Please help!

[VisaCode 72]

Just now, Slim213 said:

@VisaCode,I have been trying to stay away from that because I don’t want to do anything that will reflect her as abusive on her records.I still have fond memories of the good days we had when she was normal (still have our names tattooed).I believe what she’s doing isn’t intentional because most times when she becomes sane she keeps apologizing and thanking me for being patient.

That's your decision to make. But ask her ex if she was ever like this with him. My guess would be yes. If he'd reported her violence against him and it was on her record when she petitioned for you, you might not have been blind-sided by it and probably wouldn't be in this difficult situation right now.

[Slim213 11]

2 minutes ago, VisaCode said:

That's your decision to make. But ask her ex if she was ever like this with him. My guess would be yes. If he'd reported her violence against him and it was on her record when she petitioned for you, you might not have been blind-sided by it and probably wouldn't be in this difficult situation right now.

Thank you @VisaCode.We got along really well when she got admitted at the hospital.He explained how terrible it gets when these episodes start coming.He saw it coming a month before it started and asked her if she’s been taking her meds.She lied to him saying “yes”.He never filed domestic abuse,instead he took her to the hospital and she had to stay for two months.This time she only stayed three days and it’s me and the kids that are suffering the consequences.

[Slim213 11]

1 hour ago, Beachlover said:

Then there is nothing you can do to make her. She has to understand that she is damaging everyone who loves her, not just herself. And a mental health issue ( like schizophrenia) is very, very hard to deal with if the person refuses to take medication. I'm sorry you are going through this.

Thank you for your kind input sir 

[azblk 338]

Sorry for your situation but this is an immigration forum not a marriage forum.

 

If you are asking what effect leaving her will have on your pending AOS this is the right place to ask but I think it is inappropriate to be discussing your marital problems here with a batch of strangers.

 

If you divorce her before your case is decided then you have no basis for a green card. Basically you have a few choices;  you either stay with her and hope she takes her meds again or you divorce her and try to get a green card with VAWA , i am not sure how the USCIS views abuse by someone mental issues.

 

From what you describe this is a dangerous situation that you need to get out of ASAP.  A green card or love is not worth your life .

[Slim213 11]

4 hours ago, azblk said:

Sorry for your situation but this is an immigration forum not a marriage forum.

 

If you are asking what effect leaving her will have on your pending AOS this is the right place to ask but I think it is inappropriate to be discussing your marital problems here with a batch of strangers.

 

If you divorce her before your case is decided then you have no basis for a green card. Basically you have a few choices;  you either stay with her and hope she takes her meds again or you divorce her and try to get a green card with VAWA , i am not sure how the USCIS views abuse by someone mental issues.

 

From what you describe this is a dangerous situation that you need to get out of ASAP.  A green card or love is not worth your life .

Thank you so much,I really appreciate your contribution 

[javadown2 308]

Sounds like you have a long road to travel if you want this marriage to work out, and it doesn't sound like it will get any better. Abuse is not something that should be tolerated, ever. She has absolutely no excuse for abusing someone and you shouldn't put up with it.

[mcdull 474]

what is your objective here?

 

To get a divorce or to preserve your immigration status?

[sweetadams 138]

On 11/15/2017 at 1:57 PM, Slim213 said:

@VisaCode,I have been trying to stay away from that because I don’t want to do anything that will reflect her as abusive on her records.I still have fond memories of the good days we had when she was normal (still have our names tattooed).I believe what she’s doing isn’t intentional because most times when she becomes sane she keeps apologizing and thanking me for being patient.

Bros, se na when you die you get the GC? Follow advice, either you file for VAWA or ask your senator/congressman to help look into why your case is taking long. We know you care for this woman and love her, and by the way, her mental condition is already on record somewhere, so trying to prevent abusive record won't cut it. Think about the kids and your own safeties. 

[Slim213 11]

On 11/15/2017 at 3:54 PM, azblk said:

Sorry for your situation but this is an immigration forum not a marriage forum.

 

If you are asking what effect leaving her will have on your pending AOS this is the right place to ask but I think it is inappropriate to be discussing your marital problems here with a batch of strangers.

 

If you divorce her before your case is decided then you have no basis for a green card. Basically you have a few choices;  you either stay with her and hope she takes her meds again or you divorce her and try to get a green card with VAWA , i am not sure how the USCIS views abuse by someone mental issues.

 

From what you describe this is a dangerous situation that you need to get out of ASAP.  A green card or love is not worth your life .

 

9 hours ago, mcdull said:

what is your objective here?

 

To get a divorce or to preserve your immigration status?

Mcdull,Divorce is my last resort sir.At the same time living here without a status itself is hell.I’m posting here for the best advice because some people went through the same situation.She’s been apologizing since yesterday but i’m Scared to go back

[Slim213 11]

19 hours ago, javadown2 said:

Sounds like you have a long road to travel if you want this marriage to work out, and it doesn't sound like it will get any better. Abuse is not something that should be tolerated, ever. She has absolutely no excuse for abusing someone and you shouldn't put up with it.

@javadown2,Thank you.I’m safely out of the house at the moment.I am just confused on what route to take at the moment that’s why I appreciate all the kind responses I got here.She’s been apologizing since yesterday but I won’t fall for it.I’m taking the good advice I received here on V.J

[Slim213 11]

6 hours ago, sweetadams said:

Bros, se na when you die you get the GC? Follow advice, either you file for VAWA or ask your senator/congressman to help look into why your case is taking long. We know you care for this woman and love her, and by the way, her mental condition is already on record somewhere, so trying to prevent abusive record won't cut it. Think about the kids and your own safeties. 

@sweetadams,thanks bro..I no wan Die o! Recently contacted our congressman.They promised to respond as soon as the immigration get back to them.Thanks Bro