New Immigrants: How many of you send money on a regular basis to your family back home?

[Cdnwmn 0]

No.

My parents are doing fine. My two adult daughters work full time and have their own places so they are ok too.

Just send gifts back for special occasions.

[tom&tata 2]

I might be presumptuous but this poll really only concerns people who married a beneficiary from the 3rd world. My presumption gets even more support when considering the poll about whose standard of living has increased or decreased in the US:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=6293

What we have over there are people from Western Europe, Australia, and Canada complaining about their lowered standard of living. Not too many people from Russia, Philippines, or Pakistan complaining about their low quality of life and low wages in the US

We are complaining. We can have own driver and maid in my wife's country and do not think we could ever dream about having those luxury here in US

[Kajikit 65]

You don't have an option for THEY give US money! My parents have helped us out substantially in the last year and we're extremely grateful to them.

[Garfield fan 0]

I don't send money for now since I already left them with quite a big chunk before I moved here, it should be enough if they have emergency. I would like to send some soon though. Back home we don't have any pension (unless if you work for government) so it's a norm that children take care of their parents when they are old. My parents still work, they own a small store, they love to work and they have enough for living. But I still like to give them some extra, just so they know that I still remember them and care about them (not that they don't if I don't send money).

My hubby understands about this situation, and I also work here anyway so I have my own contribution to whatever thing that I sent for my parents. It doesn't work the other way around though, I mean we won't send money for his parent. My consideration is that seniors here get "pension", at least from social security, so they won't have to worry too much about their financial situations once they are out of workforce market. But that's just me...

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Well, 22 respondents and almost one-third of them (7) send money back home regularly or from time to time. Given the fact that most VJers are first-worlders, that is pretty damn impressive. Maybe I should have added a question regarding country of origin, I have a feeling the % of people who send money back (regularly or from time to time) is quite high among those from the developing/undeveloped world. Kudos to you all.

[pedroh 21]

well.. actually my folks have helped me a lot.. lol.. I send bday gifts or sometimes money to my brother, or when they need some electronic gizmo. then i send it and usually dont charge them anything.. but that's about it... of course if they needed money i'd send them some.. but they are still working.. so.. no biggie

[Jasman0717 9]

Claudeth and I have been sending money every month since she arrived last July. She quit her job today but does have enough in the bank to sustain them until the fall so has plenty of time to look for a suitable job. In the mean time we are going to Laughlin!

[Paul & wubit 0]

I might be presumptuous but this poll really only concerns people who married a beneficiary from the 3rd world. My presumption gets even more support when considering the poll about whose standard of living has increased or decreased in the US:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=6293

What we have over there are people from Western Europe, Australia, and Canada complaining about their lowered standard of living. Not too many people from Russia, Philippines, or Pakistan complaining about their low quality of life and low wages in the US

hello

well i must say that when i marry my baby in june and we get all our stuff done

i wll send her mother and father some money to help them out . Not because my wife to be wants me too

As a matter of fact she does not even know that is part of my plan. The reason is i will do this is because my mother and father have passed on and i helped them out and now her mother and father become's my family. and every little bit helps.and anthing i can do for thr family i will do no big deal

Paul & Wubit

[Anastasia 1]

I wish we were in a position to send money or gifts to my family in Israel, like on birthdays or holidays occasions... My parents are sending us money all the time instead. When I just came to the US, before I was able to get a job, my parents were sending us about $200 every month, they also paid about 85% of the wedding cost, and now that I had to quit my job they are sending us money again. I'm so grateful my parents help us so much, if it wouldn't be for their help we would probably starve here or something

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

It had never occurred to me that so many people would be getting financial assistance from their parents.

Live and learn, I guess.

[m_and_m20 0]

When i first met my husband, i was upfront about the money issue. I told him, if he wants to send his family money, then its going to be HIS money, not MY money. I saw my dad do that to my mom on a regular basis, he would send THEIR money to his parents overseas (and not hundreds, but thousands on an annual basis) without so much as consulting with my mom first. I work hard for my money, my money goes to pay my bills and feed my family....if he has any money left over after he takes care of other bills then thats fine with me.

Its a cultural thing where my husband is from for the sons to take care of the parents....my husband has two brothers that both live with the parents (10 people all live together in that house), so why should my husband who barely makes enough to support his growing family here have to support his family there too.

In the two years he has been here, he gave them money twice. Once was for a holiday and the other was when we were there this december, he gave them some of our vacation money that we didn't end up needing.

[I'm Gone 60]

When i first met my husband, i was upfront about the money issue. I told him, if he wants to send his family money, then its going to be HIS money, not MY money. I saw my dad do that to my mom on a regular basis, he would send THEIR money to his parents overseas (and not hundreds, but thousands on an annual basis) without so much as consulting with my mom first. I work hard for my money, my money goes to pay my bills and feed my family....if he has any money left over after he takes care of other bills then thats fine with me.

Its a cultural thing where my husband is from for the sons to take care of the parents....my husband has two brothers that both live with the parents (10 people all live together in that house), so why should my husband who barely makes enough to support his growing family here have to support his family there too.

In the two years he has been here, he gave them money twice. Once was for a holiday and the other was when we were there this december, he gave them some of our vacation money that we didn't end up needing.

Same way I feel. My wife has a total of 5 other brother's and sisters, so they can take care of mom and dad. What would they have done if I hadn't come along. Plus if her brothers and sisters would stop having kids like puppies they might have enough money to support their own families as well.

[MBJM 0]

John and I will be sending money home to his parents, he is the oldest son and that's just the way life is going to be. I already support several children in Uganda and I don't mind adding his fmaily to the list, though we both know we will not be able to afford it for the first couple of months/years :-). But as soon as we are on are feet and able to save a little each month we will send probablly 100 to uganda a month. And eventually I am sure we will pay for the youngst two (twins) to either go to school or we will adopt them and bring them here.

Just the way life is marrying a Ugandan, I want to be part of his family, I want to help them. Just so long as they understand just because we are in america dosn't mean we are RICH and can totally support them :-)

[Satisfaction 1]

My parents paid for my college tuition in France, then the US for quite a number of years. I've always wanted to "pay" them back but they've always refused... It makes me feel guilty at times... The same with my brother. It's true that they are comfortable financially in French Guyana, probably much better off than me here! They only want me to come and visit them. That's what make them happy.

I have sent money home though, but this was to pay for the house I am still financing there. My husband will be here soon and I'll have no problem with him sending money to his family in Uganda. A couple of hundred dollars can do a lot there.

[babybunny 2]

They are our family and we should help them if we can. Also I would not be against helping to pay for one of Sujeet's sisters weddings since I know that is their culture. Sure it'd have to be reasonable with what we can contribute so that we didn't go broke here. I'd also help to pay for my own sisters wedding here in the US when she gets married one day, if I am able to. That's what family does in my opinion. I grew up in a family where sometimes it was hard to make ends meet. Not rich at all! And so we have learned that sometimes we have to help eachother.

I am against it!!! I dont see none of them people helping my azz when things hit the fan!!

frankly, I dont bust my azz working to support 2 households no way!!! if that is all he want me for is

to use me - he know he can keep his azz in pakistan. obviously, if that is motive then why dragg me in

his familys sytt..