Confused

[Going through 5,671]

14 minutes ago, extremerecluse said:

Married here after K-1 visa. Her previous marriage ended when her husband passed away.

So do you now believe that the she is truly a widow, or you still believe the husband's death was faked?

I remember you earlier saying you'd seen the death certificate and have visited the grave.

Edited October 18, 2017 by Going through

[extremerecluse 32]

21 minutes ago, Going through said:

So do you now believe that the she is truly a widow, or you still believe the husband's death was faked?

I remember you earlier saying you'd seen the death certificate and have visited the grave.

According to documents I have seen, he is deceased. Immediately after the naturalization, out of the blue and insisting that I file. 0-150MPH in weeks!! The ex is interned with 2 other relatives. It just does not add up!

Edited October 18, 2017 by extremerecluse

[trudi 1,317]

I don't understand the connection between her previous husband being deceased and her requesting a divorce?

It could be that she has been unhappy in the marriage but thought her status in the US was tied to your marriage until she gained citizenship ( that's not correct but people have all kinds of incorrect beliefs around immigration status).

The only person that can answer your questions is your wife.

[Private One 44]

12 hours ago, Ebunoluwa said:

It still doesn't mean that her ex didn't die. If this is assumed by you based on the questions in the quote then you have really nothing to go on.
She wants you to file because of PI divorce/annulment law and in the future she may want to get married again, doesn't mean the ex is alive at all
or that it was an elaborate scam. 6 years of marriage pretty much points to a good faith marriage. I think you are over analyzing this.
You don't have to divorce her but can separate and let her deal with the divorce or you divorce and move on.
Sitting down with her and asking her why she wants a divorce may help you understand it all better.
 

This above quote says it best...

 

17 minutes ago, extremerecluse said:

According to documents I have seen, he is deceased. Immediately after the naturalization, out of the blue and insisting that I file. 0-150MPH in weeks!! The ex is interned with 2 other relatives. It just does not add up!

 

Don't know your spouse but your actions here will encourage sympathy for her. At least that's the case with me. I can see things turning sour if you're normally like this with your wild theories and accusations.

 

You're heading down the wrong road. If you want to save your marriage or get help with moving on, get professional help or seek advice in a more appropriate setting. This forum is not the place. At this point this isn't an immigration issue. Not sure it ever was.

 

 

Edited October 18, 2017 by Private One

[Going through 5,671]

24 minutes ago, extremerecluse said:

According to documents I have seen, he is deceased. Immediately after the naturalization, out of the blue and insisting that I file. 0-150MPH in weeks!! The ex is interned with 2 other relatives. It just does not add up!

It's quite possible that your wife was either:

 

A) Thinking about divorce before but waiting until the stress of her naturalization process was over with before dealing with the stress of an oncoming divorce.

B)  Not sure how to approach you about divorce until now.  It's not an easy thing to bring up in a marriage, especially if one partner thinks everything is hunky-dory in the relationship.

C) Feeling more independent as a person and ready to proceed with a divorce now that she has gained her citizenship (if she was thinking about divorce beforehand).

 

Or a combination of all 3.  You need to talk to your wife to be able to have it "add up".

Edited October 18, 2017 by Going through

[Boiler 45,516]

Sounds like there is nothing to do with Immigration.

 

One USC wants to divorce another.

[Nitas_man 3,100]

Either way if she is interned with relatives and wants a divorce tell her go file for it herself.  If she wants to marry someone from the Philippines she can file a K1 petition as a USC and have at it.  

 

Nothing you can do to make someone stay loyal to you dude - she wants out you have to man up and move on.  

[NikLR 13,227]

5 hours ago, Nitas_man said:

Either way if she is interned with relatives and wants a divorce tell her go file for it herself.  If she wants to marry someone from the Philippines she can file a K1 petition as a USC and have at it.  

 

Nothing you can do to make someone stay loyal to you dude - she wants out you have to man up and move on.  

The dead husband is interned with relatives aka buried in the same tomb.  

[RO_AH 1,659]

9 hours ago, extremerecluse said:

Married here after K-1 visa.

Did you do a ROM (Report of Marriage) either at a consulate or in the Philippines? If so that most likely is why she is asking you to file as plaintiff. If you did not do a ROM then it really doesn't matter who files. If it were me I would tell her if she wants to file go ahead and file and not ask you to do so, Bottom line is you can't force someone to be with you. I wouldn't want to be with someone that did not want to be with me.

 

To me there is no reason to believe (and you have not provided any) that her previous husband is not dead.

[Nitas_man 3,100]

18 hours ago, NikLR said:

The dead husband is interned with relatives aka buried in the same tomb.  

pffft duh I'm as confused as he is

[NikLR 13,227]

Im not confused at all.

 

Op's wife recently naturalized and now wants a divorce

 

OP's wife wants him to file so that if she remarries another Filipino one day, it is a legally recognized marriage in PI. 

 

Op for some reason thinks it has something to do with her dead husband who was Filipino but died in Saudi. 

 

This sudden declaration of wanting a divorce is rather mystifying to the OP but likely is not to his wife who we obviously cant talk to. 

Edited October 19, 2017 by NikLR