Can't Afford Plane Ticket Home for Wife

[dancall 0]

Hello everyone, I am having a problem with my wife wanting to go home after we sent in the AOS about a few months ago. My biggest issue is that I already paid the $1,200+ to the USCIS and I cannot afford to buy a plane ticket right now. I have been supporting her but also buying things like concert tickets and clothes, we planned on saving more when she started working. Is there any possibility of getting any of my money back from USCIS so I can buy her a ticket? I can continue to support her and let her stay with me and save for the ticket, but she really wants to leave NOW. I don't even know if she will stay with me, she has even gotten upset and wandered the streets before, I'm a little worried for her safety. If anyone has any other solutions they can think of it would be appreciated, thanks.

[Seth And Quynh 77]

Does your wife have advanced parole so she can return into the usa?

[EandH0904 1,184]

USCIS will most definitely NOT refund your money. Ever. Don't get your visa? Still no refund. 

 

Has she gotten her papers from filing SOS? Does she understand that if she leaves without AID that she's abandoning the process and to come back she'd have to file CR1  (I'm assuming you're implying she came here on a K1 - your profile doesn't say. 

 

Other than thst, part of bring an adult is you don't always get what you want.  If she hasn't learned thst skill yet....I'm not sure whst to say.  She could ask friends or family back home to help her with the money.  If she us homesick maybe trying to find others from her country in your area she can spend time with.  Couples counseling may help you two as well.  

[Boiler 45,993]

Let her pay her own way.

[Frage 67]

1 hour ago, dancall said:

I don't even know if she will stay with me

That's pretty sad.

 

USCIS doesn't refund money.

 

Hope everything turns out well for you.

[Going through 5,671]

1 hour ago, dancall said:

Hello everyone, I am having a problem with my wife wanting to go home after we sent in the AOS about a few months ago. My biggest issue is that I already paid the $1,200+ to the USCIS and I cannot afford to buy a plane ticket right now. I have been supporting her but also buying things like concert tickets and clothes, we planned on saving more when she started working. Is there any possibility of getting any of my money back from USCIS so I can buy her a ticket? I can continue to support her and let her stay with me and save for the ticket, but she really wants to leave NOW. I don't even know if she will stay with me, she has even gotten upset and wandered the streets before, I'm a little worried for her safety. If anyone has any other solutions they can think of it would be appreciated, thanks.

USCIS does not refund application fees, under any circumstances.

 

Sounds like she may be going through some other issues other than maybe homesickness if she's wandering the streets and you are worried about her safety. Have you thought about setting up some sort of counselling for her/two of you?  There are free/low-cost resources out there to look into...

[Roel 7,193]

Tell her to wait for her work permit and earn her own money. That's what adults do. 

 

I hope you guys know if she leaves without AP or her AOS completed,  she will not be allowed back to the US. And the money you spend on her visa and aos will be wasted. 

 

[dancall 0]

5 hours ago, Seth And Quynh said:

Does your wife have advanced parole so she can return into the usa?

Yes but she does not want to come back.

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

28 minutes ago, dancall said:

Yes but she does not want to come back.

It might just be her being homesick is all. Where is your wife from and is she able to call back home to talk to family?

[Going through 5,671]

37 minutes ago, dancall said:

Yes but she does not want to come back.

If your marriage is salvageable...and her only point of contention is living in the US...perhaps you may want to consider moving to her country.

 

How long was she in the US before all of these problems started?  It could have been the result of culture shock messing up her mind a bit.  Happens to all of us on some level.

[Corey911 37]

1 hour ago, dancall said:

Yes but she does not want to come back.

Then you have to file and pay for divorce, and she needs to find money for her ticket back, fair to me

[Gorkhali 214]

way to go missleman 

 

 

 

@Op I am sorry about how your wife is homesick and wants to go back. Well, You can only do so much to help her or assist her.. life is not fair.

 

Out of curiosity "where is she from? What is her background? how long did you knew her?"

Edited September 19, 2017 by Bunny&Ninja

[geowrian 22,338]

Option 1) Stay and try to make it work. Get counseling.

Option 2) Divorce and she can return home if she wants (she can deal with how to do so herself).

Option 3) Go with her back to her country and try to make it work there.

 

USCIS will not refund you.

Edited September 19, 2017 by geowrian

[Cathi 5,783]

2 hours ago, dancall said:

Yes but she does not want to come back.

Then tell her to ask her family for money or tell her to wait until she gets her EAD. Once she gets her EAD she can get a job and work like an adult and pay her own way home. Out of curiosity, what country is she from originally and how long has she been here?

[sofyab 2]

3 hours ago, dancall said:

Yes but she does not want to come back.

She might be homesick. But it also might be that that's not how she imagined your married life to be.

I don't know what country she's from but maybe she expected you to be wealthy (judging by her country standards) and now is disappointed. Who knows? Anyways, like others have said - tell her to buy her own ticket. You don't just go to live in another country without any savings. That's not how adulthood works.