I129F April 2017 filers -Part 2

[mcs 686]

Congratulations!!! 

 

[PygmyPuff 157]

17 hours ago, Salty2305 said:

I think you'll have some luck next week  Yeah I booked it this morning for Thursday 12th! They only had 2 time slots available on all of the days I looked at which were 12.30pm & 1pm so that's something to bear in mind!

Congrats on booking you're interview! Was the 12th the first appointment available?

[PygmyPuff 157]

9 hours ago, CE and JR said:

We just got our NOA2! 164 days. Casetracker and online still hasn't updated, but I had submitted an inquiry to USCIS and we just reached the 15 day response period today, so they sent and email saying the case had been approved Sept 27th.

 

The California Service Center no longer has jurisdiction over your petition, which our records indicate was approved on September 27, 2017, and is currently in transit to the U.S. Department of State, Consular Section, for K-1 visa processing.

 

A bit annoying since I called and talked to a tier 2 on the 27th who was rude and said its still processing and we need to wait til outside of normal processing times, but doesn't matter now! On to the next step! 

Yayy!! Congratulations!!

[Estibaliz 3,037]

3 hours ago, AnJ Co said:

Congratulations on such a speedy post NVC run through the embassy, PH embassy sure is FAST but we won't tell @Estibaliz   

 

 

 

I got to the finish line first, so yeah, you can laugh as much as you want at  my 'slow' Embassy

Edited September 30, 2017 by Estibaliz

[Estibaliz 3,037]

Lol, @AnJ Co, don't hit me with a crying face, I was talking about the post NOA2 part till visa in hand

 

[AnJ Co 1,676]

11 minutes ago, Estibaliz said:

Lol, @AnJ Co, don't hit me with a crying face, I was talking about the post NOA2 part till visa in hand

 

    I knew that would get you!!!!

 

However, it isn't quite fair how uscis gave you a HEAD START  bahahahaha   

[Salty2305 504]

1 hour ago, PygmyPuff said:

Congrats on booking you're interview! Was the 12th the first appointment available?

Thanks, yes the 12th was the first one available

[PygmyPuff 157]

26 minutes ago, Salty2305 said:

Thanks, yes the 12th was the first one available

Awesome! Okay, so about 2 weeks out, that's not too bad

[Estibaliz 3,037]

1 hour ago, AnJ Co said:

    I knew that would get you!!!!

 

However, it isn't quite fair how uscis gave you a HEAD START  bahahahaha   

Agreed!

[amishbaby 407]

He opened the packet finally after we weren't sure and were hesitating and finishing up other stuff today. It is the visa,  so now we just schedule his flight! I guess now we hope POE is smooth sailing. Thanks to all who responded and sorry for not personally replying. Even though today is supposed to be joyous and exciting, things in the past 2 weeks have been intense for me and difficult and I'm just trying to keep it together. Maybe as soon as he gets here, things will change for the better. It's so much problems that are outside our relationship and have nothing to do with us that just make stress pile up. I have the worst coping skills in the world, and my father who contacts me about once or twice within the year, and doesn't hold a conversation for even 2 messages back and forth, scolded me in messenger on FB after about 5 months since he last sent me a message to let me know about a women he wanted me to tell that I didn't know about paternity results? He told me without telling me and I found out through her. They both kept it hush hush and didn't let either of us know. He didn't want to accept me as his own child with DNA results, until I was 4 years old, and I stopped seeing him from the age of 7 to 20 and only have talked to him every 6 months on average. He had the audacity to ask me why I didn't invite him to my wedding, asking me why I don't show him that I love him or care for him and I messaged him trying to see how he was doing about 2 months ago, and he just read my message. I asked him why he wasn't talking and asked why he wasn't responding, and he read and ignored that as well. This is the message since that attempt 2 months or maybe 3 months ago, and he messaged me 5 months ago and I asked him what he was talking about when he said paternity results. He read that and ignored me, and I tried many times after that to reach him so I gave up. 2 months ago I tried again, and failed. Now he wants to talk to me and apparently I am the one ignoring and not showing interest at all. We never had a relationship and I'm 23, he just says he cares and loves me but never acts like he does. He was always focused on other women and was very abusive and I remember some stuff that I can barely believe myself. I truthfully try to do the right thing, and contacted him a few even though he always ignores my messages, and has taken off in the middle of a emotional breakdown, trying to ask me what was wrong and then bailing in the middle after I started to open up. I think for some reason I randomly had this feeling all of a sudden that I wish I had a relationship with my father, but it went away really quick and since then I just see him come and go in my inbox but when I respond, nothing back. I'm not hurting from what he is doing since I am so accustomed to it and it's nothing anymore, but it's a shame because he's addicted to cocaine and has always beat his girlfriends. Conversations are crazy with him, and has told me stuff I didn't want to know, and very disgusting to post without warning from him. No reason for it, like I am just a random friend of his to tell his weird messed up affairs to when he showed up randomly at my house last year for the first time without warning. We talked for the first time the longest I can recall. I think he is truly sick, and I'm thinking I should get him out of my life ASAP. He gaslighted me the other day saying I never message him when I can even capture the messages and send them right back, to prove to him I have, but he would only lie and make up something else and pretend when he knows he doesn't want me to be in his life. When I try, he just ignores, but apparently I never contact him period. The worst part about all of this is I found out in the summer that I have a brother who is 16 turning 17 in about 7 days, and my dad kept it from me and his entire family since he was born. I have only known him for a few months. I found out when he randomly decided to message me, since that isn't something that happens often. Maybe once or twice a year and tries to say he missed me and wanted to be in my life, when he knew where I lived and acted like I had to make a decision when I said he can visit. He came before, and I never asked him to. I just think he is trying to intentionally hurt me. I wanted to give him a chance, but he only will message me when he's lonely and has no woman around. I know he is never single for a week, and he jumps in and out of relationships. He is so toxic and why I am even bothered about this is probably what he intended for me to feel... Just wants me to feel bad but it's so delusional and I know psychopaths, and that is a huge thing to label him as, but everything is pointing to this and I just been down in the dumps knowing people do this kind of stuff. Sadly, I never seemed to pick the right people in the past and they all were similar like him. I question how I am the way I am, because my mom suffers from neurological problems but she doesn't come across that way, just certain tiny things that make her a little different that are normal to me. She is definitely nothing like my dad so I almost can't believe they met but it makes sense because she's sincere, and he's not. It's almost like nothing is wrong and you wouldn't suspect it unless I talked about it, which I have become good at bottling. I'm just happy that I have no pathological lying issues. I guess my past and this recent event has triggered this feeling. I just wanted to let this out, and recently decided blogging was the answer since I'm going to school for marketing as my major. I didn't post yet, but I'm thinking it might be the answer. I'm glad I know good people exist, and I don't struggle with his issues, because god only knows if you truly seen this you would wonder the same. I'm just thankful, and filled with different emotions, so thanks to all of you for reading this in all my little rambles that seems to be me complaining. I am really happy that my life didn't go in a direction it could have gone. Thankfully, at a young age the courts had him removed forcefully because of his abuse. But I let him back since he tried to contact me through my aunt. Should I just block him, and be done with it? I don't want to try when I know who he is and what he's doing. I can live without him since he has seen me, maybe 7 weeks total in combination, in my entire life. I guess I'm not certain what is going on in my head.  I'm confused. I really don't care yet it seems like I do and I'm not lying to myself... I feel like I'm losing it almost, or maybe I have at this point. Who knows. But, I'm super happy at the end of the day when I think about what the future holds. So, maybe all I needed to do was talk or write about this and it feels better writing this and letting it out even if it's not directly to other people. 

If this is too personal, I apologize for posting this. It felt right to me to share to you guys. Helpful as well.

[fatima& abdi 168]

4 hours ago, amishbaby said:

He opened the packet finally after we weren't sure and were hesitating and finishing up other stuff today. It is the visa,  so now we just schedule his flight! I guess now we hope POE is smooth sailing. Thanks to all who responded and sorry for not personally replying. Even though today is supposed to be joyous and exciting, things in the past 2 weeks have been intense for me and difficult and I'm just trying to keep it together. Maybe as soon as he gets here, things will change for the better. It's so much problems that are outside our relationship and have nothing to do with us that just make stress pile up. I have the worst coping skills in the world, and my father who contacts me about once or twice within the year, and doesn't hold a conversation for even 2 messages back and forth, scolded me in messenger on FB after about 5 months since he last sent me a message to let me know about a women he wanted me to tell that I didn't know about paternity results? He told me without telling me and I found out through her. They both kept it hush hush and didn't let either of us know. He didn't want to accept me as his own child with DNA results, until I was 4 years old, and I stopped seeing him from the age of 7 to 20 and only have talked to him every 6 months on average. He had the audacity to ask me why I didn't invite him to my wedding, asking me why I don't show him that I love him or care for him and I messaged him trying to see how he was doing about 2 months ago, and he just read my message. I asked him why he wasn't talking and asked why he wasn't responding, and he read and ignored that as well. This is the message since that attempt 2 months or maybe 3 months ago, and he messaged me 5 months ago and I asked him what he was talking about when he said paternity results. He read that and ignored me, and I tried many times after that to reach him so I gave up. 2 months ago I tried again, and failed. Now he wants to talk to me and apparently I am the one ignoring and not showing interest at all. We never had a relationship and I'm 23, he just says he cares and loves me but never acts like he does. He was always focused on other women and was very abusive and I remember some stuff that I can barely believe myself. I truthfully try to do the right thing, and contacted him a few even though he always ignores my messages, and has taken off in the middle of a emotional breakdown, trying to ask me what was wrong and then bailing in the middle after I started to open up. I think for some reason I randomly had this feeling all of a sudden that I wish I had a relationship with my father, but it went away really quick and since then I just see him come and go in my inbox but when I respond, nothing back. I'm not hurting from what he is doing since I am so accustomed to it and it's nothing anymore, but it's a shame because he's addicted to cocaine and has always beat his girlfriends. Conversations are crazy with him, and has told me stuff I didn't want to know, and very disgusting to post without warning from him. No reason for it, like I am just a random friend of his to tell his weird messed up affairs to when he showed up randomly at my house last year for the first time without warning. We talked for the first time the longest I can recall. I think he is truly sick, and I'm thinking I should get him out of my life ASAP. He gaslighted me the other day saying I never message him when I can even capture the messages and send them right back, to prove to him I have, but he would only lie and make up something else and pretend when he knows he doesn't want me to be in his life. When I try, he just ignores, but apparently I never contact him period. The worst part about all of this is I found out in the summer that I have a brother who is 16 turning 17 in about 7 days, and my dad kept it from me and his entire family since he was born. I have only known him for a few months. I found out when he randomly decided to message me, since that isn't something that happens often. Maybe once or twice a year and tries to say he missed me and wanted to be in my life, when he knew where I lived and acted like I had to make a decision when I said he can visit. He came before, and I never asked him to. I just think he is trying to intentionally hurt me. I wanted to give him a chance, but he only will message me when he's lonely and has no woman around. I know he is never single for a week, and he jumps in and out of relationships. He is so toxic and why I am even bothered about this is probably what he intended for me to feel... Just wants me to feel bad but it's so delusional and I know psychopaths, and that is a huge thing to label him as, but everything is pointing to this and I just been down in the dumps knowing people do this kind of stuff. Sadly, I never seemed to pick the right people in the past and they all were similar like him. I question how I am the way I am, because my mom suffers from neurological problems but she doesn't come across that way, just certain tiny things that make her a little different that are normal to me. She is definitely nothing like my dad so I almost can't believe they met but it makes sense because she's sincere, and he's not. It's almost like nothing is wrong and you wouldn't suspect it unless I talked about it, which I have become good at bottling. I'm just happy that I have no pathological lying issues. I guess my past and this recent event has triggered this feeling. I just wanted to let this out, and recently decided blogging was the answer since I'm going to school for marketing as my major. I didn't post yet, but I'm thinking it might be the answer. I'm glad I know good people exist, and I don't struggle with his issues, because god only knows if you truly seen this you would wonder the same. I'm just thankful, and filled with different emotions, so thanks to all of you for reading this in all my little rambles that seems to be me complaining. I am really happy that my life didn't go in a direction it could have gone. Thankfully, at a young age the courts had him removed forcefully because of his abuse. But I let him back since he tried to contact me through my aunt. Should I just block him, and be done with it? I don't want to try when I know who he is and what he's doing. I can live without him since he has seen me, maybe 7 weeks total in combination, in my entire life. I guess I'm not certain what is going on in my head.  I'm confused. I really don't care yet it seems like I do and I'm not lying to myself... I feel like I'm losing it almost, or maybe I have at this point. Who knows. But, I'm super happy at the end of the day when I think about what the future holds. So, maybe all I needed to do was talk or write about this and it feels better writing this and letting it out even if it's not directly to other people. 

If this is too personal, I apologize for posting this. It felt right to me to share to you guys. Helpful as well.

I really don't know what to say to u no matter what I try to be in ur situation i wont feel u but i just believe that everyone in this life make mistakes and deserve another chance specialty our parent no matter what they do cuz they are the reason behind us in this life it's not easy to forgive I know but at least wee should be better than then and help them when they need it . One last thing I lost my father when I was 14 years. I'm ready to give everything for one min with him just one min to see him again u don't know what u have until u lose it and u make sure u won't see it again . I hope that everything will be fine for u . 😄

[Keith & Monica 986]

@amishbaby thank you for sharing something so personal.  I feel for you and would like to give you a hug. As a dad it upsets me that someone treats their child that way. My sons are the most important people in the world to me.  I have not been in your shoes so I don’t think I can give you advice on what to do.  Have you tried to talk with a professional?  Other than that, I would say you need to take care of you.

 

Now, congratulations on him having VOH, next step is POE.  

[Chris2870 721]

12 hours ago, AnJ Co said:

LOL   I wonder what goes on in the P S A?  And we complain about uscis - those guys at PSA are really challenged    

 

Thanx for the interview review.   I been dreading that fingerprint character myself!  I have a smart mouth and I already resolved to bit my lip before even going up to that counter with Ann.  I think I'll be reserved, at least I'm going to try lol   Hopefully he is in a good mood for us, also.

 

When is your POE?  Scheduling it after VOH?

 

Ann opted for companionship at interview over the POE.  It is so far and so long, it's impossible to do both.  I'm just lucky I got others to cover my shifts for the trip.  For comparison purposes, I went ahead and bought her ticket from MNL to Miami - I found it for less than $600.  Believe it or not, I just couldn't manage to get it any lower so I bit.  I imagine yours could be less in TX.  I used ASAP tickets again.

 

Congratulations on such a speedy post NVC run through the embassy, PH embassy sure is FAST but we won't tell @Estibaliz   

 

 

 

I've been curious about ASAP tickets..are they good then? I usually buy direct from United

 

[krizia 322]

My interview at US Embassy in Manila would be on oct 5th at 6 AM! Wish me luck 🌼

[Chris2870 721]

6 hours ago, amishbaby said:

He opened the packet finally after we weren't sure and were hesitating and finishing up other stuff today. It is the visa,  so now we just schedule his flight! I guess now we hope POE is smooth sailing. Thanks to all who responded and sorry for not personally replying. Even though today is supposed to be joyous and exciting, things in the past 2 weeks have been intense for me and difficult and I'm just trying to keep it together. Maybe as soon as he gets here, things will change for the better. It's so much problems that are outside our relationship and have nothing to do with us that just make stress pile up. I have the worst coping skills in the world, and my father who contacts me about once or twice within the year, and doesn't hold a conversation for even 2 messages back and forth, scolded me in messenger on FB after about 5 months since he last sent me a message to let me know about a women he wanted me to tell that I didn't know about paternity results? He told me without telling me and I found out through her. They both kept it hush hush and didn't let either of us know. He didn't want to accept me as his own child with DNA results, until I was 4 years old, and I stopped seeing him from the age of 7 to 20 and only have talked to him every 6 months on average. He had the audacity to ask me why I didn't invite him to my wedding, asking me why I don't show him that I love him or care for him and I messaged him trying to see how he was doing about 2 months ago, and he just read my message. I asked him why he wasn't talking and asked why he wasn't responding, and he read and ignored that as well. This is the message since that attempt 2 months or maybe 3 months ago, and he messaged me 5 months ago and I asked him what he was talking about when he said paternity results. He read that and ignored me, and I tried many times after that to reach him so I gave up. 2 months ago I tried again, and failed. Now he wants to talk to me and apparently I am the one ignoring and not showing interest at all. We never had a relationship and I'm 23, he just says he cares and loves me but never acts like he does. He was always focused on other women and was very abusive and I remember some stuff that I can barely believe myself. I truthfully try to do the right thing, and contacted him a few even though he always ignores my messages, and has taken off in the middle of a emotional breakdown, trying to ask me what was wrong and then bailing in the middle after I started to open up. I think for some reason I randomly had this feeling all of a sudden that I wish I had a relationship with my father, but it went away really quick and since then I just see him come and go in my inbox but when I respond, nothing back. I'm not hurting from what he is doing since I am so accustomed to it and it's nothing anymore, but it's a shame because he's addicted to cocaine and has always beat his girlfriends. Conversations are crazy with him, and has told me stuff I didn't want to know, and very disgusting to post without warning from him. No reason for it, like I am just a random friend of his to tell his weird messed up affairs to when he showed up randomly at my house last year for the first time without warning. We talked for the first time the longest I can recall. I think he is truly sick, and I'm thinking I should get him out of my life ASAP. He gaslighted me the other day saying I never message him when I can even capture the messages and send them right back, to prove to him I have, but he would only lie and make up something else and pretend when he knows he doesn't want me to be in his life. When I try, he just ignores, but apparently I never contact him period. The worst part about all of this is I found out in the summer that I have a brother who is 16 turning 17 in about 7 days, and my dad kept it from me and his entire family since he was born. I have only known him for a few months. I found out when he randomly decided to message me, since that isn't something that happens often. Maybe once or twice a year and tries to say he missed me and wanted to be in my life, when he knew where I lived and acted like I had to make a decision when I said he can visit. He came before, and I never asked him to. I just think he is trying to intentionally hurt me. I wanted to give him a chance, but he only will message me when he's lonely and has no woman around. I know he is never single for a week, and he jumps in and out of relationships. He is so toxic and why I am even bothered about this is probably what he intended for me to feel... Just wants me to feel bad but it's so delusional and I know psychopaths, and that is a huge thing to label him as, but everything is pointing to this and I just been down in the dumps knowing people do this kind of stuff. Sadly, I never seemed to pick the right people in the past and they all were similar like him. I question how I am the way I am, because my mom suffers from neurological problems but she doesn't come across that way, just certain tiny things that make her a little different that are normal to me. She is definitely nothing like my dad so I almost can't believe they met but it makes sense because she's sincere, and he's not. It's almost like nothing is wrong and you wouldn't suspect it unless I talked about it, which I have become good at bottling. I'm just happy that I have no pathological lying issues. I guess my past and this recent event has triggered this feeling. I just wanted to let this out, and recently decided blogging was the answer since I'm going to school for marketing as my major. I didn't post yet, but I'm thinking it might be the answer. I'm glad I know good people exist, and I don't struggle with his issues, because god only knows if you truly seen this you would wonder the same. I'm just thankful, and filled with different emotions, so thanks to all of you for reading this in all my little rambles that seems to be me complaining. I am really happy that my life didn't go in a direction it could have gone. Thankfully, at a young age the courts had him removed forcefully because of his abuse. But I let him back since he tried to contact me through my aunt. Should I just block him, and be done with it? I don't want to try when I know who he is and what he's doing. I can live without him since he has seen me, maybe 7 weeks total in combination, in my entire life. I guess I'm not certain what is going on in my head.  I'm confused. I really don't care yet it seems like I do and I'm not lying to myself... I feel like I'm losing it almost, or maybe I have at this point. Who knows. But, I'm super happy at the end of the day when I think about what the future holds. So, maybe all I needed to do was talk or write about this and it feels better writing this and letting it out even if it's not directly to other people. 

If this is too personal, I apologize for posting this. It felt right to me to share to you guys. Helpful as well.

Family is family; so vent away my Dear..No judgement here. Just people who really care and love you both. I'm so sorry things have gone so terribly wrong when it comes to your Dad. Sometimes when people get mixed up in drugs or alcohol, they have such over-whelming guilt that also goes thru stages during their life. At first they go thru the "guilt" stage, then it becomes "Self Loathing", then "depression". The final stage is "Transference" you see the human mind isn't designed to handle all the pain and guilt associated with behavior the person has committed. All the violence and neglect that your father knows he is guilty for, combined with a low sense of self-worth has caused him to reflect all the pain onto other people, and blame them for his mistakes.

I won't advise you to love someone no matter what, that appears has never done anything to deserve it..You deserve better...Your new relationship deserves better...and your Dad needs professional help that I myself would demand before I even considered letting him anywhere near you or your husband...my two cents.

 

I'm so happy for you and your Love, I'm pleased to hear that all went well...and I wish nothing but love and happiness for you and your husband from now till the end of time.

 

We love you Sis

 

God Bless!