August 2017 I-129F Filers

[N&Rdorcy 60]

Hi all we filed our papers on August 10,2017 and still no word. Just an update that our papers were received on August 14....No update from the site since or anything, fiancé is in Haiti.

Edited December 15, 2017 by N&Rdorcy

[Naes 12,205]

18 minutes ago, N&Rdorcy said:

Hi all we filed our papers on August 10,2017 and still no word. Just an update that our papers were received on August 14....No update from the site since or anything, fiancé is in Haiti.

That's normal for the recent processing times.

 

currently the last updated case was dated June 16th and they are processing june cases.

 

wait times are on average 180+ days, although we have May filers waiting at 200 days right now.

 

good luck and wait tight!

[N&Rdorcy 60]

10 hours ago, Naes said:

That's normal for the recent processing times.

 

currently the last updated case was dated June 16th and they are processing june cases.

 

wait times are on average 180+ days, although we have May filers waiting at 200 days right now.

 

good luck and wait tight!

Thank you so much for letting me know i thought there was some sort of issue. Maybe i need to read through more responses 

[NICK & PAULA 1,097]

[noraliz73 243]

Has anyone else lost all the joy and excitement out of the whole thing?  I have.  I can't even dream anymore.  I dreamed of getting married in his country and that didn't happen.  Now this is endless and not even certain.  I love my fiancé and want to live with him, but we can no longer talk about the future without getting stressed and depressed.  It all seems so hopeless some days like why bother making plans if they will only get dashed.

[NICK & PAULA 1,097]

15 hours ago, noraliz73 said:

Has anyone else lost all the joy and excitement out of the whole thing?  I have.  I can't even dream anymore.  I dreamed of getting married in his country and that didn't happen.  Now this is endless and not even certain.  I love my fiancé and want to live with him, but we can no longer talk about the future without getting stressed and depressed.  It all seems so hopeless some days like why bother making plans if they will only get dashed.

We avoid talking about plans most of the time because we really feel disappointed, sad and it gives us heart aches. I asked my Mr. Hall about his dream once and he told me that his dream is to pick me up at Cincinnati airport very soon. He said that when I am already with him then we can already talk about future plans. He said that he knew this process would take time and he's willing to wait. He just want me to be home and everything will be fine. We don't talk about weddings yet. He said that it's not time to talk about it right now. I know he's feeling sad and disappointed  too but he's trying to be strong for both of us. He encourage me and say things that lifts my spirit and be optimistic. I feel like I wanna cry and shout because this process is giving us negative thoughts and feelings. I really hate this; I know you guys do too. The waiting game is not fun anymore.

[Naes 12,205]

4 minutes ago, NICK & PAULA said:

We avoid talking about plans most of the time because we really feel disappointed, sad and it gives us heart aches. I asked my Mr. Hall about his dream once and he told me that his dream is to pick me up at Cincinnati airport very soon. He said that when I am already with him then we can already talk about future plans. He said that he knew this process would take time and he's willing to wait. He just want me to be home and everything will be fine. We don't talk about weddings yet. He said that it's not time to talk about it right now. I know he's feeling sad and disappointed  too but he's trying to be strong for both of us. He encourage me and say things that lifts my spirit and be optimistic. I feel like I wanna cry and shout because this process is giving us negative thoughts and feelings. I really hate this; I know you guys do too. The waiting game is not fun anymore.

So today my fiancé is flying here, and I feel blessed knowing there are lots of us won't be seeing their significant others for a little while longer. And today was the worst day for both of us so far.

 His mother asked why I'm not going there in March. And we tried to explain uscis. Then she asked why if he can't come and live with me. We had that choice at the start and we chose not to. Now that he started his job last month, we don't have that choice anymore. Both of us cried, not knowing what to do anymore. 

 I thought of changing the wedding date, not because I don't believe I can make it. But I'm getting worried what if I hit the random rfe lottery or the ap lottery or something else goes down... or what if I tell those people who will come from Turkey, with all the dollar rates right now, and their tickets will go to waste.. 

 

annnnd then I decided I can't do this like that. I cannot continue honking everything go bad. 99% of cases actually resolved under 200 days even with the rfes. NVC is a problem of now, it is not a regular occurance and it is connected to uscis. I decided my wedding other than the venue will be all DIY because that way I won't have to pay deposit. I'll only tell people when I get noa2. And if I have to change anything it will only be my venue. 

 Wedding problem checked.

 

we will find the extra money to visit by getting a second small job, and if I have to stay here longer than that months salary will go to another ticket around May.

 

problem of being apart tackled.

 

i know each of us have different problems and different things we are battling with, some money, some health, some relationship and many many others. In my case I hate where I live but I am stuck and I didn't see my family for 5 years and when I get the visa I will first go visit them for a month. 

 

But the the main thing is after crying for ours or making ourselves go anxious frustrated and nervous with what ifs.. remember to breathe for one sec. and try to think of ways to tackle. If can't find for oneself ask around, ask each other.

 

i didn't give justice on how bad today was, believe me. And I am feeling a little bit better after going crazy for a sec venting to a few friends and even fighting with my dear. Then I took a deep breath (ok and a bath...with a lush bomb...) cause there is light...(I admit when I talked to my best friend today. They just got he couch to their future house where they're going to get married.. we got engaged around the same time... but mine and I share a huge Pacific Ocean between us)

[NICK & PAULA 1,097]

14 minutes ago, Naes said:

So today my fiancé is flying here, and I feel blessed knowing there are lots of us won't be seeing their significant others for a little while longer. And today was the worst day for both of us so far.

 His mother asked why I'm not going there in March. And we tried to explain uscis. Then she asked why if he can't come and live with me. We had that choice at the start and we chose not to. Now that he started his job last month, we don't have that choice anymore. Both of us cried, not knowing what to do anymore. 

 I thought of changing the wedding date, not because I don't believe I can make it. But I'm getting worried what if I hit the random rfe lottery or the ap lottery or something else goes down... or what if I tell those people who will come from Turkey, with all the dollar rates right now, and their tickets will go to waste.. 

 

annnnd then I decided I can't do this like that. I cannot continue honking everything go bad. 99% of cases actually resolved under 200 days even with the rfes. NVC is a problem of now, it is not a regular occurance and it is connected to uscis. I decided my wedding other than the venue will be all DIY because that way I won't have to pay deposit. I'll only tell people when I get noa2. And if I have to change anything it will only be my venue. 

 Wedding problem checked.

 

we will find the extra money to visit by getting a second small job, and if I have to stay here longer than that months salary will go to another ticket around May.

 

problem of being apart tackled.

 

i know each of us have different problems and different things we are battling with, some money, some health, some relationship and many many others. In my case I hate where I live but I am stuck and I didn't see my family for 5 years and when I get the visa I will first go visit them for a month. 

 

But the the main thing is after crying for ours or making ourselves go anxious frustrated and nervous with what ifs.. remember to breathe for one sec. and try to think of ways to tackle. If can't find for oneself ask around, ask each other.

 

i didn't give justice on how bad today was, believe me. And I am feeling a little bit better after going crazy for a sec venting to a few friends and even fighting with my dear. Then I took a deep breath (ok and a bath...with a lush bomb...) cause there is light...(I admit when I talked to my best friend today. They just got he couch to their future house where they're going to get married.. we got engaged around the same time... but mine and I share a huge Pacific Ocean between us)

Oh my gee! I'm teary eyed as I was reading what you wrote, my friend. I am so happy for you because you'll get to hold your Mister so soon..he's just hours away now. Congratulations! I hope that you and him will have a happy and fulfilling holiday together. (Feeling a little jelly ) I wish there's a way that my Mr Hall could come visit me again here but as you've mentioned, we are one of those couples with financial difficulty right now and even if we have the budget he still can't request for a week's leave in his work because he already used all his PTOs of 2017 when he came here last July. So we're stuck in the waiting game and all we could do is to hope and fight a little more. Being alone without your SO beside you is an everyday struggle. Skype and messenger aren't enough but we can't do nothing.  This really sucks! But I love him so much so I'll keep on fighting with him. Thank you for the words of encouragement, baby girl. I admire how you just took a deep breath and a hot shower and be optimistic again. Lol! You go, girl! 

[noraliz73 243]

I am saving the trip to see him for the interview.  I want to go sooner, but since he’s Egyptian, I feel it is best that he has the actual fiancee as proof as an ongoing relationship.  It would be cool to see how interviews go in real life and it could be the happiest day ever where we take his parents out to the best dinner we can because they have been so supportive.  But we sooo need to see each other now!  We are doing the best we can and being part of this group with you all really helps.  My fiancé was actually in the US Embassy in Cairo with me in May when I went to notarize a form for trying to marry in his country.  Looking back, I’m surprised they let him in, but I brought him because half of the form has to be written in Arabic.  Who else was going to do that?  I have that receipt that I submitted as well as a notarized copy of a form in both our handwriting stating I am free to marry and stamped by the Embassy.  I guess that is proof of intent to marry.  But while we were there, there was a US Citizen filling out the same form.  She was Yemeni.  She asked my fiancé how to spell “USA.”  That was so funny!  And, when we went to the beach at Ras Mohammed in Sinai, there was a cop at an outpost watching us sitting in the “magical lake.”  When we walked back to the car he came over.  I thought we were in trouble for not being married, but he said he was bored and lonely and could we hang out with him for a while.  When visiting our loved ones, ever day is a story and an adventure.  Even the traffic or the errands.  It is exciting.  I hope you guys have good adventures and it takes the sting out of waiting.

[streanor 405]

Hi everyone,

I just found this forum and thought I'd chime in. We received our NOA1 on August 31st. Waiting impatiently like many others here!! Hang in there 

[patientguyinlove 92]

21 hours ago, noraliz73 said:

...we can no longer talk about the future without getting stressed and depressed.  

The future is all I have.

 

My philosophy is something like this. The present is torture. I live my life one day at a time and try to avoid checking the USCIS app daily. I drive through the achy feeling (I know you understand what I'm talking about) by objectively planning for the future...but those thoughts and discussions have to be focused on the right subjects. For example, things like, what would would we be doing together right now? Grocery shopping? Going for a walk? What do you plan to do while waiting for AOS? Those are good questions for us.

 

Not every topic is created equal. For example, I've found that being hyper-focused on wedding plans has become toxic for our mental health. Why? Because everyone has an opinion (whether it be family, friends, ourselves) and I can't possibly make everyone happy. In the end, it is USCIS that determines our timeline. 

 

"This too shall pass" I remind myself of this every day, throughout the day.

 

Then, I think of my fiance with a smile on her face and I'm reminded of why we're making this sacrifice together, whether it be emotionally, financially, interim safety concerns or the many other issues that have been mentioned in this forum.

 

[Naes 12,205]

9 hours ago, NICK & PAULA said:

Oh my gee! I'm teary eyed as I was reading what you wrote, my friend. I am so happy for you because you'll get to hold your Mister so soon..he's just hours away now. Congratulations! I hope that you and him will have a happy and fulfilling holiday together. (Feeling a little jelly ) I wish there's a way that my Mr Hall could come visit me again here but as you've mentioned, we are one of those couples with financial difficulty right now and even if we have the budget he still can't request for a week's leave in his work because he already used all his PTOs of 2017 when he came here last July. So we're stuck in the waiting game and all we could do is to hope and fight a little more. Being alone without your SO beside you is an everyday struggle. Skype and messenger aren't enough but we can't do nothing.  This really sucks! But I love him so much so I'll keep on fighting with him. Thank you for the words of encouragement, baby girl. I admire how you just took a deep breath and a hot shower and be optimistic again. Lol! You go, girl! 

I feel so lucky (yet unlucky because I won't have my cats till I have my visa..) I had two cats and the airline didn't let one person carry two cats at the same time in the cabin (one of them put half a kilo of holiday weight... like seriously how did he do that I don't know...) And because one is a snubnosed Scottish fold we can't put her to cargo..

 this will actually save us money, because I'll be moving from my extra expensive apartment (because of the cats) to my friends couch( ok no I'm being dramatic they actually got an apartment with a small guest room just for me... so I'll be that third wheel in a newly weds apartment... but I'll have my bed a tv and my PS4 so.. that's good) and I'll be saving thousands of dollars (japan is really expensive!) so in the end we realized losing 4 days paycheck (unpaid leave..sigh)  and two plane tickets and getting to see each other costs half the money I would use if we didn't do this!

 

 This is all the luck I get... no cats, no fiancé, no best friend because newly wed, I may be scanning 24/7 after January 😂😂😂

 

oh btw now this wait and noa2 is more important cause my cats!! Like seriously my catssssss!!! 

Edited December 17, 2017 by Naes

[noraliz73 243]

4 hours ago, streanor said:

Hi everyone,

I just found this forum and thought I'd chime in. We received our NOA1 on August 31st. Waiting impatiently like many others here!! Hang in there 

It's coming.  Hang in there!!!🤓

[NICK & PAULA 1,097]

This is definitely an expedited case but I am just happy to see an August approval 

[Christy&J 837]

12 hours ago, patientguyinlove said:

The future is all I have.

 

My philosophy is something like this. The present is torture. I live my life one day at a time and try to avoid checking the USCIS app daily. I drive through the achy feeling (I know you understand what I'm talking about) by objectively planning for the future...but those thoughts and discussions have to be focused on the right subjects. For example, things like, what would would we be doing together right now? Grocery shopping? Going for a walk? What do you plan to do while waiting for AOS? Those are good questions for us.

 

Not every topic is created equal. For example, I've found that being hyper-focused on wedding plans has become toxic for our mental health. Why? Because everyone has an opinion (whether it be family, friends, ourselves) and I can't possibly make everyone happy. In the end, it is USCIS that determines our timeline. 

 

"This too shall pass" I remind myself of this every day, throughout the day.

 

Then, I think of my fiance with a smile on her face and I'm reminded of why we're making this sacrifice together, whether it be emotionally, financially, interim safety concerns or the many other issues that have been mentioned in this forum.

 

at this point after reading those posts from June filer, I stopped making plan and I stopped stressing myself. It's sad but true that our future and our plans depend on USCIS decision. there is really nothing we can do instead being positive and hanging there.

 

May the force be with us !