Can't Afford Plane Ticket Home for Wife

[Merrytooth 5,748]

10 minutes ago, sofyab said:

You don't just go to live in another country without any savings. That's not how adulthood works. 

But but but.. it is the USC that brought the immigrant here to US. He/She should be responsible for the immigrant regardless.. USC signed the I-134 / I-864. 

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If she wants to go and doesn't want to come back, just let her go. I've learned that some times you have to learn to love with your brain instead of your heart

[sofyab 2]

5 minutes ago, Merrytooth said:

But but but.. it is the USC that brought the immigrant here to US. He/She should be responsible for the immigrant regardless.. USC signed the I-134 / I-864. 

I agree, but in my understanding USC should be responsible for immigrants basic needs such as shelter and food. All extras are just that... "extras". He agreed to support her but her going or not going back home will not impact if she will become a public charge. 

And he did not bring her here, they were going through the process together. I have a feeling that OP would love to buy her a ticket but he just can't do that for financial reasons. Time for her to learn that he's not obligated to support her "wants". 

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8 minutes ago, Merrytooth said:

But but but.. it is the USC that brought the immigrant here to US. He/She should be responsible for the immigrant regardless.. USC signed the I-134 / I-864. 

let's not derail from the topic.  technically USC is responsible for immigrant but hey immigrant is an adult and as an adult, you deal with your problem on your own.  Before jumping into the glimmers of America, the immigrant should know that life ain't easy (anywhere) and they were not marrying for easy life but for the love.

 

Curious Mind: 

As I am sipping my coffee and thinking about the glimmering life shown in movies; I am laughing hard. We should have a movie (I even have a plot in my head) where we show how hard it is to go through immigration for USC and immigrant and how hard it is for immigrant to adjust and show that America is land of dreams but only if you have that gut to work hard to achieve those dreams.  In this plot, we should have 5 -6 couples going through the process and show the simultaneous life story frame by frame.. who is funding this story

 

 

Edited September 19, 2017 by Bunny&Ninja

[Russ&Caro 1,549]

I mostly agree with the advice given here that she should look for ways to fund her own ticket home.

 

However, if I was in OP's shoes and were to discover that she has no possible way to pay for any part of the ticket, I would try to come up with the money and buy her the ticket, i.e. apply for a new credit card, ask friends or family for a loan, etc. In the end, $1,200 is a pretty low price to pay to get out of a relationship. I'm assuming the OP has feelings for her and wouldn't want to simply abandon her on the streets of America. Yes, the OP will still need to cover the costs of a divorce, but he can do that in due time. The immediate problem is getting her home.

 

Note, if the $1,000+ of USCIS fees completely taps out all of your financial resources, you probably should not be sponsoring a spouse for immigration. An international relationship is inherently expensive and should not be started on a shoestring budget.

 

Here's a thought... if you have engagement/wedding rings can you hawk them at a pawn shop?

[mcdull 474]

9 hours ago, dancall said:

Hello everyone, I am having a problem with my wife wanting to go home after we sent in the AOS about a few months ago. My biggest issue is that I already paid the $1,200+ to the USCIS and I cannot afford to buy a plane ticket right now. I have been supporting her but also buying things like concert tickets and clothes, we planned on saving more when she started working. Is there any possibility of getting any of my money back from USCIS so I can buy her a ticket? I can continue to support her and let her stay with me and save for the ticket, but she really wants to leave NOW. I don't even know if she will stay with me, she has even gotten upset and wandered the streets before, I'm a little worried for her safety. If anyone has any other solutions they can think of it would be appreciated, thanks.

I'd rather spend that ticket money on a divorce lawyer.

Edited September 19, 2017 by mcdull

[Umka36 781]

If the check has been cashed, you won't be getting your money back from USCIS. If it has not been cashed, then you can put a stop payment which would terminate the AOS petition.

 

Assuming the marriage has failed and unsalvageable, then if it were me, I would just buy the ticket for your wife with a credit card and pay it off when I can. That's just me, and I can sleep better knowing I did the right thing. 

 

 

[Russ&Caro 1,549]

For those of you favoring saving your money for divorce costs over a ticket to send her home, how much value would you put on:

1. Not having the police show up at your door with a claim of abuse and abandonment.

2. Not having your home broken into.

3. Not having your car vandalized.

4. Not having your wife show up at your workplace and cause problems.

5. Not being served divorce papers by your wife's US attorney with indications that she wants half of your assets, and other demands.

6. All of the above

7. Peace of mind that a person you once loved is back safe in her home country.

 

Edited September 19, 2017 by Russ&Caro

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4 hours ago, dancall said:

Yes but she does not want to come back.

 

 

For some reason, after I read the post quoted above, all I could think of was the famous phrase.... If you love something, set it free...

[sofyab 2]

13 minutes ago, Russ&Caro said:

For those of you favoring saving your money for divorce costs over a ticket to send her home, how much value would you put on:

1. Not having the police show up at your door with a claim of abuse and abandonment.

2. Not having your home broken into.

3. Not having your car vandalized.

4. Not having your wife show up at your workplace and cause problems.

5. Not being served divorce papers by your wife's US attorney with indications that she wants half of your assets, and other demands.

6. All of the above

7. Peace of mind that a person you once loved is back safe in her home country.

 

Great points.

As an immigrant wife I would think that first of all this process was financially difficult on my husband. Tickets, fees, lawyer etc - it all adds up. He now has to pay $500 a month for my insurance. It's not easy. 

I have a career (or - used to have lol), I have an education, I can take care of myself and I also realize how difficult this process was. It did not work out and I want to go home - so I'll buy myself a ticket. Because I can and because I know how much he's done for us to be together. This would be the least that I could do for us.

 

But that's just me. I hope the situation described in your post would not happen. To anyone ever.

 

 

 

[David & Diana R 1,005]

If I were in your shoes I would file for divorce BEFORE she leaves the US.  I would make it a condition of the divorce that I would agree to pay for her one-way plane ticket back home once she has signed the divorce papers.  I would personally take her to the airport and hand her the ticket as she goes through TSA to make sure she is really leaving the US.  I'm sorry this is happening to you but the way you put it it sounds like you have irreconcilable differences.  I know it is not easy to let her go but it sounds like something you need to do.  Good luck and God Bless.  david

[NYCruiser 423]

Sounds like your spouse wants to go back. As others have stated USCIS does not refund. It is not easy being here in the USA. There are issues with comprehension, culture, depression and life with another person. (Dating a person, going through the process is one thing, living with the person is quite another thing). 

It is not going to be easy on you the USC...emotionally, but maybe financially it might be better for her to leave? How much does no-fault divorce cost in your state? It is about $600.00 in NJ

[Diane and Chris 651]

4 hours ago, sofyab said:

 

 

4 hours ago, sofyab said:

I agree, but in my understanding USC should be responsible for immigrants basic needs such as shelter and food. All extras are just that... "extras". He agreed to support her but her going or not going back home will not impact if she will become a public charge. 

And he did not bring her here, they were going through the process together. I have a feeling that OP would love to buy her a ticket but he just can't do that for financial reasons. Time for her to learn that he's not obligated to support her "wants". 

I'm pretty sure Merrytooth was being sarcastic. 🤣

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This is so sad. All that work for nothing, The longest process ever. And she wants to give up like that.

my advice, let her go. Because she obviously doesn't want to be here.

[caliliving 606]

You have been really nice about this and even told her you would save for the ticket. You haven't even kicked her out!

I guess you have no choice if you have no money she needs to figure out her own way home or wait for you to get the money. In the meantime, start the divorce and do a stop on your aos so at least she won't get the green card and then take off and live w someone else.