Husband left back to UK. Was waiting on greencard.

[geowrian 22,337]

21 minutes ago, ramesesthe2nd said:

I know some times a little thing can turn into a big issue. I just filed for CR-1 last month for my wife and it didn't take very long to get NOA-1. I wanted to do K3 as soon as I get NOA-1, but she couldn't take a simple US passport compatible picture. I don't understand how a simple thing like taking a passport picture could be such a big issue, but everyone is different, so we just didn't do K3. 

K-3 is obsolete. Only 102 were issued all last fiscal year versus the ~130,000 CR-1/IR-1s. USCIS policy is to adjudicate the I-129F and I-130 together. NVC policy is that if the I-129F arrives after or at the same time as the I-130, then the I-129F is administratively closed. Recently, USCIS has even been closing them directly once the I-130 is approved.

 

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I don't know why some people are putting this on 1 year to 1.5 years timeline for CR-1. From everything I have seen, it should take from 6 to 9 months. Marriage demands adjustments from both of you and a lot of patience. 9 months might sound like a long time, but remember you are going to spend the rest of your life together.

I think you're referring to the I-130 timeline? Then there's NVC processing + embassy interview scheduling. Those two items can add ~6 months to the process after the I-130. The average from filing to interview is 12-14 months, and tends to be trending even longer.

Edited November 4, 2017 by geowrian

[mindthegap 2,590]

@MichaelAndAlicia do you have an EU/UK passport or right of residence in the UK?

[MichaelAndAlicia 1]

thank you for your replies.

 

it is so painful. so, so, so painful.

 

I can hardly speak to him.

[acidrain 325]

On 11/4/2017 at 1:07 PM, ramesesthe2nd said:

I don't know why some people are putting this on 1 year to 1.5 years timeline for CR-1. From everything I have seen, it should take from 6 to 9 months. Marriage demands adjustments from both of you and a lot of patience. 9 months might sound like a long time, but remember you are going to spend the rest of your life together.

 

Good luck with everything. 

This is simply incorrect. If you follow the Nebraska service center thread where the vast majority of CR1/IR1 filers are sent it is 9-10 months right now just for the i130 alone. When I first started the process i130's were only taking 5-6 months. However, the backlog at USCIS is getting worse and worse. I am not sure why USCIS took California out of centers to process regular i130's but they did. If a person is so lucky to get Potomac they might get finished the i130 process in 6 months. Vermont isn't processing very many i130's and Texas is probably closer to 7 months for a i130. I shudder to think where i130's are going to be in another 6 months. There is a serious problem at USCIS that nobody wants to deal with.

 

You add in NVC and Consulate processing and it puts the person well over 12 months. I think it's better to be honest about what the person will be dealing with. I was one of those people when I first started this process who thought immigrating from Canada I could get through the whole thing in 10 months. It's been over 9 months and I don't even have a i130 approved yet. I have been together with my spouse for over 12 years. We have been through many trials and tribulations but our relationship no doubt has been tested. What is going to make things difficult for this person is the back and forth trips to visit one another. I can speak to this as I do so every 7 weeks or so. I also deal with the border because of my own immigration situation. I have to explain what my current situation is and show proof of ties. It's a hassle and it's stressful because every time I enter the US I have no idea if they will let me visit.

 

The expense of this process is also trying. Having to pay for one place abroad and another place in the United States. If we had the option we would've gone the DCF route without a doubt but Canada does not offer it. I found once I got to 9 months of waiting things have become really difficult. I try not to be a needy person either. It's just tough to have a marriage when both people are living countries apart. You crave having a normal living situation. Unfortunately for this couple AOS will likely no longer be an option as it would be very obvious they had an intent to immigrate.

 

I would honestly assess the likelihood of success and whether it is worth to go through this process.

 

To be honest it's a thousand times easier to immigrate when you are just boyfriend and girlfriend. You don't have to go through the same kind of 1 yr separation as when you are married.

Edited November 10, 2017 by acidrain

[MichaelAndAlicia 1]

4 hours ago, acidrain said:

This is simply incorrect. If you follow the Nebraska service center thread where the vast majority of CR1/IR1 filers are sent it is 9-10 months right now just for the i130 alone. When I first started the process i130's were only taking 5-6 months. However, the backlog at USCIS is getting worse and worse. I am not sure why USCIS took California out of centers to process regular i130's but they did. If a person is so lucky to get Potomac they might get finished the i130 process in 6 months. Vermont isn't processing very many i130's and Texas is probably closer to 7 months for a i130. I shudder to think where i130's are going to be in another 6 months. There is a serious problem at USCIS that nobody wants to deal with.

 

You add in NVC and Consulate processing and it puts the person well over 12 months. I think it's better to be honest about what the person will be dealing with. I was one of those people when I first started this process who thought immigrating from Canada I could get through the whole thing in 10 months. It's been over 9 months and I don't even have a i130 approved yet. I have been together with my spouse for over 12 years. We have been through many trials and tribulations but our relationship no doubt has been tested. What is going to make things difficult for this person is the back and forth trips to visit one another. I can speak to this as I do so every 7 weeks or so. I also deal with the border because of my own immigration situation. I have to explain what my current situation is and show proof of ties. It's a hassle and it's stressful because every time I enter the US I have no idea if they will let me visit.

 

The expense of this process is also trying. Having to pay for one place abroad and another place in the United States. If we had the option we would've gone the DCF route without a doubt but Canada does not offer it. I found once I got to 9 months of waiting things have become really difficult. I try not to be a needy person either. It's just tough to have a marriage when both people are living countries apart. You crave having a normal living situation. Unfortunately for this couple AOS will likely no longer be an option as it would be very obvious they had an intent to immigrate.

 

I would honestly assess the likelihood of success and whether it is worth to go through this process.

 

To be honest it's a thousand times easier to immigrate when you are just boyfriend and girlfriend. You don't have to go through the same kind of 1 yr separation as when you are married.

it took us only 6 months with the K1. wow.

 

so even with approved i130 and CR1... his adjustment of status probably wouldnt be approved later?

Edited November 10, 2017 by MichaelAndAlicia

[geowrian 22,337]

10 minutes ago, MichaelAndAlicia said:

it took us only 6 months with the K1. wow.

 

so even with approved i130 and CR1... his adjustment of status probably wouldnt be approved later?

K-1 is taking 7-9 (or even 8-10) months now...the processing time there has shrunk and grown drastically in recent years.

 

A CR-1 visa doesn't do AOS. They get permanent residency upon entry.

[ramesesthe2nd 149]

9 hours ago, acidrain said:

This is simply incorrect. If you follow the Nebraska service center thread where the vast majority of CR1/IR1 filers are sent it is 9-10 months right now just for the i130 alone. When I first started the process i130's were only taking 5-6 months. However, the backlog at USCIS is getting worse and worse. I am not sure why USCIS took California out of centers to process regular i130's but they did. If a person is so lucky to get Potomac they might get finished the i130 process in 6 months. Vermont isn't processing very many i130's and Texas is probably closer to 7 months for a i130. I shudder to think where i130's are going to be in another 6 months. There is a serious problem at USCIS that nobody wants to deal with.

 

You add in NVC and Consulate processing and it puts the person well over 12 months. I think it's better to be honest about what the person will be dealing with. I was one of those people when I first started this process who thought immigrating from Canada I could get through the whole thing in 10 months. It's been over 9 months and I don't even have a i130 approved yet. I have been together with my spouse for over 12 years. We have been through many trials and tribulations but our relationship no doubt has been tested. What is going to make things difficult for this person is the back and forth trips to visit one another. I can speak to this as I do so every 7 weeks or so. I also deal with the border because of my own immigration situation. I have to explain what my current situation is and show proof of ties. It's a hassle and it's stressful because every time I enter the US I have no idea if they will let me visit.

 

The expense of this process is also trying. Having to pay for one place abroad and another place in the United States. If we had the option we would've gone the DCF route without a doubt but Canada does not offer it. I found once I got to 9 months of waiting things have become really difficult. I try not to be a needy person either. It's just tough to have a marriage when both people are living countries apart. You crave having a normal living situation. Unfortunately for this couple AOS will likely no longer be an option as it would be very obvious they had an intent to immigrate.

 

I would honestly assess the likelihood of success and whether it is worth to go through this process.

 

To be honest it's a thousand times easier to immigrate when you are just boyfriend and girlfriend. You don't have to go through the same kind of 1 yr separation as when you are married.

Well, they can't go back to being boyfriend girlfriend. They are already married. According to visa processing timelines for different processing centers it is taking about 6 months for I-130 approval and let's add another 3 to 6 months for NVC and visa processing stuff, so yeah 12 months is possible, but hope for the best and it might happen sooner. I know this is tough. I am going through the same process right now. 

Edited November 11, 2017 by ramesesthe2nd

[MichaelAndAlicia 1]

14 hours ago, ramesesthe2nd said:

Well, they can't go back to being boyfriend girlfriend. They are already married. According to visa processing timelines for different processing centers it is taking about 6 months for I-130 approval and let's add another 3 to 6 months for NVC and visa processing stuff, so yeah 12 months is possible, but hope for the best and it might happen sooner. I know this is tough. I am going through the same process right now. 

same type of situation where you left? or just the waiting game on immigration?

 

we are supposed to have a talk today about what we want. we'll see how it goes. it's been almost 3 weeks and it's getting to a point where a decision needs to be made. 1 month to let the dust settle. business or no business.

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

3 hours ago, MichaelAndAlicia said:

same type of situation where you left? or just the waiting game on immigration?

 

we are supposed to have a talk today about what we want. we'll see how it goes. it's been almost 3 weeks and it's getting to a point where a decision needs to be made. 1 month to let the dust settle. business or no business.

 

I really hope he has more than moved mountains to make this up to you.

 

You neglected to mention it here, but I was looking back on the forum and noticed that he also abandoned his new step-daughter as well, yeah?  I'm going to give you a little unsolicited advice woman to woman, especially as one who has a child from their first marriage... do not have children with this man and guard your daughter's heart.  Men who leave children always do it again.

[ramesesthe2nd 149]

4 hours ago, MichaelAndAlicia said:

same type of situation where you left? or just the waiting game on immigration?

 

we are supposed to have a talk today about what we want. we'll see how it goes. it's been almost 3 weeks and it's getting to a point where a decision needs to be made. 1 month to let the dust settle. business or no business.

Just the waiting game on immigration.

 

Good luck with whatever your decide. 

[MichaelAndAlicia 1]

1 hour ago, N-o-l-a said:

 

I really hope he has more than moved mountains to make this up to you.

 

You neglected to mention it here, but I was looking back on the forum and noticed that he also abandoned his new step-daughter as well, yeah?  I'm going to give you a little unsolicited advice woman to woman, especially as one who has a child from their first marriage... do not have children with this man and guard your daughter's heart.  Men who leave children always do it again.

 his dad left him too.

[MichaelAndAlicia 1]

mm yes but I do have to add that I am no angel LOL

 

my attitude is poor and I get stressed out after work (work in a childrens ICU)

 

he's not fully the bad guy BUT the leaving on no notice at all was just... what... at least tell me. don't surprise me when I come home from work with my keys in front of the door  even if we did have fights about him going home. I did deserve to know.

[ramesesthe2nd 149]

I think you guys should seek some professional counseling. You won't get marriage saving advice on this forum. 

[little immigrant 801]

What did you guys decide? 

[MichaelAndAlicia 1]

14 hours ago, ramesesthe2nd said:

I think you guys should seek some professional counseling. You won't get marriage saving advice on this forum. 

lol I'm not looking for professional counseling on this website. The goal of posting on here about it was to see if anyone else has gone through the same thing and what they did to get someone back over here