Anyone worry about your k-1 being denied? And what would happen to "us"?

[Kristi&Luigi 157]

Just a thought. 

[JFH 12,191]

What makes you think you might be denied? It happens very rarely for Europeans. 

 

If you are denied, you either get married and file a CR-1 (if the basis of denial is because the relationship is not deemed to be bona fide) or you apply for a visa for the USC to live in Romania (if the denial is due to inadmissibility). 

 

Nothing will happen to you as a couple. This is all about being together, right? Surely it doesn't matter where you live as long as you are together. The location is unimportant. My husband was denied a visa to live with me in the U.K. Nothing happened to us, we are still together but in a different location. Same story, different setting. It meant a few changes to some of our plans but nothing major. 

Edited November 26, 2017 by JFH

[Kristi&Luigi 157]

4 minutes ago, JFH said:

What makes you think you might be denied? It happens very rarely for Europeans. 

 

If you are denied, you either get married and file a CR-1 (if the basis of denial is because the relationship is not deemed to be bona fide) or you apply for a visa for the USC to live in Romania (if the denial is due to inadmissibility). 

 

Nothing will happen to you as a couple. This is all about being together, right? Surely it doesn't matter where you live as long as you are together. The location is unimportant. My husband was denied a visa to live with me in the U.K. Nothing happened to us, we are still together but in a different location. Same story, different setting. It meant a few changes to some of our plans but nothing major. 

I am not worried about being denied at all but my fiance is. He has suffered all his life and doesn't think something good will ever come for him. Romania isn't somewhere we want to spend our future in. Things are tough here. I am visiting with him right now and we struggle to even have food in our plate. 

[JFH 12,191]

1 minute ago, Kristi&Luigi said:

I am not worried about being denied at all but my fiance is. He has suffered all his life and doesn't think something good will ever come for him. Romania isn't somewhere we want to spend our future in. Things are tough here. I am visiting with him right now and we struggle to even have food in our plate. 

Has he sought help for this mental health issue? It's not going to get better without help.

 

Romania is in the EU so he has other options if, for some reason, he is denied. 

[Scandi 4,186]

No, never worried we'd be denied. If that had happened though my USC husband (then fiancé) would have moved to me in Sweden instead, so more or less a non-issue really.

[Brittani 484]

No because they have no reason to deny us. We've been dating for three years, he visited me several times for two months at a time, and we have a daughter together. I make enough for them to support him according to them. As long as you are a legit relationship, have met at least once in the last two years, and make enough you're fine. They very rarely deny people.

[EandH0904 1,184]

We weren't denied per se,  but weren't approved and our petition was returned to US. Life goes on. We continued our relationship, and just recently got married and will file for CR1. 

 

People face hardships in life all the time. When you don't have a choice, you just keep moving forward.  I feel lucky we can still talk,  text, and I can visit him when possible. If it's a true relationship it will be true if it takes 1 year or 5. 

 

If you're struggling to put food on the table, remember nothing is guaranteed in the US. AOS is very costly, he can't work for x amount of months, there will be other hardships to endure, but if you love each other in the end you just make it work.  

[EandH0904 1,184]

53 minutes ago, Brittani said:

They very rarely deny people.

They rarely deny European couples. MENA countries are notorious for not being denied, not approved. I know more people with unapproved K1s from MENA countries than I know approved ones. 

[Jeanne Adil 1,651]

Make him feel more at ease giving him encouragement and lots of affectiion

he will probably not be denied and he seems to worry for nothing

My husband also went thru this thinking nothing good ever happened to him until he met me

We are from high fraud country and our K1 denied and married for the CR1 '

most here will tell you this is not likely your problem

what you need to do is take this time as your courting time and make it light and beautiful / i understand that life can be difficult / i have seen the worse in my volunteer overseas jobs

just look to the future and plan for a better life / talk about all that will happen / make sure he understands that life is USA can be good if you work thru this and work hard in the future to stay together and have a family

[Little_Vixen 1,869]

I think this process is one of the most difficult times  a couple can go through. The stress of waiting and being apart, the uncertainty when or even if. It weighs on you. I can see how it can break a couple. But you can also make it your strong point. 

When I visited my bf ast time I immediately booked my next vacation. It was four months away, but we had a date to count towards. I made an online counter how long it would be till we saw each other again and it is so satisfying seeing the seconds, hours and days tick away. We are now only 20 days 5 hours and 50 minutes from seeing each other again. And when I come back from that visit I will be doing the same thing with his visit to me in March. 

Don't stare yourself blind on a process that has an unknown end date. Focus on the dates you do have and know that with every second ticking away to your next visit, is also a second ticking away to you finally be together forever. 

[implife 318]

1 hour ago, adil-rafa said:

My husband also went thru this thinking nothing good ever happened to him until he met me

[JFH 12,191]

24 minutes ago, Little_Vixen said:

I think this process is one of the most difficult times  a couple can go through. The stress of waiting and being apart, the uncertainty when or even if. It weighs on you. I can see how it can break a couple. But you can also make it your strong point. 

When I visited my bf ast time I immediately booked my next vacation. It was four months away, but we had a date to count towards. I made an online counter how long it would be till we saw each other again and it is so satisfying seeing the seconds, hours and days tick away. We are now only 20 days 5 hours and 50 minutes from seeing each other again. And when I come back from that visit I will be doing the same thing with his visit to me in March. 

Don't stare yourself blind on a process that has an unknown end date. Focus on the dates you do have and know that with every second ticking away to your next visit, is also a second ticking away to you finally be together forever. 

This is very good advice. We did the same - the end of each visit was not "goodbye" but the start of the countdown to the next visit. We counted the sleeps every time, like children counting down to Christmas. As soon as I passed through security at the airport and we were out of sight from each other, we would send a text "can't wait to see you again in x sleeps" and so the countdown began again. 

[bakphx1 789]

5 hours ago, Kristi&Luigi said:

I am not worried about being denied at all but my fiance is. He has suffered all his life and doesn't think something good will ever come for him. Romania isn't somewhere we want to spend our future in. Things are tough here. I am visiting with him right now and we struggle to even have food in our plate. 

It sounds like the country's problems have given him a sense of despair. My husband's country is also a tough place, and he was surprised when he was approved, though it was for a CR1.  But sometimes people get conditioned to the worst happening.  Mine is coming in two weeks.  The next problem I know will be survivor's guilt.  

[EandH0904 1,184]

45 minutes ago, bakphx1@aol.com said:

The next problem I know will be survivor's guilt.  

I know this is off topic but I worked as a nurse in Haiti after their earthquake in 2010. Survivors guilt still bothers me. 

[Diane and Chris 651]

6 hours ago, JFH said:

Has he sought help for this mental health issue? It's not going to get better without help.

 

Romania is in the EU so he has other options if, for some reason, he is denied. 

Does he have a mental health issue?  She never mentioned that.