budget

[JelloShotGirl 0]

any advice how to bring up budget to fiancee once he gets here? We are both pretty simple, non extravigant, however we are on our own(no family support) he is coming from Philippines so he basically has no dough, and until he starts working it is just one income(me) how to bring up subject once he gets here without being like um, unromantic? New York very expensive

[DeadPoolX 9]

any advice how to bring up budget to fiancee once he gets here? We are both pretty simple, non extravigant, however we are on our own(no family support) he is coming from Philippines so he basically has no dough, and until he starts working it is just one income(me) how to bring up subject once he gets here without being like um, unromantic? New York very expensive

One method might be to (oddly enough) take him shopping or out to dinner. Celebrate his coming here to the United States! I'm sure you'll do a little of both, anyway. The point, however, is that hopefully he'll see how expensive things are and then have a better understanding of the situation when you explain it to him. Without doing that, the concept is -- more or less -- an abstract one, and those are more difficult to comprehend.

No matter how you bring the subject up, spend a little time being romantic before talking about money. Although money is important, it's not the lifeblood of a relationship (some might disagree on this, but that's my opinion), and moving from one country to another is a very traumatic experience for some people. The last thing you'd want to do is shock him by bombarding him with such a serious topic as money straight off the plane.

You know him best though. Overall, do whatever feels right and you should succeed in goals without being overly unromantic or stepping on his toes.

[JelloShotGirl 0]

any advice how to bring up budget to fiancee once he gets here? We are both pretty simple, non extravigant, however we are on our own(no family support) he is coming from Philippines so he basically has no dough, and until he starts working it is just one income(me) how to bring up subject once he gets here without being like um, unromantic? New York very expensive

One method might be to (oddly enough) take him shopping or out to dinner. Celebrate his coming here to the United States! I'm sure you'll do a little of both, anyway. The point, however, is that hopefully he'll see how expensive things are and then have a better understanding of the situation when you explain it to him. Without doing that, the concept is -- more or less -- an abstract one, and those are more difficult to comprehend.

No matter how you bring the subject up, spend a little time being romantic before talking about money. Although money is important, it's not the lifeblood of a relationship (some might disagree on this, but that's my opinion), and moving from one country to another is a very traumatic experience for some people. The last thing you'd want to do is shock him by bombarding him with such a serious topic as money straight off the plane.

You know him best though. Overall, do whatever feels right and you should succeed in goals without being overly unromantic or stepping on his toes.

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