New Immigrants: How many of you send money on a regular basis to your family back home?

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

They are our family and we should help them if we can. Also I would not be against helping to pay for one of Sujeet's sisters weddings since I know that is their culture. Sure it'd have to be reasonable with what we can contribute so that we didn't go broke here. I'd also help to pay for my own sisters wedding here in the US when she gets married one day, if I am able to. That's what family does in my opinion. I grew up in a family where sometimes it was hard to make ends meet. Not rich at all! And so we have learned that sometimes we have to help eachother.

I am against it!!! I dont see none of them people helping my azz when things hit the fan!!

frankly, I dont bust my azz working to support 2 households no way!!! if that is all he want me for is

to use me - he know he can keep his azz in pakistan. obviously, if that is motive then why dragg me in

his familys sytt..

I can offer limited assistance to my wifes family in India with about zero impact to my lifestyle here. Given how far that limited assistance can go in India, with exchange rates being what they are, I absolutely intend to do so. I believe it's the right thing to do.

Clearly, you have other thoughts on the matter and that is fine. We will have to agree to disagree.

Edited March 25, 2006 by Agent Smith

[AnaAndDaniel 0]

My wife had bought a house prior to our marriage and rents it out. That money she gives to her folks.

Daniel

:energetic:

[Jasman0717 9]

[minha_raposa 0]

Since my wife started working she has been sending money back to her mother. She never asked me to send one dime and is intent on using the money she earns. I have asked her to make sure she puts our family first and forego sending or reducing the amount she sends if we ever need it. Until that time comes she can do what she wants.

[gimygirl 0]

i guess completely different here for us, since geoff is from england. his parents are very well off and have told us that we are to inherit their estate one day as he is their only child. we'll decide then what to do with the property, either rent it, sell it or retire there.

but if he was from an impoverished country, i would certainly set aside 'x' amount of money per month for his family if our finances allowed it.

[yogib37 3]

My parents paid for my college tuition in France, then the US for quite a number of years. I've always wanted to "pay" them back but they've always refused... It makes me feel guilty at times... The same with my brother. It's true that they are comfortable financially in French Guyana, probably much better off than me here! They only want me to come and visit them. That's what make them happy.

I have sent money home though, but this was to pay for the house I am still financing there. My husband will be here soon and I'll have no problem with him sending money to his family in Uganda. A couple of hundred dollars can do a lot there.

well that is a good story. If your parents are just happy to see you, just save up money and get a ticket and go spend time. it is like spending money on your parents

[silly_chick 0]

Where's the option "My family outside the U.S. has been sending me money"?

[jkb919 0]

My fiance is not here yet but we have discussed this and we will only send money if there is an emergency. I found a web site for a Grocery store in Jamaica where we can buy grocery credits for them so they can go buy groceries, I think we are going to do that for the holidays and other special occasions...some people in his family have bad drinking problems and we really dont want them to use money we would send for alcohol...with doing the grocery credits that way they can buy food and other needed things.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Where's the option "My family outside the U.S. has been sending me money"?

Didn't think of it. I just assumed if you were married you could support yourself. Clearly, I was mistaken.

Edited March 26, 2006 by Agent Smith

[Welshcookie 17]

I am against it!!! I dont see none of them people helping my azz when things hit the fan!!

frankly, I dont bust my azz working to support 2 households no way!!! if that is all he want me for is

to use me - he know he can keep his azz in pakistan. obviously, if that is motive then why dragg me in

his familys sytt..

Does the same apply if your family need some fiancial help in the future? will he get a say whether you help them out at all?....just wondering...

[ToddMinc 0]

I send a $1000.00 a month to my Mother in-law and if she ever needed more she would have it!

[babybunny 2]

I am against it!!! I dont see none of them people helping my azz when things hit the fan!!

frankly, I dont bust my azz working to support 2 households no way!!! if that is all he want me for is

to use me - he know he can keep his azz in pakistan. obviously, if that is motive then why dragg me in

his familys sytt..

Does the same apply if your family need some fiancial help in the future? will he get a say whether you help them out at all?....just wondering...

I dont send my mom and dad money! they have both have retirement < military >checks comming in.

mom is about to retire again this june and dad is not retiring again just yet.

[Peggy 1]

My fiance is not here yet but we have discussed this and we will only send money if there is an emergency. I found a web site for a Grocery store in Jamaica where we can buy grocery credits for them so they can go buy groceries, I think we are going to do that for the holidays and other special occasions...some people in his family have bad drinking problems and we really dont want them to use money we would send for alcohol...with doing the grocery credits that way they can buy food and other needed things.

That is very smart of you

[luvaLimey 0]

I am against it!!! I dont see none of them people helping my azz when things hit the fan!!

frankly, I dont bust my azz working to support 2 households no way!!! if that is all he want me for is

to use me - he know he can keep his azz in pakistan. obviously, if that is motive then why dragg me in

his familys sytt..

Does the same apply if your family need some fiancial help in the future? will he get a say whether you help them out at all?....just wondering...

I dont send my mom and dad money! they have both have retirement < military >checks comming in.

mom is about to retire again this june and dad is not retiring again just yet.

you know: she didn't ask if you send your parents money NOW... she asked what if they needed help at some point in the future. What if there was some natural disaster or something and they lost their home... what if they just needed some help from their child until they could get back on their feet? When you're on a pension, it's a pretty fixed income. You usually can't plan for unexpected events and build that into your budget.

Would you help them? If so, what kind of say would your husband have in the matter... I mean... they're not there, helping his AZZ out, are they?

[MrMrsKnight 0]

I'm not in the US yet, but if my parents needed, I'm positive Dave wouldn't mind helping. The same way I wouldn't mind helping his parents if they ever needed financial or any other kind of help.

But that won't be an issue for us anytime soon because our families don't have money problems. My family is considered middle class here in Brazil so there's no need for me to send them money, we're not rich but money is not an issue, we have a comfortable life. But since noone knows what's gonna happen in the future, we've decided that helping our parents if they're in need is the least we can do for them....

I have to say that my family will probably be helping us a lot more than we'll be helping them! Like sending me medication since it's so much cheaper than it is in the US, sending me clothes that my mom knows I'd like every now and then, beauty products, and in the future, baby stuff. I've already told them they'll be sending me everything that is possible when I get pregnant Just like my family did when my cousin got pregnant while living in England!