I got scammed but can't prove it

[geowrian 22,338]

1 hour ago, SalandJaz said:

And the question of withdrawing the I-864 is not yet answered.

What still needs to be answered with it (trying to get back on topic)? You took all the steps necessary to withdraw it.

[NYCruiser 423]

7 hours ago, Merrytooth said:

Yep,  Do not ever be alone with her anymore, in case of any false domestic violence claim.

As you should know by now, she is probably staging a VAWA case against you by calling the cops on you (Oh she is so scared of you, might served you with restraining order as well).

 

Not sure if you can prevent her from coming back to your house since it is considered marital home. You should consult your divorce attorney for further advice.

 

Another thing, once she figures out she can't get her green card without you (K1 holder has to AOS with the original USC petitioner), she might have a 'change of heart' trying to reconcile with you.

Choose your steps wisely.

 

Would it be possible to leave your house and go rent a place or stay at a friends place? That way when she comes to the house, there is no one there? Since you have pulled the Affidavit, there is nothing she can do

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[caliliving 606]

how old is she? 

[LUAL 43]

8 hours ago, SalandJaz said:

Hi, I met a Filipina, dated her in the Philippines and finally brought her here on a K1 and we got married in February 2017. We waited until our wedding night to consummate but she has hyperthyroidism and asked to wait because she didn't feel like it, so I did, patiently. Months went by and she said she just had no libido anymore so she saw a doctor who could find nothing wrong. Then a gynecologist, who said all was normal, saying it is usually a mental/emotional thing with a woman that young (32). So, she went to a therapist and is supposed to try to get help there but she missed her appointment this week and I suspect it was all just a ruse anyway.

 

This woman is the 2nd Filipina I have sponsored. The first one I met and sponsored over 10 years ago she went all the way to Permanent Status and a baby before she secretely found a very rich man to leave me for. After it was all over, I thought, "They (Filipinas) can't ALL be bad, right? So I went over there and found another who seemed so compatible so I took another chance. I just love Filipina women and have a thing for them, but not anymore.

 

Last Thursday, my wife got her EAD and AP card. We have been waiting for the notice for her AOS interview but it has not come to our Po box yet. On Friday, she started a fight with me, which is very out of character for her.  Then, later that night, I found out she had been talking to my Filipina ex-wife and I confronted her about it and she got really mad, denying it but we argued hotly over it because she said she didn't even have my ex-wife's phone number.  While I was out, she packed a suitcase, and left and then the Police came asking what happened. I told them we had an argument and when I got back, she was gone.

 

The cops said my wife had gone to the Police Station (how? she has no car and can't drive. Who took her?) to say she was scared of me but that there was no physical abuse and since there were no threats or physical harm, there were no charges and nothing more would come of it. So, she has left with no forwarding address. On Saturday, she sent me a text saying she's coming back, but doesn't know when butthat she left because she is so scared of me but I know that's not the truth. I began to dig and found she has been in constant communications with my ex-wife since June 6th, sometimes, hundreds of texts a day to each other. In addition, she's been in phone contact with at least 4 different men. I google the numbers and found them all and they are all single. She is also texting numerous local people I don't know dozens of times a day that I never knew about. We are - or I thought we were - a private couple, just living together but now I see that while alone, she has been very busy texting and making phone calls.

 

I now believe she came here only to get a green card, she must have changed her address on the USCIS website and intercepted the notice of interview for AOS or they just granted it without an interview. She of course never said anything about these people, saying she knows no one here except me. I pay the phone bills and I have access to all the calls and texts made, the phone numbers, to and from, but no content. I never looked at her phone activity because I trusted her fully. Now, I wish I had been more vigilant. Let that be a lesson to all.

 

To me, it all adds up to a scam marriage ....no sex, secret men friends, secretly talking to my ex-wife and then suddenly disappearing right after getting her EAD and right about the time she was supposed to get her AOS interview or approval without an interview.  Her name is not on anything besides the marriage certificate.

 

On Monday, I wrote up a letter officially asking to withdraw my I-864 and hand delivered it to the nearest USCIS office and gave it to a USCIS Immigration Officer who said she'd enter it in the record but I don't really know if she did or not and I don't know if by then it was too late already, she didn't say. Before I went there, I sent the same withdrawal request via express overnight mail to the USCIS addresss we sent the I-131 package too and I sent a copy to the Benefits Center in Missouri. I'm hoping I got it in on time but it doesn't appear so. How can I check that? The current Status says USCIS that as of September 18, 2017, they were ready to schedule and interview and would send a notice with the date but as I said, its now October 6, and it has not arrived in the PO box we put on the I-131, so I rather think she anticipated doing this and changed the address to a place she could intercept it, go on the interview without me, tell them that everything was fine and perhaps USCIS granted the 2 year GC to her without me knowing it.

 

I know I should have not married this woman but I did enter the marriage in good faith but she didn't.  I think it was her plan from the beginning to scam me to get a GC. What should I do? I don't want to be on the hook for her after this. I have a divorce attorney standing by but divorce is the easy part. I want her deported or at least I want out of the I-864 but if I was too late, then I'm screwed. She can't work because of her illness, she has no skills, no job, no money, no car. What are my options? Thanks in advance.

 

Stop sponsoring filipinas omg!!! 

[Redheadguy03 505]

20 minutes ago, LUAL said:

Stop sponsoring filipinas omg!!! 

Hey, they aren't all bad. My Filipina wife is absolutely amazing, she is supportive and loving. Their are good and bad in every country. 

[LUAL 43]

12 minutes ago, Redheadguy03 said:

Hey, they aren't all bad. My Filipina wife is absolutely amazing, she is supportive and loving. Their are good and bad in every country. 

I never said that. I told the guy to stop brining in filipinas because apparently he is not able to find the good ones. 

[Murph4865 597]

I just think it is very sad that someone who has a heart brings someone from a poverty stricten country to give them better life and they get screwed.

Edited October 7, 2017 by Murph4865

[NikLR 13,231]

30 minutes ago, Murph4865 said:

I just think it is very sad that someone who has a heart brings someone from a poverty stricten country to give them better life and they get screwed.

You should marry someone because you love them, not because they're from a poverty stricken country and you want to help them.  If that's the case, send them money or things, but don't marry them.  Regardless you can only control your own actions.  You cannot control someone else. 

[caliliving 606]

1 hour ago, Murph4865 said:

I just think it is very sad that someone who has a heart brings someone from a poverty stricten country to give them better life and they get screwed.

This is exactly why people put themselves in awful situations!!!!
"i am bringing this girl/guy from a poverty stricken country to give them a better life"

you are just setting yourself up for disaster:/ 

we also see the opposite side where a spouse feels like they can control the foreigner because 'i saved you from that life' "you should feel so lucky you met me, where would you have been without me?" ughhh:/

 

marry someone because you love them!!! Stop being so desperate! and like the post above said, marry someone within your league and recognize that!  people need to be less delusion to what their looks are and understand what they have to 'offer' a foreigner.. ie. unemployed and on disability:/ 

[Coco8 1,042]

You cannot be surprised of this "scam marriage". You went to look for a wife as if you were adopting a puppy at the pound. But people are not puppies.

[Birveonrty 110]

13 hours ago, SalandJaz said:

Hi, I met a Filipina, dated her in the Philippines and finally brought her here on a K1 and we got married in February 2017. We waited until our wedding night to consummate but she has hyperthyroidism and asked to wait because she didn't feel like it, so I did, patiently. Months went by and she said she just had no libido anymore so she saw a doctor who could find nothing wrong. Then a gynecologist, who said all was normal, saying it is usually a mental/emotional thing with a woman that young (32). So, she went to a therapist and is supposed to try to get help there but she missed her appointment this week and I suspect it was all just a ruse anyway.

 

This woman is the 2nd Filipina I have sponsored. The first one I met and sponsored over 10 years ago she went all the way to Permanent Status and a baby before she secretely found a very rich man to leave me for. After it was all over, I thought, "They (Filipinas) can't ALL be bad, right? So I went over there and found another who seemed so compatible so I took another chance. I just love Filipina women and have a thing for them, but not anymore.

 

Last Thursday, my wife got her EAD and AP card. We have been waiting for the notice for her AOS interview but it has not come to our Po box yet. On Friday, she started a fight with me, which is very out of character for her.  Then, later that night, I found out she had been talking to my Filipina ex-wife and I confronted her about it and she got really mad, denying it but we argued hotly over it because she said she didn't even have my ex-wife's phone number.  While I was out, she packed a suitcase, and left and then the Police came asking what happened. I told them we had an argument and when I got back, she was gone.

 

The cops said my wife had gone to the Police Station (how? she has no car and can't drive. Who took her?) to say she was scared of me but that there was no physical abuse and since there were no threats or physical harm, there were no charges and nothing more would come of it. So, she has left with no forwarding address. On Saturday, she sent me a text saying she's coming back, but doesn't know when butthat she left because she is so scared of me but I know that's not the truth. I began to dig and found she has been in constant communications with my ex-wife since June 6th, sometimes, hundreds of texts a day to each other. In addition, she's been in phone contact with at least 4 different men. I google the numbers and found them all and they are all single. She is also texting numerous local people I don't know dozens of times a day that I never knew about. We are - or I thought we were - a private couple, just living together but now I see that while alone, she has been very busy texting and making phone calls.

 

I now believe she came here only to get a green card, she must have changed her address on the USCIS website and intercepted the notice of interview for AOS or they just granted it without an interview. She of course never said anything about these people, saying she knows no one here except me. I pay the phone bills and I have access to all the calls and texts made, the phone numbers, to and from, but no content. I never looked at her phone activity because I trusted her fully. Now, I wish I had been more vigilant. Let that be a lesson to all.

 

To me, it all adds up to a scam marriage ....no sex, secret men friends, secretly talking to my ex-wife and then suddenly disappearing right after getting her EAD and right about the time she was supposed to get her AOS interview or approval without an interview.  Her name is not on anything besides the marriage certificate.

 

On Monday, I wrote up a letter officially asking to withdraw my I-864 and hand delivered it to the nearest USCIS office and gave it to a USCIS Immigration Officer who said she'd enter it in the record but I don't really know if she did or not and I don't know if by then it was too late already, she didn't say. Before I went there, I sent the same withdrawal request via express overnight mail to the USCIS addresss we sent the I-131 package too and I sent a copy to the Benefits Center in Missouri. I'm hoping I got it in on time but it doesn't appear so. How can I check that? The current Status says USCIS that as of September 18, 2017, they were ready to schedule and interview and would send a notice with the date but as I said, its now October 6, and it has not arrived in the PO box we put on the I-131, so I rather think she anticipated doing this and changed the address to a place she could intercept it, go on the interview without me, tell them that everything was fine and perhaps USCIS granted the 2 year GC to her without me knowing it.

 

I know I should have not married this woman but I did enter the marriage in good faith but she didn't.  I think it was her plan from the beginning to scam me to get a GC. What should I do? I don't want to be on the hook for her after this. I have a divorce attorney standing by but divorce is the easy part. I want her deported or at least I want out of the I-864 but if I was too late, then I'm screwed. She can't work because of her illness, she has no skills, no job, no money, no car. What are my options? Thanks in advance.

 

Hi! Is it ok to know her real full name? I am a Filipino too and I join Filipino community group in FB. Just so sad to hear gold diggers Pinoy...grrrrrrr

[Holt 73]

Just now, Birveonrty said:

Hi! Is it ok to know her real full name? I am a Filipino too and I join Filipino community group in FB. Just so sad to hear gold diggers Pinoy...grrrrrrr

Do you think it is appropriate to say it here? 

However, I think it is not, maybe you could private message him though. 

[Latonia 29]

I read on a case some years ago... where this couple got married but never consummated their marriage so the judge over the case considered their marriage as nonexistent...meaning it was not a marriage without consummating.....but its up to you and your life what you decide to do but if both of you went to doctors about this issue then you have your proof of how you want to proceed but make your decision carefully and not out of revenge.... 

[Birveonrty 110]

6 minutes ago, Holt said:

Do you think it is appropriate to say it here? 

However, I think it is not, maybe you could private message him though. 

Thanks! I just sent him private message.

Honestly saying, I am a Filipina but I am very picky when it comes to friendship. There are many out there who are users.

[Holt 73]

1 minute ago, Birveonrty said:

Thanks! I just sent him private message.

Honestly saying, I am a Filipina but I am very picky when it comes to friendship. There are many out there who are users.

Hahaha, agree. I am very picky of choosing close friends. I don't usually trust someone until they have proved to me they are trustful. 

I hope human beings don't use love to bind other people.