spouse changing mind how can she stay

[Dutchster 1,107]

Planning to find another husband and adjust through is fraud.

It will also raise some eyebrows at the USCIS. 

[Unlockable 7,315]

The more info we receive the more I agree with everyone else here. Have her cut her losses because this is not a good scenario to be in. Her status and future here is in the hands of someone who doesn't seem to care.

 

ETA: Just look at where she is at now. Without her husband the AOS will likely be denied and the few options she has not is to stay illegally or commit fraud. 

Edited October 17, 2017 by NuestraUnion

[mcdull 474]

23 minutes ago, kentwhowardjr said:

she did not leave him she has been offered a really good job but he doesn't want to move also she just found out he has a girlfriend. He is working but not making as much as he would if he moved with her. The thinking is that he doesn't want to move away from whatever it is he is doing. 

Sorry I am a bit confused.

 

So you would prefer to leave the husband for the good job offering, at the cost of losing status that you hold so dear, even going out of your ways to find a second husband to maintain?

 

Oh, I am sorry, I meant "Her"

[kentwhowardjr 0]

55 minutes ago, mcdull said:

Sorry I am a bit confused.

 

So you would prefer to leave the husband for the good job offering, at the cost of losing status that you hold so dear, even going out of your ways to find a second husband to maintain?

 

Oh, I am sorry, I meant "Her"

No her husband doesn’t want to do interview now plus he wants to stay because he met someone and wants divorce. She doesn’t know what to do also she has been offered a great job that is more than both of their incomes together. She would love to stay without having to stay married because he doesn’t want to be anymore. He tells his wife to give him $13,000 and he will go to interview and not divorce her.

[BuiQuang 95]

1 minute ago, kentwhowardjr said:

No her husband doesn’t want to do interview now plus he wants to stay because he met someone and wants divorce. She doesn’t know what to do also she has been offered a great job that is more than both of their incomes together. She would love to stay without having to stay married because he doesn’t want to be anymore. He tells his wife to give him $13,000 and he will go to interview and not divorce her.

no husband's I-864 no green card.  that simple.  no other way for her to stay.

 

pay is fraud.

 

divorce go home.  that simple.

[Boiler 45,686]

perhaps the company with the great job will sponsor her.

[usmsbow 802]

I have a hunch this "friend" really doesn't care about the marriage, just about the job opportunity. 

 

Questions: how can she work if she hasn't received her GC yet anyway? Did she get an EAD card at least? How does she know the opportunity will still be available when she finally can work? 

[Noe&Estella 57]

This horrible, if this girl/woman is looking to get remarried really quick in order for her to stay in the U.S gives me the suspicion that the first relationship of marriage wasn't even legit to start with. These are the kind of things that put real people that truly love each other into difficult situations in being with one another because people like this!!! Me and my wife miss each other horribly it breaks our hearts. Every passing day without her is like an arrow piercing me and here are people trying to cheat the system. As much as I miss her I rather do the right thing and not take the easy way out.

[Eric-Pris 1,607]

30 minutes ago, kentwhowardjr said:

No her husband doesn’t want to do interview now plus he wants to stay because he met someone and wants divorce. She doesn’t know what to do also she has been offered a great job that is more than both of their incomes together. She would love to stay without having to stay married because he doesn’t want to be anymore. He tells his wife to give him $13,000 and he will go to interview and not divorce her.

If your husband wants a divorce before the GC is approved, time to pack and go home.  He can change his mind about sponsoring you up to the point that it's approved.

 

Even if you pay him the money, there are no guarantees that he'll go to the interview, and if he does go, he may just say that you are using him for a green card and you'll still be deported, but $13,000 lighter.  If you tell CIS that you paid him money to stay married, you'll be admitting to visa fraud and lifetime ban.  And it would be his word against your anyway.

 

Cut your losses and go home.  Living in the US illegally with a child is no joke, especially with Trump.  If you get caught, you may get deported and your child may get left behind in custody of government.  I'm not sure if they could do that but the new boss is very strict as far as immigration goes.

 

Edited October 17, 2017 by Eric-Pris

[MsCompE 50]

1 hour ago, mcdull said:

Sorry I am a bit confused.

 

So you would prefer to leave the husband for the good job offering, at the cost of losing status that you hold so dear, even going out of your ways to find a second husband to maintain?

 

Oh, I am sorry, I meant "Her"

agree!

 

Its kinda fishy. She come here as a tourist, "Fell in love" and got married. Stayed and adjust. Find a job offer. Prioritize job over husband. Move out.

Doesnt seem like a "family re-unification" at all for an I-130 petition (family based petition)   

[caliliving 606]

meh i mean we cant tell her what to do.. if she wants to leave him she can stay here and be ILLEGAL! i guess and maybe she will find another husband someday to marry.  coming on a B2 you can find another husband to marry.. obviously, if it is quick she cant.  of course, the best option is to go home but hey, if she wants to stay and live illegally, who am i to judge? or she tries to work it out with her husband.. i dont understand what else you expect us to say here? 

[Boiler 45,686]

Maybe the job is not one where sponsorship is likely so she need the spousal route?

[sweetadams 138]

On 10/17/2017 at 2:34 PM, kentwhowardjr said:

No her husband doesn’t want to do interview now plus he wants to stay because he met someone and wants divorce. She doesn’t know what to do also she has been offered a great job that is more than both of their incomes together. She would love to stay without having to stay married because he doesn’t want to be anymore. He tells his wife to give him $13,000 and he will go to interview and not divorce her.

As others have suggested, there is no easy way out for her. But I think she asking her husband to move with her for the new job is a bit too much. The fact that husband and wife can work in different states and it won't affect relationship if there is an understanding between them. But nagging him and asking him to move and abandon his own life, family and job for you is way too much. 

You should both seek a marriage counselor and work out your marriage issue if the marriage is bonafide in the first place. Love you can fight for is better than job offer. Also your status is way bigger than any job offer. If you get your status settle, you can get any job, anytime....