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[Newtothis87 0]

Hi so my friend told me about this site when she was going through her divorce and suggested I ask you guys what to do. Ok so my green card husband is here with a 2 year card but things are horrible between emotional abuse and being controlling I'm at the point I just want to erase it all. I feel like the marriage was for immigration purposes only by the way I'm treated and how he acts. I have proof in message him saying I'm not his family and he's here to work. Medical I'm not able to work because of health reasons and he takes full advantage of that saying I have nothing but i sold alot of my stuff to get him here and pay for the papers plus my medical bills. It seems like he's more worried about what his family doesn't have than what we don't have. Lots of money goes to them not to mention all the food he buys to send to them. He moved me to a city I don't like far away from my family 1 month after we got here. He's told me to go back to them and he'll stay here and rent a room with a friend from work because he won't leave his ####### job because it's the best job in the world in his eyes. I know he came from nothing in a poor country but I try not to judge since my family are also immigrants from the same country though I'm a American. Please I'm asking for the kindest advice you can give because mentally I'm drained and close to having a breakdown from all the abuse I've dealt with from this man. I don't know much about the immigration process so if I ask dumb questions I'm sorry I can't afford a lawyer right now, but am I able to send him back ?? How do I report fraud?? Will immigration deport him for being abusive?? How do I protect myself??? Please again be nice as possible to me or please just don't comment I already feel like a idiot for having him here . Thank you guys and ladiesb

[Newtothis87 0]

Sorry for the bad work I promise it wasn't anything to horrible. I noticed the #####

[nightingalejules 678]

If your husband is abusive, you need to protect yourself. It sounds like you're miserable, and you may need to get out of this marriage. If you can't support yourself due to your medical issues you'd likely be best to return to the city where your family is.

There is legal aid for women in abusive relationships who can't afford a lawyer - search for one in your area.

 

Unfortunately, there is little you can do at this point to make him return to his home country. He is a legal permanent resident now and will be able to apply for removal of conditions without you. He may succeed... most do. 

 

Try not to worry too much about his status, and concern yourself with having the best life you can. Good luck.

[Frage 67]

1. File for divorce 

2. move back close to your family 

[geowrian 22,337]

1. Make sure you are safe (physically, mentally, and emotionally). Go to a shelter or friend or family member if not, and seek help.
2. You can divorce. You cannot "send him back".
3. If you have documented evidence that he committed fraud, you can submit it to USCIS. The simplest way (IMHO) is to make an Infopass appointment and do it in person. But keep in mind it needs to be documented evidence that he entered into the marriage solely for the green card...not that he's a bad person or the marriage failed. Beyond that, it's in their hands to settle.
4. He needs to complete ROC...and can do so with or without you if he can prove he entered into the marriage in good faith. If not, he will lose his LPR status and become deportable.

2 minutes ago, nightingalejules said:

Try not to worry too much about his status, and concern yourself with having the best life you can. Good luck.

Exactly.

[Newtothis87 0]

Am I able to pull his affidavit?? I thought if someone commits immigration fraud they get deported, that's not true??? My friends ex was deported, I think it is so wrong when somebody commits fraud to come to America for a better life. His status is important and I do want him gone before he becomes illegal ,I don't want to get in trouble for that plus my aunt is the cosponsor I don't want her to get screwed over by him either. Would having him arrested help deport him faster ??

[Frage 67]

On what basis would you have him arrested? 

 

To report immigration fraud look here:

https://www.uscis.gov/avoid-scams/report-scams

 

Not sure about the affidavit of support. Maybe someone with more knowledge can chime in. 

[Frage 67]

The link I sent might have not been relevant to your situation. This one might fit a little better 

 

https://www.google.com/amp/m.wikihow.com/Report-Immigration-Marriage-Fraud%3famp=1

[Boiler 45,581]

Have you considered an annulment?

 

He has his GC so no you can not back out of the Affidavit of Support.

[Newtothis87 0]

4 hours ago, Frage said:

On what basis would you have him arrested? 

 

To report immigration fraud look here:

https://www.uscis.gov/avoid-scams/report-scams

 

Not sure about the affidavit of support. Maybe someone with more knowledge can chime in. 

Abuse , violent behavior.

 

Thanks for the links I guess I thought USCIS protect the American more than the immigrants but I guess I'm wrong 

41 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Have you considered an annulment?

 

He has his GC so no you can not back out of the Affidavit of Support.

Can't been married too long I already tried

[Dashinka 24,527]

Unfortunately the Affidavit of Support is past history since he has already been issued his GC.  As others have said, the best thing to do is to take care of yourself and end the marriage.  As @geowrian and @Frage mentioned you can only submit actual documentation regarding his intentions if you have it.  If you do, USCIS will take it form there and it may become an issue for him when he files his ROC.  Beyond that, there is no magic number to call to send back a spouse or ex-spouse when things don't work out.

 

Good Luck!

[JFH 12,190]

They will not deport him just because you believe he married you just for immigration benefit. This is an urban myth that bad husbands will be sent home. He was granted permission to immigrate here on the basis of marriage to you, a US citizen. The authorities assume that as you are an adult you are able to make your own decision as to whether someone will make a good husband or not. They don't get involved if the marriage falls apart.

 

Now, if he is being violent or abusive there are ways to deal with that. The same ways as if he weren't an immigrant - call the cops and have him taken to jail. Violent and abusive behavior should not be tolerated by anyone, from anyone. Have you spoken to your family about this? You main concern should be for your safety, not his immigration status. You should not give a care to whether he stays or goes. Focus on you. He's doing enough already to ruin his life, you don't need to do anymore. 

Edited September 10, 2017 by JFH