What would you do if you were in my situation?

[whattodonext86 0]

I had scheduled visa interview and had my medical examination done but I broke up with my fiancée due to some serious issues.

 

If I don't attend my visa interview, does he still have to withdraw the K-1 petition? What happens later?

 

Would I be in trouble If I don't show up at the interview and do not proceed with the visa process without the petition withdrawal? 

 

He is not cooperating right now, he doesn't want to withdraw the petition. 

 

 

 

 

 

[KULtoATL 1,551]

On your end, you best cancel your appointment on ustraveldocs.com.

 

I-129F was submitted by the USC. Only he can withdraw it from USCIS. Since he's not co-operating, you can send a letter to USCIS to notify them. At least you have something on record but don't expect the petition to be withdrawn.

[whattodonext86 0]

I met my fiancé while he was stationed in my home country 28 months ago. 

 

We saw each other for about 3 months, then he had to go back to the US (I later found out that he lied to me that he had 6 months left when we first met) 

 

We stayed in touch and continued the relationship.

 

After about 6 months, I went over to the US and spent 2 weeks with him and met his parents. 

 

And another 6 months later, he came to my home country for a week to meet my parents & friends. After this visit, I went to the US with him and spent 3 months to see if things would actually work out if we get married. When my stay was nearing the end, I told him that I want to get married, if we don't start the visa process after I get back to my home country, I can't date him anymore. Because I felt like I had been in a Long Distance Relationship for too long. He agreed that LDR does not benefit our relationship in any ways, It was becoming too much for both of us.

 

Then, I came back to my home country, we began to search information about K-1 then the Process finally started. 

 

It was kinda smooth until then. 

 

When we started talking about having a wedding ceremony in my home country, he seemed to be excited at first then later on he freaked out on some topic related to marriage then we got into an argument. 

 

Later he told me that we need to postpone the wedding. So I cancelled the wedding here and started questioning the relationship and all. 

 

Anyway, we reconciled then he asked me what I want to do. I told him to come here and so he can spend some time with my family and friends since the first visit was very short. 

 

After we went through all that, He came here again after the 5 months of being apart, spent about a week, we went back to the US together (Because he wanted me to spend some time with him there and also for me, I wanted to be sure if this marriage is a right one for me, I know I shouldn't have asked him to file for the visa if I wasn't so sure. But, from the beginning, there was never enough time) 

 

2 weeks into my stay there, I found hundreds of msgs and pictures on his electronic devices. I realized that he was seeing and messing around with other women for the last 2 years while we were supposedly together. My whole world collapsed I didn't know who he was anymore. I couldn't believe what I saw. I confronted him when he got home from work, he was on his knees and saying sorry. 

 

His reasons for doing so were, first he never thought this relationship would work, second, he was terribly bored and had to kill time, third, he had trust issues. I tried to forgive him and move on because I couldn't imagine my life without him. He tried so hard to make amends. 6 weeks have passed like that. 

 

The funny thing is he proposed to me while I was there on my birthday making a Huge scene by being so romantic. He organized my birthday party and most of his friends were at the party. He even cried. If he had to please all those women while we were together, why did he even cry? or crocodile tears.

 

Anyway, I've been so confused about everything and decided to call his mom asking what she thinks of her son's promiscuous behavior. She goes 

"I can't believe he ever did those things but if he did, he probably did those things to make sure he wants to get married and you are the one. You know, he is going to be a wonderful husband and a father" Does this make sense to you? 

 

I still love him. I miss him dearly for sure. But all my friends said, for my own sake, this isn't good at all. But I also think about all the beautiful moments that we shared together even though they didn't mean a thing to him... 

 

So here are my questions.

 

1. If I proceed with this process, is it unreasonable and irrational? is it just too crazy to even think I can forgive him and move on? Would I ever be able to trust him again? 

 

2. I'm also mentally preparing myself to abort this whole process. But if I ever decide to get married to a US citizen some time in the future, would he be able to file for another K-1 visa for me? 

 

Thank you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[TBoneTX 46,125]

Similar threads have been merged -- one with the posted topic title (moved from Off Topic to the K-1 Process forum), and another previously titled "I've Decided Not to Go Through with the K-1 Visa Process."

Edited August 2, 2017 by TBoneTX

[TBoneTX 46,125]

Blunt answers to your questions, in reverse order:

 

2.  Being part of another K-1 is the least of your concerns right now.  Let those chips fall as they may.

 

1.  Immediately dump this lying, deceitful, unfaithful loser (and his full-of-it mother) and never look back.  Just look at what he's done to you -- that's not love or even commitment.  All the sincere, emotionally available men in the world, and you're paying an iota of consideration to staying with THIS one?

[Unidentified 2,930]

3 hours ago, whattodonext86 said:

So here are my questions.

 

1. If I proceed with this process, is it unreasonable and irrational? is it just too crazy to even think I can forgive him and move on? Would I ever be able to trust him again? 

 

2. I'm also mentally preparing myself to abort this whole process. But if I ever decide to get married to a US citizen some time in the future, would he be able to file for another K-1 visa for me? 

 

Thank you.

 

 

1. Yes it would be irrational to continue with the process and marry a man who doesn't respect you. He has been doing it for 2 years and he is not going to stop just because you come over and marry him. This guy got a problem you can't fix. 

 

2. You shouldn't even be thinking about another K1 visa. That makes it seem like you just want to move to the US. 

[Perfect two 💑 1,147]

For me, no matter how much you love him. It is better for you to leave him. Terribly bored and had to killed time? Such an excuse. Everyone know that LDR is not easy, the fact that you are the one who give an idea to get marry. Make me think that his excuse is not reasonable at all. If he's the one who feel terribly bored when you are not around, why not he's the one who give an idea to get marry? He didn't want to give an idea to get marry from the beginning because he still want to messing around with other girls. For me, he's not yet ready to get married. For your question, here is my opinion :

1. If I proceed with this process, is it unreasonable and irrational? is it just too crazy to even think I can forgive him and move on? Would I ever be able to trust him again? 

 

It is reasonable and rational if you can forgive him and move on. However, ask yourself, is it worth it for you to do that? Are you 100% sure he will change after both of you get married?

 

2. I'm also mentally preparing myself to abort this whole process. But if I ever decide to get married to a US citizen some time in the future, would he be able to file for another K-1 visa for me? 

 

Questioning about another K-1 only make you look desperate to come to States, because it make you look like you intentionally want to find guy from States because you want to move there. But, if let say, you really found someone you love in future, yes he will be able to file for another K-1. 

 

 

[whattodonext86 0]

Thank you all for your perspectives. Btw, I only asked if I can get sponsored again because a lot of my close friends have settled down in the States and they keep saying they will put me on a blind date so I was only thinking if it is ever possible if it not possible i would just tell them don't even bother to hook me up with anyone from there.  

 

 

[Louis61404 133]

Bail on this guy.