K1 visa process: Did the USC suggested it first or the beneficiary?

[ThinkerBelle 5]

Just out of curiousity. To everyone who has/have had a k1 visa, who initiated to start the process or brought up the idea of a K1? Is it the USC partner or the beneficiary? How long were you together before getting engaged and started the K1 visa process?

Edited August 25, 2017 by ThinkerBelle

[Hank_ 9,174]

 

Curiosity killed the cat....  

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[ThinkerBelle 5]

Lol. Someone better feed my curiosity. Its more of a poll. 

[Suss&Camm 2,213]

 We'd been talking a bit over a year before filing. Neither really suggested it - we discussed him moving to Sweden and me moving to the US and it made more sense for our situation at the moment for me to move. Mutual decision pretty much. 

Edited August 25, 2017 by Suss&Camm

[Sunnyland 639]

In our case was a mutual thing I think. We knew each other for like 3/4 years and then things moved to that direction as soon as he found a better job. My husband (then boyfriend) found this website and we took it from there. Lawyers wanted to charge us like $3000 for a very simple K1 visa case. We did it ourselves.

[Hank_ 9,174]

 

Barber pole or....

[j N j 50]

11 hours ago, Hank_ said:

 

Curiosity killed the cat....  

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Edited August 25, 2017 by j N j

[John & Rose 7,239]

12 hours ago, ThinkerBelle said:

Just out of curiousity. To everyone who has/have had a k1 visa, who initiated to start the process or brought up the idea of a K1? Is it the USC partner or the beneficiary? How long were you together before getting engaged and started the K1 visa process?

Ours was mutual.  We have known each other for a year.  Officially started dating in January.  Engaged in April.  I love her kids and they love me.  Things are tougher for jobs and opportunities in the Philippines and I have a great job here.  I want her kids to have the best possible chance at being successful so their odds are much better in America.  We started the K-1 process in early June.

Edited August 25, 2017 by jwlussow

[RO_AH 1,659]

18 hours ago, ThinkerBelle said:

Just out of curiousity. To everyone who has/have had a k1 visa, who initiated to start the process or brought up the idea of a K1? Is it the USC partner or the beneficiary? How long were you together before getting engaged and started the K1 visa process?

I would think once the relationship gets to the point of a proposal the obvious next phase in the relationship is discussing when and where you plan to get married and where you will live together. That would be the determining factor of when and what  visa may be needed.

 

In my case I have not even officially proposed to the woman I will marry in about a month. I have been there to the Philippines 4 times to visit her but circumstances kept us apart for three years now. We never stopped talking about our plans and had gone back and forth in spouse or fiance visa and decided to get married there and then file for spouse.We have planned our entire wedding already, yet I still have not proposed because I feel that needs to be done in person. So in 3 weeks when I first see her at NAIA I will be proposing to her and putting a ring on her finger :D.

 

But for your question don't put the cart in front of the horse. Focus on the relationship (if that is your main goal) and the details (such as immigration visa) will work themselves out in time.

 

Also don't be set on a fiance visa. Spouse visa's are better in many ways, the only negative is that it takes a little bit longer.

Edited August 25, 2017 by RO_AH

[Umka36 781]

It was mutual for us, because we didn't want to be apart once married.

[ThinkerBelle 5]

5 hours ago, RO_AH said:

I would think once the relationship gets to the point of a proposal the obvious next phase in the relationship is discussing when and where you plan to get married and where you will live together. That would be the determining factor of when and what  visa may be needed.

 

In my case I have not even officially proposed to the woman I will marry in about a month. I have been there to the Philippines 4 times to visit her but circumstances kept us apart for three years now. We never stopped talking about our plans and had gone back and forth in spouse or fiance visa and decided to get married there and then file for spouse.We have planned our entire wedding already, yet I still have not proposed because I feel that needs to be done in person. So in 3 weeks when I first see her at NAIA I will be proposing to her and putting a ring on her finger :D.

 

But for your question don't put the cart in front of the horse. Focus on the relationship (if that is your main goal) and the details (such as immigration visa) will work themselves out in time.

 

Also don't be set on a fiance visa. Spouse visa's are better in many ways, the only negative is that it takes a little bit longer.

Of course the relationship is my main goal (i dont know if its the same with him). Been together for about 4 years and counting..engaged with a an engagement ring for almost a year. When we started LDR, I had to come visit him in the US every 6 months which burns a hole in both our pockets. Thats just about it. Hence my curiosity.

 

Maybe he's relying on my lengthy, tedious, work-based immigrant visa which could take longer than the spouse visa lol

 

@Umka36 lucky you, my fiance maybe still enjoys being away from me.  

Edited August 26, 2017 by ThinkerBelle

[RO_AH 1,659]

2 hours ago, ThinkerBelle said:

Of course the relationship is my main goal (i dont know if its the same with him). Been together for about 4 years and counting..engaged with a an engagement ring for almost a year.

Wow I am sad when I read this. I am guessing he is young (under 30)? We have a saying here in America, I will give you the Tagalog version "oras na para tumae". I think it is time to have a conversation with him. Ask what he thinks that ring means? To me it is a promise of marriage. 3 years into my relationship with my fiance we were talking always about our future. Will I bring her here on a K-1 or will we marry there and get a CR-1. What's the pro's and what are the cons. Then we build our plans based on what we both want. You need to be strong. If it is a relationship a future and to start a family you want, then you need to make sure you are with someone that wants the same thing. Remember "oras na para tumae". Life keeps moving and if you are with someone that does not want the same things that you do out of life hurry and find someone that does. Never sit by and hope someone will change. Talk...Tell him what you want out of life and have him tell you. As long as he is comfortable with the way things are there is no reason for him to change the situation.

2 hours ago, ThinkerBelle said:

When we started LDR, I had to come visit him in the US every 6 months which burns a hole in both our pockets. Thats just about it.

Don't know what to say about that. My fiance has never spent a peso on our relationship. I guess I am just old fashioned like that.

2 hours ago, ThinkerBelle said:

Maybe he's relying on my lengthy, tedious, work-based immigrant visa which could take longer than the spouse visa lol

I think he's just in a comfort zone. Time for you to turn up the heat.If you are ready to get married and settle down tell him. Then tell him if he's not ready maybe you just have different goals in life. If he loves you it's time to prove it. Has he ever been to the Philippines?

[RO_AH 1,659]

But like I said earlier. The discussion is not about the visa, it's about your relationship. That discussion will lead you to the visa.

[ThinkerBelle 5]

25 minutes ago, RO_AH said:

Wow I am sad when I read this. I am guessing he is young (under 30)? We have a saying here in America, I will give you the Tagalog version "oras na para tumae". I think it is time to have a conversation with him. Ask what he thinks that ring means? To me it is a promise of marriage. 3 years into my relationship with my fiance we were talking always about our future. Will I bring her here on a K-1 or will we marry there and get a CR-1. What's the pro's and what are the cons. Then we build our plans based on what we both want. You need to be strong. If it is a relationship a future and to start a family you want, then you need to make sure you are with someone that wants the same thing. Remember "oras na para tumae". Life keeps moving and if you are with someone that does not want the same things that you do out of life hurry and find someone that does. Never sit by and hope someone will change. Talk...Tell him what you want out of life and have him tell you. As long as he is comfortable with the way things are there is no reason for him to change the situation.

Don't know what to say about that. My fiance has never spent a peso on our relationship. I guess I am just old fashioned like that.

I think he's just in a comfort zone. Time for you to turn up the heat.If you are ready to get married and settle down tell him. Then tell him if he's not ready maybe you just have different goals in life. If he loves you it's time to prove it. Has he ever been to the Philippines?

He has been to the Philippines, we met overseas so when we had to start doing long distance it was hard having to transition from seeing eachother everyday to every 6 months. He does cover most of the cost, but since I also have a decent pay as a RN i try to pull my weight on things.

 

You're  right its sad being in my position lol.  I am ready to get married, he says he is too. When? Maybe when pigs fly. I dont know. He told me to get a job in the states, so I did and now processing my immigrant visa.

 

He is 8 years older than me im in my 30s now, so i dont think he's that young anymore. Right now im here in the states again and he does take care of me, but my little eggs are getting close to their expiration date, I might never have little mini-me's running around.

 

 

Edited August 26, 2017 by ThinkerBelle

[RO_AH 1,659]

Well like I said make sure your goals are aligned and not just in words but in action. And you're right, if you're planning to start a family your time is running out. So give him a swift kick in the butt and get him moving haha.