August 2017 I-129F Filers

[Jesus 54]

Just now, Naes said:

Seems like it didn't btw. So no worries

Now I heard from April and June filers that it's working...

 

i don't know why NVC could have lied.. 

But again it's uscis and NVC so it's normal for them to not know what they're doing..

So everything is the same...?  /=   haha they scared me so much

[Naes 12,205]

Just now, Jesus said:

So everything is the same...?  /=   haha they scared me so much

It wouldn't change anything even if their tracker didn't work. The rest is same. So whichever happens no worries

(but yeah they gave me a whaaaaaatttt moment too)

[Jesus 54]

Just now, Naes said:

It wouldn't change anything even if their tracker didn't work. The rest is same. So whichever happens no worries

(but yeah they gave me a whaaaaaatttt moment too)

thank you!! what is the tracker for? 

 

so afer nvc receives the case, then they send it to the embassy correct? and they give you a number by the phone? this is the one we can use to e-mail the embassy?

[Naes 12,205]

Just now, Jesus said:

thank you!! what is the tracker for? 

 

so afer nvc receives the case, then they send it to the embassy correct? and they give you a number by the phone? this is the one we can use to e-mail the embassy?

It just tracks the case for when it says at NVC, transit and ready..... and thats it and this usually ends in like a week or less!

 but NVC already mails for these. It's just we are too impatient.

 

But K1 normally stays there so little, it really doesn't matte much.

[Jesus 54]

Just now, Naes said:

It just tracks the case for when it says at NVC, transit and ready..... and thats it and this usually ends in like a week or less!

 but NVC already mails for these. It's just we are too impatient.

 

But K1 normally stays there so little, it really doesn't matte much.

I see , so we have to wait longer then?  but currently is still working

 

sorry for all the questions! 

[noraliz73 243]

Is it normal to be suddenly afraid to go further in your relationship?  My fiancé talks about how hard it will be for him here.  I really love him.  I don’t think I could bear it if after all this time he just hated and resented me.  He says this is a “step down” in life for him because he is financially secure back home.  I’ve always loved him and I don’t want to fight or disappoint him.  Is anyone else afraid of losing the friendship part of the relationship and having your fiancé hate you if they hate it here or find you less than perfect?  The person might know you very well, but living together is something else.  

Edited February 6, 2018 by noraliz73
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[Naes 12,205]

2 minutes ago, Jesus said:

I see , so we have to wait longer then?  but currently is still working

 

sorry for all the questions! 

No no, you won't have to wait longer, you just won't be rushing to get the information, which will eventually come to you anyways.

 

But as I said it seemed to be working normal now so no worries.

[Naes 12,205]

7 minutes ago, noraliz73 said:

Is it normal to be suddenly afraid to go further in your relationship?  My fiancé talks about how hard it will be for him here.  I really love him.  I don’t think I could bear it if after all this time he just hated and resented me.  He says this is a “step down” in life for him because he is financially secure back home.  I’ve always loved him and I don’t want to fight or disappoint him.  Is anyone else afraid of losing the friendship part of the relationship and having your fiancé hate you if they hate it here or find you less than perfect?  The person might know you very well, but living together is something else.  

I am the beneficiary, and I do have doubts (although I believe it may be harder on the man moving depending on the culture)...

 

I make a lot of money and can actually double my salary even from that extremely easy here, I had a life I built and I have a status. I know how to work around etc... 

 

America, scares me...a lot. financially especially. theres no good health system, no law regarding worker rights, they can fire you on spot, they don't have to give you any vacation etc. it all sounds ridiculous to me!

 

But for that I went and saw the country a few times, and where we would live etc. However as I really don't like here, it didn't affect my relationship so I cannot really give any idea about that... 

 

What I can say, I really hate living in Japan, and my fiancé says my character changes every time I'm back here... So I do believe place affects mode a lot. 

But I wouldn't worry about finding you "less than perfect" everyone is perfect for someone, and this person is ready to to at least trying to leave everything he knows behind. It is hard, and up till he finds a job again it will be hard..

[noraliz73 243]

6 minutes ago, Naes said:

I am the beneficiary, and I do have doubts (although I believe it may be harder on the man moving depending on the culture)...

 

I make a lot of money and can actually double my salary even from that extremely easy here, I had a life I built and I have a status. I know how to work around etc... 

 

America, scares me...a lot. financially especially. theres no good health system, no law regarding worker rights, they can fire you on spot, they don't have to give you any vacation etc. it all sounds ridiculous to me!

 

But for that I went and saw the country a few times, and where we would live etc. However as I really don't like here, it didn't affect my relationship so I cannot really give any idea about that... 

 

What I can say, I really hate living in Japan, and my fiancé says my character changes every time I'm back here... So I do believe place affects mode a lot. 

But I wouldn't worry about finding you "less than perfect" everyone is perfect for someone, and this person is ready to to at least trying to leave everything he knows behind. It is hard, and up till he finds a job again it will be hard..

I respect the fact this won’t be easy.  I hope I can do all I can do to make it easier.  I’m afraid to see him suffer, I guess.  That’s the issue.  But our beneficiaries must see something in us to make them willing to go through all of this!  I know it would have been easier for me to adjust to his country, but he is doing this for my kids.  I hope all the petitioners remember that this will be an adjustment even if you love one another and the person has visited. @Naes thanks for your feedback.

[streanor 405]

28 minutes ago, noraliz73 said:

Is it normal to be suddenly afraid to go further in your relationship?  My fiancé talks about how hard it will be for him here.  I really love him.  I don’t think I could bear it if after all this time he just hated and resented me.  He says this is a “step down” in life for him because he is financially secure back home.  I’ve always loved him and I don’t want to fight or disappoint him.  Is anyone else afraid of losing the friendship part of the relationship and having your fiancé hate you if they hate it here or find you less than perfect?  The person might know you very well, but living together is something else.  

It's a big deal to move across the world for love, of course your Fiancé will have moments of worry and it's very understandable to fear leaving security of what he's used to and heading into the unknown. I had doubts and it took my Fiancé and I a LONG 2 years to decide this was the right route for us and ultimately we finally concluded that where ever in the world we are together will be home because us being together (no matter where) is what matters most to us. Just keep believing in love and love each other! It will be important to support each other all the way. Your Fiancé will probably need extra support from you helping them adjust to your culture and find his place there. But on another point he will have to make an effort to build his own life there and not depending too much on you (but thats another conversation). Stay strong, love and support each other and it will be fine!

Edited February 6, 2018 by streanor

[MandW 310]

Last night 30 minutes before heading to bed I read August has started, like I predicted last week " 2 weeks or less" based on the July data. This is extremely great news as I didn't expect August to start until Thursday or Friday so now I'm hoping to get NOA1 2 by Friday since I'm a August 7th filer which isn't a stretch since they began working august yesterday. I'm glad I decided to do my tax returns last weekend and my lawyer said I have "more than enough" to qualify for the I-134 support form. Some people say you need 3 years tax return with one of them being the most recent. IF your self employed like me then only 1 most recent tax return is needed (even stated on the 134 form) but I will get a letter from my bank with all my deposits from last year and this rear printed out showing I'm making continuous income.

I have now vacated the July thread as I was keeping an eye on the dates, last week they hit July 28th so I expected this week would start for us but didnt expect it to be so soon this week This is a great week for us Augusters 

[Shelfar 12]

Good morning all!! Average lurker here. I'm on day 175 and enjoying every bit of our journey so far  I love this thread and I'm thankful of all the insight everyone has. It is so helpful to see so many going through the same thing. It really helps to read everyone's responses. I'm wishing everyone the best and for fast approvals for us all. Don't forget to remember how wonderful this all is. We are writing such beautiful love stories      Good luck to you all!!!  

[MandW 310]

Today marks 183 for me and honestly it went pretty fast.

[Little_Vixen 1,869]

31 minutes ago, noraliz73 said:

Is it normal to be suddenly afraid to go further in your relationship?  My fiancé talks about how hard it will be for him here.  I really love him.  I don’t think I could bear it if after all this time he just hated and resented me.  He says this is a “step down” in life for him because he is financially secure back home.  I’ve always loved him and I don’t want to fight or disappoint him.  Is anyone else afraid of losing the friendship part of the relationship and having your fiancé hate you if they hate it here or find you less than perfect?  The person might know you very well, but living together is something else.  

December 22 beneficiary here, but I just wanted to give you a little support.

 

Yes. It is very normal to be scared. It is a life changing decision. I have heard psychologists say that there are three pillars your life is built on. The place you live, your job and your relationship(s). If you can avoid it you should never change all three at once. But that is exactly what we are doing. And it is scary as hell.

I agree with Naes. America scares me. I come from the Netherlands and our social system is so superior to the American system (do they even have one....?). I have a very good income, a job that I love. Friends and family that love me. I will give all of that up. I don't know if I will be able to find work in my field in the States. I don't know if my education will be accredited.

 

My fiancé and I talk about this a lot. He will be working to support me while I'll be ' stuck at home twiddling my thumbs' waiting for my EAD and drivers license. He is very worried about how I will cope, and just like you he worries how I will feel about him. But to be honest, I'm not. I have faith. I have a husband-to-be that will support me any way he can. I will have a new life to build. A new town to explore. New friends to make. And on top of that I am going to be a stepmom of four awesome kids (two still living at home). I not only gain a husband, but a family.

 

But I will need his support. I will need his help to understand things. Cultural differences, different laws and customs, different work environment and work ethics. I will need his hugs and kisses to tell me everything will be alright when I'm homesick.

 

 

 

 

 

[Michelle M 133]

1 hour ago, noraliz73 said:

Is it normal to be suddenly afraid to go further in your relationship?  My fiancé talks about how hard it will be for him here.  I really love him.  I don’t think I could bear it if after all this time he just hated and resented me.  He says this is a “step down” in life for him because he is financially secure back home.  I’ve always loved him and I don’t want to fight or disappoint him.  Is anyone else afraid of losing the friendship part of the relationship and having your fiancé hate you if they hate it here or find you less than perfect?  The person might know you very well, but living together is something else.  

I worry about that constantly because for roughly four months he will depend on me and me alone.