Hello from Illinois USA

[Kathleen72 0]

Hello everyone, just joined this site to get information for me and my Pakistani fiancé to help us go in the right direction toward having a successful visa outcome. 

[caliliving 606]

how old is your pakistan fiance? are you from the same religion? did you convert?  have you guys actually MET in person?? how many times have you met in person? 

you can either do a k1 or a cr1.  i suggest you read the guides. 

[Kathleen72 0]

My fiancé is 32, no we are not the same religion, he’s Muslim I’m Christian, no we haven’t met in person yet, plan on spending New Years together in South Korea, we are planning on getting married next year and doing a Cr-1. I will look at the guides Thanks!

[caliliving 606]

that is what i figured. you are born in 72 so he is younger then you and not the same religous. AND you arent married yet and already talking about marriage:/ 

good luck! you are going to have a very VERY tough time getting married.  also, you would need to convert to muslim. check out the other pakistan threads and see what must be done to bring a guy to america.  also, the fact you are talking about marriage before even meeting is a huge red flag. oh, and you will need alot more facetime then meeting just once! it is goint to be very costly as well! a greencard alone is 1200$ not including the travel and other fees. 

[Boiler 45,525]

Does he live in South Korea?

[Kathleen72 0]

No he’s going to be attending school there

[daleguthery 305]

2 hours ago, Kathleen72 said:

Hello everyone, just joined this site to get information for me and my Pakistani fiancé to help us go in the right direction toward having a successful visa outcome. 

You're very close to me! I'm from Beardstown!

[TBoneTX 45,304]

Welcome to the forum.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Welcome to VJ.

Also IL here.

Visit often and stay as long as you can for bona fide relationship evidence.

I would not recommend marrying on the first visit because that can be a red flag.
You will be in security checks for many months, some over a year(s).
This will take a long time so brace yourself, buckle your seat belt and read a lot on the forums on how to prepare a quality
front loaded petition and read what others before you experienced in your regional forum which is specific for your embassy,
also read the embassy reviews.
Double and triple check what the requirements are to marry in SK because often one of you has to be a legal resident before marriage
applications are approved in varies countries. We tried that and failed (though not SK) due to stupid bureaucratic stuff that changed
after I got there.



 

[Jeanne Adil 1,651]

You do not have to convert

a muslim man can marry a Christain

a muslim woman has to marry a muslim man to make sure the children are bought up in Islam

i and many others have not converted

[EandH0904 1,184]

@Kathleen72 It's important that you understand that people aren't being cynical here - they are trying to be realistic for you. When they say that people from Pakistan have a difficult time getting visas, it's because they have been reading these boards for years, and have seen, for years, people from Pakistan have difficult time getting visas. There are couples on here who have been married 5+ years and have lived together overseas for years who cannot get a CR1 visa. So meeting one time in a third country, and getting married seems like the attempt of someone who may very well love someone else, but just not be very well informed yet. 

 

My fiance (from Morocco, not Pakistan), we met and filed K1 after one meeting - read the rules, figured we would be fine, we are both Muslim - had not looked into it, and did not get our visa. I really wish I had done more research - I would have spent a lot more time with him before proceeding the way we did. No one on here is being malicious or trying to say you don't love your fiance - most of us met our other half online - but are you really truly prepared to have a long distance relationship - like it is now - for possibly the next five years or more - are you prepared for the possibility he may NEVER get his visa? 

 

Here is a link to the Pakistani portal where you can connect with other members who are attempting to get visas through Pakistan:

http://www.visajourney.com/portals/index.php?country=Pakistan  In it, you can look at timelines for specific types of visa applications and the length people are waiting for K1 or CR1 and how much Administrative Processing (background security checks) they are having to go through. During the CR1 process it can also be sent back to the US and you have to have it re-affirmed, or appeal their decision not to grant a visa, as some people are doing. 

 

If you really love this man, after you meet him in South Korea (and that may or may not be safe for you - maybe Turkey is safer?) then you need to look into Islam and how you feel about converting and how you would feel about living in Pakistan, because a journey in the US may or may not work out. I love my fiance, soon to be husband, but I don't know that I could ever live in Morocco - I've been there three times and it's just too foreign for me, and I'm Muslim! You have a lot to research and a lot to think about while you are on this journey. 

 

Good luck to you. 

 

[Cathi 5,755]

19 hours ago, caliliving said:

that is what i figured. you are born in 72 so he is younger then you and not the same religous. AND you arent married yet and already talking about marriage:/ 

good luck! you are going to have a very VERY tough time getting married.  also, you would need to convert to muslim. check out the other pakistan threads and see what must be done to bring a guy to america.  also, the fact you are talking about marriage before even meeting is a huge red flag. oh, and you will need alot more facetime then meeting just once! it is goint to be very costly as well! a greencard alone is 1200$ not including the travel and other fees. 

Wrong, she does not need to convert. I'm Catholic my husband is Muslim and we were married in Jordan, a Muslim country. Muslim men can marry Christians, Jews and other Muslims. Talking about marriage before meeting isn't a red flag, many couples do the same and have no problems getting a visa. Also, I am 21 years older than my husband and age was never brought up at any point during our journey. A visa cannot be denied based on age alone, it's discrimination.

 

OP: the biggest hurdle you'll have is the fact that your husband to be is from Pakistan. Pakistan is one of the most difficult countries for people to get a visa from. If you head over the the Pakistan portal you can reach out to other couples who are and have gone through the process. Good luck!

[KASH2011 382]

Welcome to VJ!