Fiancé left after 2 days in US

[EmilyW 1,443]

From what you've posted here, his loss.

 

You seem incredibly articulate and strong: both of which are characteristics that a better man will appreciate and cherish.

[Randyandyuni 2,682]

You mentione a bruising of your self -worth, dont feel so, this a reflection on his character not your value. Take the time to reflect on the situation and plan your next moves out, best of luck

[Maria1989 403]

8 hours ago, Liz&Alfredo said:

I don't know his passport number, and never got any sort of consent to check his i94...it never even would have occurred to me. He seemed homesick in the two days he was here, but we still had good times. I thought it would get better, but he didn't give it any time. 

 

I asked for proof that he really went back, and he pretty quickly sent me the boarding pass for his flight from Lima to his hometown of Trujillo. He was at the Lima airport when I asked for proof. 

 

I truly don't understand why he did this, and especially so soon, but in the 2 days he was here, he did display an extremely controlling side I never knew existed . We didn't fight about it, but I noticed it and I know he did me a huge favor by leaving. The more I think about how critical and controlling he was while he was here, the more I know our marriage would have been miserable. 

 

What I hate the most is the way he left. Leaving me without saying goodbye, without even giving me a clue that he was even thinking about leaving....blocking me from everything and leaving me to come home to an empty apartment...it is really just SO cruel. I wouldn't do that to my worst enemy, much less someone I ever claimed to love. 

 

And still, I miss him like crazy and wish he was here. I have gone through EVERY moment of the 2 days he was here over and over again to see what I could have done differently and it has been absolute torture. Still, I know that there is NOTHING I could have done. We just weren't meant to be. God was looking out for me and saved me from a miserable life where I would have ended up losing who I am and resenting my husband because of it. 

 

I still love Alfredo and probably will for a long time. I'm going to see a counselor next Friday to begin working through all of this and begin to heal. 

All a part of the normal healing process. Of course it hurts, and it will for a while. I really dont see that he is such a bad person, just totally went about it the wrong way. From everything you described, it really seemed as if he really left, Im glad you have that confirmation. Again sorry that happened, eventhough it seems to be for the best... God definitely was looking out for you, and he will walk with you as you recover as well. 🙏🏽 

 

No where to look but straight ahead, to a brighter future. 

[ATX_Liz 10]

On 8/5/2017 at 1:59 AM, Liz&Alfredo said:

Very true! His mom pretty much rules his life.

Now I feel bad for saying this. I had assumed that the minute he had doubts, he called his mom and she urged him to just go home. Turns out, that was not the case at all. He wasn't able to reach her, so he went ahead and flew home to Peru without even counseling with family members. Apparently both of his parents have told him he made a bad decision. 

[ATX_Liz 10]

Well, I have finally had a couple phone calls with him. Turns out it really was just a case of very cold feet. He has realized the mistake he made, but now there is nothing that can be done.Thank you all so much for your words of advice and encouragement. I would like to move on now, and even put VisaJourney behind me, as it is just painful to be reminded of how this all went so very, very wrong. How can I delete my account? I put in a request for my account to be deleted and I received an email saying that a new account was created for me, but all I want is simply to delete this account. 

[Boiler 45,581]

6 minutes ago, ATX_Liz said:

Well, I have finally had a couple phone calls with him. Turns out it really was just a case of very cold feet. He has realized the mistake he made, but now there is nothing that can be done.Thank you all so much for your words of advice and encouragement. I would like to move on now, and even put VisaJourney behind me, as it is just painful to be reminded of how this all went so very, very wrong. How can I delete my account? I put in a request for my account to be deleted and I received an email saying that a new account was created for me, but all I want is simply to delete this account. 

Just ignore it, delete it from you favourites and it will disappear into the mists of time.

[Russ&Caro 1,549]

If you're getting email notifications, you'll want to go into Settings and then find the link to "Notification Settings".

 

When I changed my email notifications, it took a couple of days for the emails to actually stop. Best of luck to you!

[Boiler 45,581]

The email itself has a link to remove notifications.

[Going through 5,671]

50 minutes ago, ATX_Liz said:

I put in a request for my account to be deleted and I received an email saying that a new account was created for me, but all I want is simply to delete this account. 

http://support.visajourney.com/support/solutions/articles/149037-how-do-i-close-my-account-

[ATX_Liz 10]

5 minutes ago, Going through said:

http://support.visajourney.com/support/solutions/articles/149037-how-do-i-close-my-account-

Thank you so much!! Do you know if deleting my account will delete my posts? I really want this post gone

[Going through 5,671]

2 minutes ago, ATX_Liz said:

Thank you so much!! Do you know if deleting my account will delete my posts? I really want this post gone

That one you need to message the mods for---they are able to delete this thread.

 

@Captain Ewok could help you with that I'm sure.

Edited August 7, 2017 by Going through