years, then married, and then stayed married for 60 years.

You're comparing marriage from mid-1900's to now?  Society/people have changed a little since then, if you haven't noticed.  Marriage used to be for life, people rarely divorced, even if they were unhappy, they stayed married for the family, kids, appearances, etc.

[Russ&Caro 1,549]

9 minutes ago, cyclone27 said:

Not just relationship advice when you are dealing with tough embassies and consulates.

 

Side note: #1 cause of relationship issues is?  

I think I know the answer to this one: communication!

 

But the thing is, quality of communication trumps quantity, every single time.

 

I knew my wife for 9 years before marrying her. 15 trips to Colombia for me, 1 trip to the USA for her, daily video chats... which all continued for another 1.5 years as we waited through immigration process. You know what it all added up to be? A huge quantity of communication with very little quality. Once she finally moved to the USA, our relationship danced on the edge of a razor for 1 year until we figured out how to improve the quality of communication.

[mallafri76 1,012]

Obviously communication is an important part of a bona fida relationship but there are different ways of communicating. So maybe you don’t Skype as often but instead you email, text, Facebook, WhatsApp etc. I wouldn’t get to focused on the talking part but just show US immigration how you stay in contact and maintain your relationship. 

[bad4tatt 168]

On ‎11‎/‎28‎/‎2017 at 8:00 AM, gregcrs2 said:

Well, you are NOT the I/O.  I/O are trained what to look for without judging based on their personal relationship beliefs.

Personal relationship beliefs??? One of the major red flags is he was asking how long after wife got her GC could apply for public benefits and how long he has to be responsible for her financially...    JS

[MattBo 2]

On 11/28/2017 at 3:18 AM, DeepInLove said:

We have a 12 hour difference, we both work, but we talk multiple times daily through, Whatsapp, Skype and Direct Phone. I am his morning alarm, I go through Teamviewer in his computer and wake him up everyday. We do exercise together. We order food together. He is always with me on Skype whatever I do . This is funny but even when he sleeps he has a habbit to just connect Skype and keep it connected. We have been in relationship for three years, and married one year. We do not connect very rarely only when we have a fight. That also cannot be longer than three four days.

For Op, Try to buy some calling cards and call her directly from your cellphone. I sometimes use Rebtel, when there is no internet. For what have already passed, When I was collecting proof, because I cannot give thousands and thousands of pages, I took randomly proof for only one day every month. You can do it too. Collect whatever communication you had with her. and submit or take to interview. take all the gifts you sent to her, give details of all the cash you sent, any type of financial mingling. hotel stays, activities together. Anything that you do for her would work.

Best Of Luck...... I am curious about the relationship though. Looks like not very connected.

You just described our relationship exactly! We wake each other up, eat together, leave the connection going while we sleep.... 💞