Anyone worry about your k-1 being denied? And what would happen to "us"?

[JFH 12,191]

1 minute ago, Diane and Chris said:

Does he have a mental health issue?  She never mentioned that. 

He is catastrophising and showing signs of depression with his thoughts of "nothing ever goes right for me". That's not normal behavior for someone happily in love and about to start married life with the person they love. 

[caliliving 606]

Everyone "worries" but I have yet to see one European or Canadian denied. So statistically speaking you are fine 

[Illiria 980]

25 minutes ago, JFH said:

He is catastrophising and showing signs of depression with his thoughts of "nothing ever goes right for me". That's not normal behavior for someone happily in love and about to start married life with the person they love. 

Totally agree with this, I had exactly the same way of thinking when my depression was particularly bad. My now husband would help by trying to encourage me to think on the positive things, like how he felt about me, what I was good at, planning for our future, what I had already achieved in life. 

 

OP please try and help him to think on these things and not dwell on the what if we get denied. Have one or two back up plans so that he can feel more in control of the situation, the feeling of not being in control might be adding to his feelings. 

 

I had lived with my now husband for 7 years and been dating for 11 before we applied for the fiancé visa and I still managed to convince myself that we might be denied - looking back I was being irrational but I couldn’t see it at the time. 

[Kristi&Luigi 157]

Thank you everyone at your encouraging words amd suggestions. I showed this to him and he feels better now. We do have a back up plan somewhat but I try not to think too deep into it bc it makes him feel like I'm starting to loose hope too. Which im not. I love him the most and I'm sure we will get through with this and continue our happy lives together. 

He does suffer a bit of depression from thr hardships of his country. But now that I am visiting him he is better. Of course I am always reminding him how much I love him and how amazing he is

[Dekd22 53]

I worry about this every day despite us having been together for 2 years and lived together in Brazil.  I just don't trust my luck when it comes to this kind of stuff.

[caliliving 606]

48 minutes ago, Kristi&Luigi said:

Thank you everyone at your encouraging words amd suggestions. I showed this to him and he feels better now. We do have a back up plan somewhat but I try not to think too deep into it bc it makes him feel like I'm starting to loose hope too. Which im not. I love him the most and I'm sure we will get through with this and continue our happy lives together. 

He does suffer a bit of depression from thr hardships of his country. But now that I am visiting him he is better. Of course I am always reminding him how much I love him and how amazing he is

You are from Europe. You won't get denied. Maybe he just doesn't know that. Tbh. Some people don't research visa approval rates before they apply for one! Assuming he has no criminal background and no prior marriages he has not told you about you are fine. 

 

[maryLu 58]

when is your interview ?

 

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

No, not during the K1 process and I knew for sure we'd be approved for the CR1.  We were living together at the time, after all.  I just didn't know whether we'd be able to immigrate to the US at the same time.

 

However, to be really frank, if there was something that prevented us from living in the same country, we would have just broken up.  At the point we were filing for a K1, I wouldn't say that we were overly attached to each other in that Disney-esque mentality of undying love that some people tend to be into.  It was more a matter of practicality - we seemed to be a good match and had similar values, similar goals in life, and I don't believe in "dating" per se.  The love came later. 

 

I know during immigration there are a lot of stressful emotions going on and that can make it hard to see the forest for the trees, even that I am guilty of myself.  If you are worried, it is completely normal.

[noraliz73 243]

I think it is very normal for our beneficiaries to be anxious.  I actually tried finding resources on that and couldn’t.  A lot of people never planned to move to the United States.  Not everyone has an American dream.  Our original plan was for me to go and live in Egypt.  I am comfortable there and understand the language passably.  Over time, my partner realized that it would be devastating for both my children and me if I was to move there to be with him.  He is leaving a place where he knows people and has resources to come here and just have me.  In the beginning, our beneficiaries are not able to work and that can be a very uncomfortable feeling in and of itself.  And, we often forget how scary it must be to leave one’s family.  My love owns his home in Egypt, but will have to come here and start from scratch in midlife.  I would not want to do that in my own country.  Society focuses so much on how these people all just want a visa and don’t realize that many are only coming at great cost to themselves to spare their American fiancée having to uproot her entire life.  And in the meantime, our loved ones have all of these fears, doubts and insecurities in their minds and everything is stalled by a bureaucratic log-jam.  I think it must be torture.  I know my life goes on and I go to work and I may cry a lot missing him, but his whole world is upside down waiting for someone else to decide it and my heart breaks because I know it is all for me.  This is not easy on anyone.  If he is not approved, I don’t know what I will do.  I have bills to pay and can’t earn a living in Egypt.  I need to work.  I have a good job and responsibilities.  Life is not a fairy tale.  In the end, his sacrifice has not gone unnoticed.  I will live anywhere I have to in order to be with him.  I hope the visa is given so the family can stay intact.  Keep offering your foreign fiancé or fiancée support.  Even though you love each other and you are planning a wonderful life together, they are still making sacrifices. And may the wait be less and easier than everyone expected.

[Lazybones18 261]

Going through this process has been one of the top 3 toughest things in my life ... i am a USC and my wife is the beneficiary. My advice: 

 

Be 110% prepared for the process, hope for the best and stay strong. 

 

God bless everyone 

[AbenaKofi 132]

We have a plan B to go the CR-1 route and plan C is for me to move to him.  We’re hoping it doesn’t get to that, because what’s the point of worrying in advance? 

[Carolina Dalton 62]

Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't we were planning to get a tourist visa from my bf who is colombian and me too while I was in Colombia living with him, we pay all of that money to get a tourist visa he fly to the us embassy in colombia and they denied his visa, we have plans and we thought we would get his tourist visa then we were going to fly together to us and marry in us and start an inmigration process, well things didn't go well at all, so I start making plans about the k1 and I decide that it was better to be refuse the tourist because sometimes you gotta do what u have to do, So i was very sad, but I start making all our papers and move to us, after living with him 8 months in colombia, I'm just waiting, and hoping to everything go well, telling him that if we got refused u have the fault lol because if I get the noa2 I think my part is done, so I told him say the truth, dont act funny and be a serious person because its our future, and I am pretty confident, I mean we have the same age, same nationality, we were born in the same city, same religion, idk I have seen now that I'm in the us some program 90 day fiance visa, and they got approved, and people in that show, are very young or very old, different cultures, different age, some really weird and creepy persons , so why we have to be denied? if our relation its soo strong, we even have an apartment lease in our names, lots of photos, idk just be very happy because at least u already start ur k1 process, you are one step closer to get the noa2 and one step closer to he or she come to the us, I have all of the days on my notebook 158 to be exact and every night I mark with an x the day that just finished so we can be together, The only scary thing is that u never know, maybe i die or he die, and we will never see  thats what i am most worried about, but i just hope everything goes well because we deserved, because like ur fiance I pass for a lot of bad things and he to, and we deserved to be happy, and when u think everything goes bad in your life is because its somthing  better to happen.

[Michael2017 368]

22 hours ago, JFH said:

What makes you think you might be denied? It happens very rarely for Europeans. 

 

If you are denied, you either get married and file a CR-1 (if the basis of denial is because the relationship is not deemed to be bona fide) or you apply for a visa for the USC to live in Romania (if the denial is due to inadmissibility). 

 

Nothing will happen to you as a couple. This is all about being together, right? Surely it doesn't matter where you live as long as you are together. The location is unimportant. My husband was denied a visa to live with me in the U.K. Nothing happened to us, we are still together but in a different location. Same story, different setting. It meant a few changes to some of our plans but nothing major. 

Why was your husband denied if it was not too private? This happens even more rarely as the other way around.

[olya green 0]

From what I heard is that denials are really rare. My lawyer told me - and I have 165 days B1/B2 overstay that I'd do fine for both K and CR-visas.  I'm still kinda worried to be honest. I'm from Moscow, RU. Filing for K-1 soon.

 

Do you guys think we'd better file for CR-1 to be more sure? 

 

cheers

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

2 hours ago, Michael2017 said:

Why was your husband denied if it was not too private? This happens even more rarely as the other way around.

I don't know the details of their case, but immigration to the UK is harder than immigration to the US.  I know of standard couples that required a lawyer during the UK process that wouldn't have needed one for the US.