Removing conditions cause abuse

[little immigrant 801]

I think that USCs have too much power over their spouses when they sponsor them and they are here on the conditional Green card. How many times have I read that the spouses threaten not to show up to interviews and threaten deportation.

I know that there are procedures in place like divorce waiver and VAWA. However if it's "only" emotional abuse like threats and blackmail, it's very difficult for the GC holder.

I myself was a victim of this. I started writing down the dates he would mention to deport me. He blackmailed me saying if you don't do this or that he will not sign my paper. At this point the relationship isn't based on love anymore.

I really wish there wasn't such a thing as a conditional green card. Even if that meant to go through serious vetting in the beginning. This way the USC doesn't have the power to abuse the GC holder.

[cd37 229]

sorry to hear you went through this but there is no way for vetting with few weeks or months of marriage. On other hand there are several cases where beneficiary filed for divorce within few weeks of getting 10 yr green card. So there are always two sides of coin but atleast uscis has given option for waivers to protect beneficiary from abuse. 

[Starkilla09 366]

Abuse waivers though possible have a much higher bar to meet than using a simple divorce waiver. A divorce waiver only requires you to show documentation of good faith marriage. If you have bona fide marriage evidence I'll suggest you use a divorce waiver. An abuse waiver requires you to convince USCIS that you entered the marriage in good faith, and also suffered severe abuse by your USC spouse. It's way easier to demonstrate the first than the second, as what you may consider abuse may not meet the bar USCIS considers. If you have police reports, notes from physiologist etc, then you may give it an abuse waiver shot. Threatening deportations and verbal altercations won't cut it alone.

[Kris-Sy 6]

I definitely understand both sides. In my case the USCs left and filed for divorce  during the ROC process - . He changed his address from everything  -  cancelled our joint insurances. everything joint he cancelled  - He told me that i would no longer have proof  if they asked for more  and  he would not show up for any interviews. He filed for divorce  saying that we were separated a year before i sent the 751 renewal papers - just to hurt the immigration process. i am letting him run  with his lies  and not participating in his mess - the court will grant him the divorce without me. i clearly have proof that we had files for taxes together  and  moved to a new place  where we both went to the  complex  and signed the lease / renters insurance . i will ask my landlord to give me a letter. i will use them down the line if i have to during n400. 

 

i also know people who leave their   USCs right after they are all set with their papers.  

 

it is not an easy for either parties sometimes. 

[Kris-Sy 6]

The point i was trying make was  that people change  and show you a completely different person from what you thought they were - sometimes it's the foreigner and sometimes it the citizens. 

[Ontarkie 14,221]

~~Inappropriate post removed along with quoted posts. Post constructively or do not post.~~

~~Moved to General Immigration, from ROC - As the OP is not asking for filling or processing, but sharing her grievance about the process.~~

 

Edited September 5, 2017 by Ontarkie