My husband is aSking me for money HELP PLEASE

[koliano 0]

Hi Everyone and please help me.

 

conclusion if you don't want to read what's in the bottom :

I'm a foreigner and I came here in work visa and got married to African america man for love, we been together for almost 3 years and he does not work and I been working 3 jobs to pay for everything starting from Rent, all bells and his cigarettes and food.

He has his name with me in the lease and I can't get Reid of him or I don't know how because I filled for divorce and he received the paper and asking me for $1500 to sign it and mail back to the lawyer.

I'm thinking about sending him to jail because he is really abusing me every night and he told me before that he needs the money for perks. Lately, I had to move to my friend apartment while I have to keep paying for rent as both our name are in the lease.

 

1 - "My husband asks me for money everyday or he will send me back home because i'm in CR1"

2 - "He wrote checks with his name using my checks that I never wrote to him and I have a prove"

3 - "He insults me every time telling me i'm ####### and police or immigration can't do anything to him because i'm foreigner and I need to keep giving him money"

4 - "he stole money from my credit card when I found out he told me the bank will give it back to you but don't tell them it's me"

5 - "I wrote check for rent and he erased the landlord name and put his name on top it to get he money and buy drugs" 

6 - "my husband is threatening me to send me back home if I don't give him money, I filled for divorce and he said he won't sign until I give him money.  I gave him $250 and his signed it but the mail returned it and now he is asking for $1500"

 

I just need advice please should I go the court way and send him to jail or what ? 

He has the paper and I took a picture of it singed by him before I sent it but I have no $1500 to be able to mail to the lawyer ??

 

I Called the police on him 2 times and they said you have to go to family court. Also, he is now staying at my place while I have nowhere to go.

 

 

 

[I&A2017 10]

Hi 

 

I am sorry hear your case, I hope the link can help you, is information from USCIS about Immigrant Victims of Domestic Violence in the United States 

 

https://www.uscis.gov/news/fact-sheets/information-legal-rights-available-immigrant-victims-domestic-violence-united-states-and-facts-about-immigrating-marriage-based-visa-fact-sheet

[Penguin_ie 5,994]

*****  Moving from CR-1 spousal visa to Effects of Major Changes as OP never had a spousal visa and is asking about a relationship breakdown ******

[f f 725]

if you have a greencard and a cr1 is that if he applies for you. he can in no way shape or form take it from you.

even if he is on the lease you can get a restraining order to prevent him from being able to be at the apartment just go to the cops and explain what is or was happening.

 

above all else get yourself safe and even if he has not petitioned you since you were married you can file a vawa to gain legal status so do not let him use that to control you. and he has no way to deny or prevent you from doing a vawa so don't let him bully you there either.

[geowrian 22,337]

1) Make sure you are safe. This is the most important piece.

2) He cannot send you home. You are a legal resident here and came in good faith. If you came via a CR-1, you can do ROC by yourself with a single filer waiver (or via abuse if you can show evidence of it).

3) Look into a good divorce attorney who can both help handle the divorce and (hopefully) address the money taken (if possible and you want to pursue that...whether it was joint marriage property or not is a legal question based on the specifics, but generally any property/assets from before the marriage remain separate). I know you said you already filed for it (great!), but I just wanted to note the above about getting a good divorce attorney to help with the process.

Edited September 5, 2017 by geowrian

[WandY 430]

Take your personal items and get to a  safe space. Make a police report for abuse and then file a protection order (attorney can help you, or go to prosecuting attorney of your county. Police can help you.). Don't worry about the rent/lease. He will be responsible for rent. Don't put any money in your joint bank accounts. Make sure your direct deposits go to a new account - one with your name only. Don't worry about immigration status. You will not be deported. If you cannot afford an attorney, try to find a legal aid office in your city/county. If your husband is physically mistreating/abusing you, report it to the police. He belongs in jail. Good luck to you. I hope you find peace and prosperity in the days ahead.