I got scammed but can't prove it

[MikeandThea 11]

Just now, BuiQuang said:

why do u care what happen to her in 2 years?  what difference to you after u divorce?  other already told u that her problem not ur

Thanks for the reply. I'm hoping that there will be some reason for USCIS to deny her a 10 year GC and possibly put her into removal proceedings. I'm hoping that she will not have any proof of a bona fide marriage...or not enough proof, and that she cannot respond to any RFE on the subject. In short, I want her plan to fail. She used me and I'm hoping she be sent away. IF she gets her AOS approved and stays in this country, I don't want to be held financially responsible for her

[MikeandThea 11]

18 minutes ago, Merrytooth said:

If she gets her 2 year conditional green card, she has to file for ROC I-751 with divorce waiver either immediately after divorce or 90 days before the green card expiration date.

1) She has to submit her divorce decree, evidence of bona fide marriages (e.g. financial co-mingled documents, joint ownerships.. etc)
2) If she can't provide any evidence, her ROC will most likely be denied and she will be placed in removal proceedings. 
 

** Note One can still file for ROC I-751 even if the marriage is annulled.

(As far as immigration is concerned, it's treated like a divorce; the foreign spouse just has to show good faith marriage).

 

Some people said to get divorce or annulment based on fraud, it will make it harder for to prove she married in good faith

Thanks very much for your input, I really appreciate it as it is helping to put my mind at ease. You see, with her medical condition, I can see her being on welfare for the rest of her life. She has done nothing since she got here except some minor house cleaning and cooking on my work days. She stayed locked in her room 18 hours a day, only coming out to eat and shower. Now I know she was in there texting up a plan to leave me. I just don't want to have to support her financially for the rest of my life, or hers. Again, thanks.

[MeAlone 161]

2 hours ago, SalandJaz said:

Hi, I met a Filipina, dated her in the Philippines and finally brought her here on a K1 and we got married in February 2017. We waited until our wedding night to consummate but she has hyperthyroidism and asked to wait because she didn't feel like it, so I did, patiently. Months went by and she said she just had no libido anymore so she saw a doctor who could find nothing wrong. Then a gynecologist, who said all was normal, saying it is usually a mental/emotional thing with a woman that young (32). So, she went to a therapist and is supposed to try to get help there but she missed her appointment this week and I suspect it was all just a ruse anyway.

 

This woman is the 2nd Filipina I have sponsored. The first one I met and sponsored over 10 years ago she went all the way to Permanent Status and a baby before she secretely found a very rich man to leave me for. After it was all over, I thought, "They (Filipinas) can't ALL be bad, right? So I went over there and found another who seemed so compatible so I took another chance. I just love Filipina women and have a thing for them, but not anymore.

 

Last Thursday, my wife got her EAD and AP card. We have been waiting for the notice for her AOS interview but it has not come to our Po box yet. On Friday, she started a fight with me, which is very out of character for her.  Then, later that night, I found out she had been talking to my Filipina ex-wife and I confronted her about it and she got really mad, denying it but we argued hotly over it because she said she didn't even have my ex-wife's phone number.  While I was out, she packed a suitcase, and left and then the Police came asking what happened. I told them we had an argument and when I got back, she was gone.

 

The cops said my wife had gone to the Police Station (how? she has no car and can't drive. Who took her?) to say she was scared of me but that there was no physical abuse and since there were no threats or physical harm, there were no charges and nothing more would come of it. So, she has left with no forwarding address. On Saturday, she sent me a text saying she's coming back, but doesn't know when butthat she left because she is so scared of me but I know that's not the truth. I began to dig and found she has been in constant communications with my ex-wife since June 6th, sometimes, hundreds of texts a day to each other. In addition, she's been in phone contact with at least 4 different men. I google the numbers and found them all and they are all single. She is also texting numerous local people I don't know dozens of times a day that I never knew about. We are - or I thought we were - a private couple, just living together but now I see that while alone, she has been very busy texting and making phone calls.

 

I now believe she came here only to get a green card, she must have changed her address on the USCIS website and intercepted the notice of interview for AOS or they just granted it without an interview. She of course never said anything about these people, saying she knows no one here except me. I pay the phone bills and I have access to all the calls and texts made, the phone numbers, to and from, but no content. I never looked at her phone activity because I trusted her fully. Now, I wish I had been more vigilant. Let that be a lesson to all.

 

To me, it all adds up to a scam marriage ....no sex, secret men friends, secretly talking to my ex-wife and then suddenly disappearing right after getting her EAD and right about the time she was supposed to get her AOS interview or approval without an interview.  Her name is not on anything besides the marriage certificate.

 

On Monday, I wrote up a letter officially asking to withdraw my I-864 and hand delivered it to the nearest USCIS office and gave it to a USCIS Immigration Officer who said she'd enter it in the record but I don't really know if she did or not and I don't know if by then it was too late already, she didn't say. Before I went there, I sent the same withdrawal request via express overnight mail to the USCIS addresss we sent the I-131 package too and I sent a copy to the Benefits Center in Missouri. I'm hoping I got it in on time but it doesn't appear so. How can I check that? The current Status says USCIS that as of September 18, 2017, they were ready to schedule and interview and would send a notice with the date but as I said, its now October 6, and it has not arrived in the PO box we put on the I-131, so I rather think she anticipated doing this and changed the address to a place she could intercept it, go on the interview without me, tell them that everything was fine and perhaps USCIS granted the 2 year GC to her without me knowing it.

 

I know I should have not married this woman but I did enter the marriage in good faith but she didn't.  I think it was her plan from the beginning to scam me to get a GC. What should I do? I don't want to be on the hook for her after this. I have a divorce attorney standing by but divorce is the easy part. I want her deported or at least I want out of the I-864 but if I was too late, then I'm screwed. She can't work because of her illness, she has no skills, no job, no money, no car. What are my options? Thanks in advance.

 

if the marriage wasn't consummated, ask your attorney to do the marriage annulment, not divorce, then based on that maybe you can tell to USCIS it was a fraud

[MaleAlpha 314]

Adding my 2 cents.

 

Everything you indicated seems to show she screwed you. Good thing is, she hasn't received her green card yet so you can pull the i-864 which you have done. That should kill the petition.

 

Regarding next steps, I will just reiterate what everyone has been saying and sum it up here :

1. File an annulment instead of a divorce as that will help you best as she could get nasty with a divorce and you will be in the hole if you have property etc. that she wants (Divorce court doesn't really care about your immigration issues). Annulment on the basis of fraud and non-consummation will serve your best interest BUT keep in mind that an annulment may not be smooth as there is no way for you to prove the marriage wasn't consummated - she could lie. She could also argue it wasn't fraudulent.

 

2. Do not let her trick you back into a relationship nor get close to you without a trusted third party present. If you have to stay in a hotel or with a friend until this episode ends, go for it. Trust me, that will save you a lot of headache later regarding VAWA and having trumped up abuse and assault criminal charges pinned on you.

 

3. Once this episode is over and you are no longer married to her and have successfully withdrawn your i-864, MOVE ON. Whether she chooses to stick around in the US, go back, get's deported, get's married to a new person etc.should no longer be your concern. Karma will take care of it.

 

I wish you a happy life and sorry about everything you're going through.

Edited October 6, 2017 by MaleAlpha

[geowrian 22,338]

An annulment won't be treated any differently than a divorce for USICS. If/how it impacts the separation can be another issue, but it won't impact her ability to ROC or if USCIS will pursue an investigation.

[DrEllaNJ 288]

2 hours ago, SalandJaz said:

I'm hoping I got it in on time but it doesn't appear so. How can I check that? The current Status says USCIS that as of September 18, 2017, they were ready to schedule and interview and would send a notice with the date but as I said, its now October 6, and it has not arrived in the PO box we put on the I-131, so I rather think she anticipated doing this and changed the address to a place she could intercept it, go on the interview without me, tell them that everything was fine and perhaps USCIS granted the 2 year GC to her without me knowing it.

If that's what the case status currently says, it's highly unlikely she already got the AOS approved. With you withdrawing the i-864, it becomes even harder. If there's an interview, she won't be approved if you're not there as bringing your spouse is a requirement. If I remember correctly, my status changed to 'your interview has been scheduled. A notice has been sent to you with the interview date' when the interview was actually scheduled. Once the green card was approved,  it changed to 'petition approved, card in production' / 'a card has been mailed to you through USPS -track it here'.

 

With K1, a lot of people don't have to do an interview, though. I didn't go through K1 so I don't know if your updates would be different?

Edited October 6, 2017 by DrEllaNJ

[Jawaree 718]

I say divorce her, if you can withdraw the affidavit do so, send a certified letter to USCIS explaining everything & letting them know the marriage was never consummated...Move quickly be wise, dont be alone with her or take her back

she's looking at going the VAWA route when she went to the police

[Unlockable 7,315]

You have already gotten so very good advice on here. I just want to add something from my wife's and my experience. My wife's green card arrived in the mail exactly one week after her EAD/AP card arrived. So although it is unlikely that her GC is approved when she just received her EAD/AP, it is very possible that it could already be approved.

 

Since consummation never occurred, annulment is an option, although, discussing this option with your lawyer to see how difficult/time consuming it will be would be the best way to go for now.

 

Heed the advice from others to protect yourself and not be alone with her.

 

Edited October 6, 2017 by NuestraUnion

[sy1983 31]

Whilst she is stuck in the U.S at the moment, go back to her hometown and do some digging and make sure her life is miserable

when she gets deported back and have nothing to live for. 

[Gro 8]

She told you she will be back and I somehow doubt you can keep her out of the house since she's still your wife, it's her home too. Not sure if this differs from state to state though? If she does come back you should think about moving in somewhere else temporarily as you do not want to be alone with her, not even for a minute.

[MaleAlpha 314]

7 minutes ago, sy1983 said:

Whilst she is stuck in the U.S at the moment, go back to her hometown and do some digging and make sure her life is miserable

when she gets deported back and have nothing to live for. 

I don't think that will be necessary. That's spending extra money on a lost cause. 

I personally believe in not purposefully making another person's life horrible. Spite and revenge only creates more misery or makes it worse.

I will suggest he does what he's supposed to do : revoking the i-864 petition, filing for annulment or divorce and moving on. 

 

And while he's at it, perhaps time to find an American wife if he so chooses to go down that path again since the whole international wifey thing isn't working for him.

 

Edited October 6, 2017 by MaleAlpha

[Eric-Pris 1,607]

1 hour ago, geowrian said:

An annulment won't be treated any differently than a divorce for USICS. If/how it impacts the separation can be another issue, but it won't impact her ability to ROC or if USCIS will pursue an investigation.

I have a hard time believing that an annulment based on fraud won't hurt her chances for ROC.

 

But I think we are getting ahead of ourselves.  I don't think she got AOS approved yet, based on the timeline.  If she just received her EAD/AP, the chances that she got the GC at the same time is almost none.  If not, then you pulling the I-864 would end it there.

 

*** FYI- If she has an AOS interview, you MUST attend or she gets denied.

 

Go for the annulment based on not consummating the marriage.  If she lies, use the medical appointments as evidence where she was treated for not having any libido.  I don't think it would be too hard for you to win that.

 

Like others said, stay away from her since you know her motives completely.

 

Once she realizes that her coach did a bad job in setting up her scam, something tells me that her libido will be ready to go.  Don't fall for it. 

 

Edited October 6, 2017 by Eric-Pris

[MaleAlpha 314]

2 minutes ago, Eric-Pris said:

I have a hard time believing that an annulment based on fraud won't hurt her chances for ROC.

 

But I think we are getting ahead of ourselves.  I don't think she got AOS approved yet, based on the timeline.  If she just received her EAD/AP, the chances that she got the GC at the same time is almost none.  If not, then you pulling the I-864 would end it there.

 

Go for the annulment based on not consummating the marriage.  If she lies, use the medical appointments as evidence where she was treated for not having any libido.  I don't think it would be too hard for you to win that.

 

Like others said, stay away from her since you know her motives completely.

 

Once she realizes that her coach did a bad job in setting up her scam, something tells me that her libido will be ready to go.  Don't fall for it. 

I like this part 'Once she realizes that her coach did a bad job in setting up her scam, something tells me that her libido will be ready to go.  Don't fall for it. '. Not to be speculative here but she's probably been slinging that libido to a long list of takers all this while 

[geowrian 22,338]

40 minutes ago, NuestraUnion said:

My wife's green card arrived in the mail exactly one week after her EAD/AP card arrived. So although it is unlikely that her GC is approved when she just received her EAD/AP, it is very possible that it could already be approved.

Very true, it is possible. Then again, your AOS only took around 80 days...you lucky SOB.

 

1 minute ago, Eric-Pris said:

I have a hard time believing that an annulment based on fraud won't hurt her chances for ROC.

There's yet to show any evidence of it impacting the process, and others who had an annulment for fraud who have gone through the process successfully. This especially if the annulment is due to the marriage not being consummated, which USCIS doesn't care about (well, except in proxy marriages, but that "consummation" is just meeting in person).

[MeAlone 161]

Go for annulment, even if the judge doesn't give you the annulment, he/she gives you the divorce anyway in the same case