me and my overseas wife only skype once a week or once a month now is that ok?

[gregcrs2 1,778]

5 hours ago, zandtee said:

when we first met we would chat on fb almost daily.  After getting married and me returning to the us, we dont skype as often because of work and internet issues on her end.  We skype once or week or once every 2 weeks and sometimes even just once a month.  Will this make it harder for her? i've visited her 3x though and have over 1000 pictures.

Don't worry about it.  Just email to each other when you have time.  Skype is not mandatory.  We rarely skyped and only sent emails weekly.  We never submitted emails or Skype logs and had no problem getting approved.

[kris&me 572]

3 hours ago, zandtee said:

she's not from saigon.  She's from a rural village in hanoi.  We would skype more often but her internet would usually droop.  During a typical skype call id talk to her for like 5 minutes then it dropts.  We recall and same.  We still send fb messages as often as possible but sometimes she doesnt receive them until later.  

5 minutes a day shows you try to talke to her 

i did not say anything about where she lives as i don't know it

i am saying if you were about to talk daily before , you can not say "not able to now"  it will not fly with CO at interview  

 

trying to give you the best advice possible here / and emails also require internet so you need to show you try to connect at least  couple of times a week

also free to send 123 greeting cards / you can print the front cover page out to show you sent it/ make them light colors so any message you write shows as dark red like roses on I love you cards does not show

still these do need internet but she can open them when she does have internet available 

 

don't take any of us wrong if we say "things need to make sense "  to a CO at interview / we have been thru these interviews and know what they look for / a real solid loving relationship and quality face time

Edited November 27, 2017 by kris&me

[Ahmed&Freda 628]

3 hours ago, zandtee said:

she's not from saigon.  She's from a rural village in hanoi.  We would skype more often but her internet would usually droop.  During a typical skype call id talk to her for like 5 minutes then it dropts.  We recall and same.  We still send fb messages as often as possible but sometimes she doesnt receive them until later.  

I would'n't be that concerned then...fact is you tried.  You can print out proof of the attempts as well "if" the question ever comes up about communication.  I saw another post recommend letters...I agree with that to.  

 

Good Luck!

 

 

[Amit&Julie 180]

You might also try using Google Duo for video chats. My fiance and I use it when FB messenger and Skype aren't so great due to WiFi issues. It works pretty well when you have a weak signal.

[Sandra G. 5,054]

7 hours ago, zandtee said:

when we first met we would chat on fb almost daily.  After getting married and me returning to the us, we dont skype as often because of work and internet issues on her end.  We skype once or week or once every 2 weeks and sometimes even just once a month.  Will this make it harder for her? i've visited her 3x though and have over 1000 pictures.

Before getting married you used to chat almost daily, I assume that the internet worked fine, what did happen after the marriage that you talk just once or twice a month. ? This is not good for immigration purposes and even for your relationship. 

Edited November 27, 2017 by sandranj

[usmsbow 802]

What about WhatsApp/Viber/etc? Pretty easy and free to send text messages using one of those apps, and they work with poor mobile phone service. My now-wife and I texted each other numerous times a day when we were apart, especially when we couldn't skype or facetime with one another. 

[Boiler 45,739]

Presumably must be doing the old fashioned way via telephone?

[sema 26]

12 hours ago, zandtee said:

when we first met we would chat on fb almost daily.  After getting married and me returning to the us, we dont skype as often because of work and internet issues on her end.  We skype once or week or once every 2 weeks and sometimes even just once a month.  Will this make it harder for her? i've visited her 3x though and have over 1000 pictures.

I understand you,  where my wife is from sometimes the GOV. shuts down the internet and calling dirrectly can be very expensive, just be ready to explain you're self more conversations wld be better though.

[GreatDane 366]

Why not Skype call a real phone? On your end it's internet (and cheaper) and more secure if she doesn't have internet.

[Nitas_man 3,100]

I don't remember anyone checking on or asking about skype, phone calls, chats, or emails.  I know for sure I have never submitted any.

[DILAW 94]

13 hours ago, cyclone27 said:

Hmmm not much communication isn’t a very good especially if that comes up in the interview. Married couples should be taking on a daily basis.

 

I talked to my wife twice a day through facetime and WhatsApp/Line. We both worked and internet connection was ok in Saigon. 

I don't think someone can say married couple SHOULD be talking on a daily basis.  I mean my wife and I used to talk once a day, but sometimes there is nothing new to discuss so its ok if it's once a week or twice a week.  

Plus, during an interview its enough to say that we keep in touch on a regular basis and if asked if its daily you can always say for most the time yes.  

I bet you a lot of people here don't speak to their mothers on a daily basis and when you think about it no one will love & care for you more than your mother 

[Noe&Estella 57]

Excuses, excuses, excuses!!! Not good enough!!! Who cares how many hours you work or she does. If you truly love her you will make time for her, she is your wife. Yes even if it's in the middle of the night. Oh my goodness me and my wife don't care we will find the time no matter what. To be honest we can only stay away from each other for several hours then we are right back at it. We cannot stand being away from each other because our hearts ache.

What are you trying to do to your wife calling her once a week, then once in 2 weeks, then once a month!!! Are you trying to rip her heart out?

This isn't going to look good I can tell you that right now. They are going to want to see call logs of communication. And about emails, ignore that advice because they only take 2 minutes to write one. As for talking it really takes your time and they know you have it for the one you love, so log on's are way better evidence, it's 2017. Me and my honey stay connected through Viber, I recommend that app to anyone. We're in the NVC stage right now and am hoping to Our Lord and Savior JESUS CHRIST that my wife will come in 2-3 months from the Philippines. Please find the time for your wife because she really needs to hear from you more than you know.

[DeepInLove 35]

We have a 12 hour difference, we both work, but we talk multiple times daily through, Whatsapp, Skype and Direct Phone. I am his morning alarm, I go through Teamviewer in his computer and wake him up everyday. We do exercise together. We order food together. He is always with me on Skype whatever I do . This is funny but even when he sleeps he has a habbit to just connect Skype and keep it connected. We have been in relationship for three years, and married one year. We do not connect very rarely only when we have a fight. That also cannot be longer than three four days.

For Op, Try to buy some calling cards and call her directly from your cellphone. I sometimes use Rebtel, when there is no internet. For what have already passed, When I was collecting proof, because I cannot give thousands and thousands of pages, I took randomly proof for only one day every month. You can do it too. Collect whatever communication you had with her. and submit or take to interview. take all the gifts you sent to her, give details of all the cash you sent, any type of financial mingling. hotel stays, activities together. Anything that you do for her would work.

Best Of Luck...... I am curious about the relationship though. Looks like not very connected.

[cyclone27 710]

6 hours ago, DILAW said:

I don't think someone can say married couple SHOULD be talking on a daily basis.  I mean my wife and I used to talk once a day, but sometimes there is nothing new to discuss so its ok if it's once a week or twice a week.  

Plus, during an interview its enough to say that we keep in touch on a regular basis and if asked if its daily you can always say for most the time yes.  

I bet you a lot of people here don't speak to their mothers on a daily basis and when you think about it no one will love & care for you more than your mother 

You don’t need to talk about much of anything really. It’s more about hearing and seeing one another when so far apart.

 

As for speaking to my mum and dad that happens every couple of days.

[gregcrs2 1,778]

6 hours ago, Noe&Estella said:

Excuses, excuses, excuses!!! Not good enough!!! Who cares how many hours you work or she does. If you truly love her you will make time for her, she is your wife. Yes even if it's in the middle of the night. Oh my goodness me and my wife don't care we will find the time no matter what. To be honest we can only stay away from each other for several hours then we are right back at it. We cannot stand being away from each other because our hearts ache.

What are you trying to do to your wife calling her once a week, then once in 2 weeks, then once a month!!! Are you trying to rip her heart out?

This isn't going to look good I can tell you that right now. They are going to want to see call logs of communication. And about emails, ignore that advice because they only take 2 minutes to write one. As for talking it really takes your time and they know you have it for the one you love, so log on's are way better evidence, it's 2017. Me and my honey stay connected through Viber, I recommend that app to anyone. We're in the NVC stage right now and am hoping to Our Lord and Savior JESUS CHRIST that my wife will come in 2-3 months from the Philippines. Please find the time for your wife because she really needs to hear from you more than you know.

Perhaps you should be giving advice AFTER you've completed the interview process.