I-129F March 2017 Filers #2 Cause we are awesome

[Eric&Olya 881]

10 hours ago, Mgwlkr said:

Help please

After receiving packet 3 (instructions) and completing ds160 online. Has anyone had to mail all docs to the embassy?  Like the copy of the d's 160. I 134 etc?  I believe the answer is no my fiance says he needs to mail it all ( cause that's what he did for j1)  I know all countries arendifferent but please someone tell me if they had to do this i think hes confused

I didn't have to mail anything. Your embassy website is not super informative, but you can email them and ask all your questions. I did it twice, and got responses within 24 hours

[Lsthorpe1 129]

17 hours ago, Utahoutlaww said:

Just a quick check in gang.  Medical and interview is all set up and ready to go. So excited and nervous to finally be so close to being done 

Hey!

congrats!!!

we got approved on September 13th! We are waiting for our case number from NVC so I can book medical etc!

Did you wait for them to send you your number or did you contact them? 

Thanks!

[amishbaby 407]

He opened the packet finally after we weren't sure and were hesitating and finishing up other stuff today. It is the visa,  so now we just schedule his flight! I guess now we hope POE is smooth sailing. Thanks to all who responded and sorry for not personally replying. Even though today is supposed to be joyous and exciting, things in the past 2 weeks have been intense for me and difficult and I'm just trying to keep it together. Maybe as soon as he gets here, things will change for the better. It's so much problems that are outside our relationship and have nothing to do with us that just make stress pile up. I have the worst coping skills in the world, and my father who contacts me about once or twice within the year, and doesn't hold a conversation for even 2 messages back and forth, scolded me in messenger on FB after about 5 months since he last sent me a message to let me know about a women he wanted me to tell that I didn't know about paternity results? He told me without telling me and I found out through her. They both kept it hush hush and didn't let either of us know. He didn't want to accept me as his own child with DNA results, until I was 4 years old, and I stopped seeing him from the age of 7 to 20 and only have talked to him every 6 months on average. He had the audacity to ask me why I didn't invite him to my wedding, asking me why I don't show him that I love him or care for him and I messaged him trying to see how he was doing about 2 months ago, and he just read my message. I asked him why he wasn't talking and asked why he wasn't responding, and he read and ignored that as well. This is the message since that attempt 2 months or maybe 3 months ago, and he messaged me 5 months ago and I asked him what he was talking about when he said paternity results. He read that and ignored me, and I tried many times after that to reach him so I gave up. 2 months ago I tried again, and failed. Now he wants to talk to me and apparently I am the one ignoring and not showing interest at all. We never had a relationship and I'm 23, he just says he cares and loves me but never acts like he does. He was always focused on other women and was very abusive and I remember some stuff that I can barely believe myself. I truthfully try to do the right thing, and contacted him a few even though he always ignores my messages, and has taken off in the middle of a emotional breakdown, trying to ask me what was wrong and then bailing in the middle after I started to open up. I think for some reason I randomly had this feeling all of a sudden that I wish I had a relationship with my father, but it went away really quick and since then I just see him come and go in my inbox but when I respond, nothing back. I'm not hurting from what he is doing since I am so accustomed to it and it's nothing anymore, but it's a shame because he's addicted to cocaine and has always beat his girlfriends. Conversations are crazy with him, and has told me stuff I didn't want to know, and very disgusting to post without warning from him. No reason for it, like I am just a random friend of his to tell his weird messed up affairs to when he showed up randomly at my house last year for the first time without warning. We talked for the first time the longest I can recall. I think he is truly sick, and I'm thinking I should get him out of my life ASAP. He gaslighted me the other day saying I never message him when I can even capture the messages and send them right back, to prove to him I have, but he would only lie and make up something else and pretend when he knows he doesn't want me to be in his life. When I try, he just ignores, but apparently I never contact him period. The worst part about all of this is I found out in the summer that I have a brother who is 16 turning 17 in about 7 days, and my dad kept it from me and his entire family since he was born. I have only known him for a few months. I found out when he randomly decided to message me, since that isn't something that happens often. Maybe once or twice a year and tries to say he missed me and wanted to be in my life, when he knew where I lived and acted like I had to make a decision when I said he can visit. He came before, and I never asked him to. I just think he is trying to intentionally hurt me. I wanted to give him a chance, but he only will message me when he's lonely and has no woman around. I know he is never single for a week, and he jumps in and out of relationships. He is so toxic and why I am even bothered about this is probably what he intended for me to feel... Just wants me to feel bad but it's so delusional and I know psychopaths, and that is a huge thing to label him as, but everything is pointing to this and I just been down in the dumps knowing people do this kind of stuff. Sadly, I never seemed to pick the right people in the past and they all were similar like him. I question how I am the way I am, because my mom suffers from neurological problems but she doesn't come across that way, just certain tiny things that make her a little different that are normal to me. She is definitely nothing like my dad so I almost can't believe they met but it makes sense because she's sincere, and he's not. It's almost like nothing is wrong and you wouldn't suspect it unless I talked about it, which I have become good at bottling. I'm just happy that I have no pathological lying issues. I guess my past and this recent event has triggered this feeling. I just wanted to let this out, and recently decided blogging was the answer since I'm going to school for marketing as my major. I didn't post yet, but I'm thinking it might be the answer. I'm glad I know good people exist, and I don't struggle with his issues, because god only knows if you truly seen this you would wonder the same. I'm just thankful, and filled with different emotions, so thanks to all of you for reading this in all my little rambles that seems to be me complaining. I am really happy that my life didn't go in a direction it could have gone. Thankfully, at a young age the courts had him removed forcefully because of his abuse. But I let him back since he tried to contact me through my aunt. Should I just block him, and be done with it? I don't want to try when I know who he is and what he's doing. I can live without him since he has seen me, maybe 7 weeks total in combination, in my entire life. I guess I'm not certain what is going on in my head.  I'm confused. I really don't care yet it seems like I do and I'm not lying to myself... I feel like I'm losing it almost, or maybe I have at this point. Who knows. But, I'm super happy at the end of the day when I think about what the future holds. So, maybe all I needed to do was talk or write about this and it feels better writing this and letting it out even if it's not directly to other people. 

If this is too personal, I apologize for posting this. It felt right to me to share to you guys. Helpful as well.

[Salty2305 504]

20 minutes ago, Lsthorpe1 said:

Hey!

congrats!!!

we got approved on September 13th! We are waiting for our case number from NVC so I can book medical etc!

Did you wait for them to send you your number or did you contact them? 

Thanks!

I called NVC and got my case number exactly 2 weeks from the date of NOA2. Then I used that to book our medicals.

[jaybeltisroy 211]

50 minutes ago, Lsthorpe1 said:

Hey!

congrats!!!

we got approved on September 13th! We are waiting for our case number from NVC so I can book medical etc!

Did you wait for them to send you your number or did you contact them? 

Thanks!

Congratulations!

[Lsthorpe1 129]

39 minutes ago, Salty2305 said:

I called NVC and got my case number exactly 2 weeks from the date of NOA2. Then I used that to book our medicals.

Yay! Thanks!!! It was two weeks on Thursday that we recieved our NOA2 so I'll make sure my partner calls Monday!

[Leennnn 4]

Hello anyone know how long NVC will take 

finally Approve😀😀😀😀

[Mattagba 141]

1 hour ago, Leennnn said:

Hello anyone know how long NVC will take 

finally Approve😀😀😀😀

It's usually does not take that long. Mine was 6 days 

[Leennnn 4]

28 minutes ago, Mattagba said:

It's usually does not take that long. Mine was 6 days 

I dont think it will take only 6 days 

my NOA2 on 19 September so waiting 

congrats 😘😘

 

Edited September 30, 2017 by Leennnn

[Estibaliz 3,037]

1 hour ago, Leennnn said:

I dont think it will take only 6 days 

my NOA2 on 19 September so waiting 

congrats 😘😘

 

You are right, average is more in the 13-15 days range, so you can start calling next week

Congratulations! 

[dkmfan85 832]

@amishbaby It's good you feel comfortable enough with people here to share such things. I can't imagine what feelings you must have. Most people seek to have good relationships with others, especially their immediate family. Unfortunately, it takes both people to form a harmonious relationship and not everyone is willing and/or capable of putting aside the problems in their own life to add value to the life of the other person. There are people in this world that have made themselves completely miserable and the only way they have to cope is by trying to tear others down to their level. I can tell you're a good person and don't deserve any of the abuse you've taken. I know there's probably an immense internal conflict. On the one hand, you want to have a relationship with your father. On the other hand, it seems he makes completely impossible for that relationship to develop in a healthy manner. Just know that you're a good person, and it seems to me that you've tried your best and done your part to make something beautiful. You should feel proud of that.

@Eric&Olya It's one of my favorite hobbies. It's called canyoneering. Here in Utah we have lots of very narrow and steep canyons called slot canyons. In canyoneering, you start at the highest point of the canyon, and descend to the lowest or a lower part of the canyon through a series of rappels. Many times there is also swimming involved as the canyons are formed by moving water cutting through the landscape.

[Leennnn 4]

1 hour ago, Estibaliz said:

You are right, average is more in the 13-15 days range, so you can start calling next week

Congratulations! 

Thank you i will call nvc on monday 🙈 

[Utahoutlaww 118]

8 hours ago, Lsthorpe1 said:

Hey!

congrats!!!

we got approved on September 13th! We are waiting for our case number from NVC so I can book medical etc!

Did you wait for them to send you your number or did you contact them? 

Thanks!

I called till they gave it to me. You will be waiting awhile if you wait for the letter to come

[AnJ Co 1,676]

On 9/28/2017 at 6:42 PM, Amy Carol Wolff said:

You guys! We got approved today! YAY! It was a crazy last week - our Oct 9 appointment was cancelled and moved to Nov 3 because the embassy needed a "administrative day".  This would have been a nightmare because our wedding date is Oct 21 - already have people flying from all around the world. Thankfully, I had the Senator involved since I got our RFE. His office called and before we knew it, we were on our way to Ciudad Juarez this past monday! I can't tell you how amazing this group has been <3. Thanks for the support.  

@MeliiGo  FYI   

 

Kudos to that Senator!   That embassy seems to have a lot of delays or a lack of priority for K1's.    Glad it is full steam ahead

[MeliiGo 133]

4 minutes ago, AnJ Co said:

@MeliiGo  FYI   

 

Kudos to that Senator!   That embassy seems to have a lot of delays or a lack of priority for K1's.    Glad it is full steam ahead

Wow! thats amazing,  but I think that this happened because of the embassy trying to move the case even further back right @Amy Carol Wolff ???

 

I wouldnt like pissing up the consulate and we already got the airplane tickets so I think we will wait, better safe than sorry