Can foreign spouse file divorce on Conditional GC?

[Going through 5,671]

If you two have any mutual friends, you may hear something through the grapevine as to how it all turns out for her later on.  

I'm glad you updated the thread, btw, so many leave us hanging in the wind afterwards.

[Chemist 2]

24 minutes ago, Going through said:

If you two have any mutual friends, you may hear something through the grapevine as to how it all turns out for her later on.  

I'm glad you updated the thread, btw, so many leave us hanging in the wind afterwards.

No mutual friends. I never met her friends or was introduced to any.  

 

But some things can be inferred from social media and whether or not she keeps her beauty license current.  

 

I think the process grinds on so frigging slowly that people forget to update things.  In my case, it will probably be well into year 2019 before I hear of anything more, if at all.

[Boiler 45,658]

I do not remember anybody in this situation been told what happened, well assuming they were not sill in contact with their ex.

 

But of course I do not read every posts and go missing from VJ every now and then.

 

Does anybody remember anything different.

 

There was that all time classic VJ threads from many years ago but seem to recollect she was from Russia and working in NJ, can not remember the posters name....

[mindthegap 2,590]

1 hour ago, shark101au said:

You can be a very annoying and rude individual.

Thanks mum

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

13 hours ago, Lemonslice said:

Others might ask themselves how you could move and leave her alone - she moved to Florida, halfway around the world, to be with you?  How was it ok to change the terms of your marriage by moving in completely different areas?   

I'm not saying your questions are wrong, just that there's a lot of factors and her reasons to get married, and then divorce might be right for her.  

I think you are being to hard on the man for taking a job to provide for his family. He clearly stated that he asked her to move up with him when he moved but she did not want to due to the lease. Sorry I would feel the same way as he does about this if my wife was working as a waitress and I got a high paying job somewhere else.

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

Please keep us updated.

[Lemonslice 4,886]

3 minutes ago, cyberfx1024 said:

I think you are being to hard on the man for taking a job to provide for his family. He clearly stated that he asked her to move up with him when he moved but she did not want to due to the lease. Sorry I would feel the same way as he does about this if my wife was working as a waitress and I got a high paying job somewhere else.

I think he did what he felt was right, but I can see many reasons why she would not want to move that have nothing to do with bad faith or immigration fraud. 

 

As much as I love my husband, there are plenty of places where I would not move to in the US - and if he made the decision without taking my opinion into account, hard discussions would happen and if we can't agree/find a compromise eventually I guess we would separate.  We all have our limits - he told us his, we don't know about hers.  

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

2 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

I think he did what he felt was right, but I can see many reasons why she would not want to move that have nothing to do with bad faith or immigration fraud. 

 

As much as I love my husband, there are plenty of places where I would not move to in the US - and if he made the decision without taking my opinion into account, hard discussions would happen and if we can't agree/find a compromise eventually I guess we would separate.  We all have our limits - he told us his, we don't know about hers.  

Well if you have no other choice then that is what your supposed to do.

 

We just made a move in December cross country for a job I took in NC. My wife was not happy about it at all because she would be leaving friends and conveniences she got used to having in CA. But she understood that I am the one working right now, so if I think it's right for the family then we go. She still not that all happy here but she is coming around in all aspects of it. It's all about what is best for the family overall and not in the short term, and quite frankly moving back to my home state of NC was best for us overall.

[Chemist 2]

9 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

As much as I love my husband, there are plenty of places where I would not move to in the US - and if he made the decision without taking my opinion into account, hard discussions would happen and if we can't agree/find a compromise eventually I guess we would separate.  We all have our limits - he told us his, we don't know about hers.  

I'll concede this point and it will depend on how my ex answers if she is asked.  She apparently had more options than I did.

 

But there are times in life where you have to do what you don't want because you have no choice.  We weren't doing well financially and was about to have my car repossessed which would have drastically reduced my ability to make any money.  Plus she wasn't sharing much info about how much she was making.  This was the only option.  I was doing the best I could to fullfill my responsibilities.

 

And I think it would be unjust for any wife to hold this against her spouse.  my opinion.

 

She did promise to move later to join me, but then broke this promise.  She obviously had other choices and she made them.

 

This does support the adage: Women have choices, men have responsibilities.  More true now than ever.

[Boiler 45,658]

3 minutes ago, cyberfx1024 said:

Well if you have no other choice then that is what your supposed to do.

 

We just made a move in December cross country for a job I took in NC. My wife was not happy about it at all because she would be leaving friends and conveniences she got used to having in CA. But she understood that I am the one working right now, so if I think it's right for the family then we go. She still not that all happy here but she is coming around in all aspects of it. It's all about what is best for the family overall and not in the short term, and quite frankly moving back to my home state of NC was best for us overall.

North Carolina, is that not where Farm Girl on You Tube lives!

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

3 minutes ago, Boiler said:

North Carolina, is that not where Farm Girl on You Tube lives!

And how do you know about farm girl?

[Boiler 45,658]

1 minute ago, cyberfx1024 said:

And how do you know about farm girl?

I subscribe.

[Villanelle 4,122]

Chemist- there was a thread on here in the last week stating the complete opposite of what youre claiming (pro-immigrant). It was a rant about how anti-immigrant the site and users are and how many users are dissuaded from attempting to visit or obtain immigrant visas via other paths besides family. I agree with the comments that the users on this site for the most part try to be factual. Sometimes its positive and what the poster wants to hear, other times its the blunt truth of the situation which is a potentially bad outcome. '

 

Most people on here are playing devils advocate and trying to present the other side of the story which may be her ability to ROC successfully. She has the min evidence you all submitted with the initial AOS application. She also has joint taxes (I assume since you didnt address that in any response that I saw). She has the fact that you left the joint lease/marital home. Yes it was for a good reason and you can argue she chose not to relocate with you so the fault of the breakup of the joint residence was hers but you have to at least acknowledge the material fact (which is the move and break up of the joint residence) can be viewed from either angle. She also has what holds the most weight her affidavit or answers in an interview. Since it is unknown what she told them already or will tell them in an interview one has to assume she will be 100% truthful and present the situation as you leaving her and a marriage that started out pure but turned into you guys just wanting different things.

 

As for her job its neither here nor there. Its a legal source of income. If you are counting on them considering it immoral and holding her against her - it wont happen. Also if she gets denied ROC and has to go to immigration court there are tons of pro-bono immigration lawyers that would be willing to help her. 

[Russ&Caro 1,549]

Chemist, the bottom line is:

1) the government rarely pursues reimbursement of the charges from sponsors for gov't services provided to immigrants.

2) lawsuits by immigrants against sponsors for support are also relatively rare, and successful lawsuits rarer still.

 

Seems to me if you already have a finalized divorce settlement that you're happy with then you're almost all of the way clear of any liability associated with her. If she really wanted to aggressively pursue funds from you then she probably would have done that through the divorce.

[Lemonslice 4,886]

2 hours ago, Boiler said:

I do not remember anybody in this situation been told what happened, well assuming they were not sill in contact with their ex.

 

But of course I do not read every posts and go missing from VJ every now and then.

 

Does anybody remember anything different.

 

There was that all time classic VJ threads from many years ago but seem to recollect she was from Russia and working in NJ, can not remember the posters name....

mcat had the craziest stories.