Does age difference matter for K1? (split)

[Going through 5,671]

31 minutes ago, Dutchie2016 said:

Furthermore, TO is 60+ and not a kid

Offtopic, apologies..

 

I know OP is Original Post(er)...what does TO stand for?

 

(I've always wanted to ask this as these forums are the only place I've seen that abbreviation---sorry)

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1 minute ago, Going through said:

Offtopic, apologies..

 

I know OP is Original Post(er)...what does TO stand for?

 

(I've always wanted to ask this as these forums are the only place I've seen that abbreviation---sorry)

I think it stands for Topic Opener. I have to admit I adopted the term from Dutch forums and always believed it was English..lol

 

[Keith & Arileidi 437]

9 hours ago, Beachlover said:

If I were TO I would pay attention to other things. Someone who's only purpose is getting a green card won't mention immigration to the US.
Visiting them (her and her family) will give him an idea; do they expect him to pay for everything? Do they want to rush into a marriage before he can spend time with her? 

And the advice of him moving there is a good one, if someone is a fraud they will try to prevent that to happen.

All great questions to ask.
I mean, its better to do it now then to let the USCIS or embassy  lead up to these question during their investigation.
Immigrating cost way to much time and money to be taking this so lightly.
Even more so if you are headed into your golden years.

[Keith & Arileidi 437]

7 hours ago, Taradao said:

Mr travel:

To your question: did you meet on Facebook?  Yes, I am in several ecommerce  groups. She befriended  and the conversation was only ecommerce and how to develop websites for shopify. Shopify, is a platform to sell anything around  the world  like eBay.  We chatted and I call her via Facebook  call, and exchange  pictures  of ourselves and selfies. I said I was  a single  man, raised  a stepdaughter who is currently  a doctor, and my daughter  is studying overseas  in Seoul. Yes,  I just  turned 62, but i look  like a 45 year old man.  The conversations got longer  and we share the same goals and values. I am going to visit her in Morocco  in the next six months for 10 days. Then we see how things turn out. There is no guarantee  that what will  turn. I am just asking  these  questions so I know how to proceed  if she  turns out to be the  person I am searching for. I will be happy to provide  my fb profile  to those that think I am a old geezer.  Thanks to everybody that provided their insights.

I hope you find what you are looking for.
And you do look like you are way younger than 62.
Just do your due diligence, and my best advice would be to never bring up any type of visa or immigrating the the US. 
If and when she asks about it, say no.
Always offer to come her.
If she looses interest then you can just move on.

[Taradao 4]

To Keith and arileidi:

Thanks for the response. She is young and beautiful; does  it make a high crime if she wants to marry an educated older man? I tend to agree with most responses written here. Btw, if we proceed to marry, which is a waaaaay down the road of discussion, I going to draw an iron clad pre nuptial agreement, and that's the end of discussion.

Marrying a person here in the USA  does not guarantee  that there is happiness  forever. More than 60% of marriages here in the US  result in divorce. 

As I told everybody here, it was not my intention to fall for anybody overseas. It just landed in my lap, and I will see where it leads. I will take my time and visit her. No need to rush anything.

[KULtoATL 1,551]

3 minutes ago, Taradao said:

To Keith and arileidi:

Thanks for the response. She is young and beautiful; does  it make a high crime if she wants to marry an educated older man?

No, not a crime. A huge age difference does concern/bother most people coupled with the other reasons that have been repeated over and over again. All you can do is to figure out if her intentions to be with you are true and sincere  

 

3 minutes ago, Taradao said:

I tend to agree with most responses written here. Btw, if we proceed to marry, which is a waaaaay down the road of discussion, I going to draw an iron clad pre nuptial agreement, and that's the end of discussion.

 

Pre-nuptial agreement is a good idea. However, you cannot get out of your responsibility as the sponsor once the I-864 is enforced upon her AOS approval (status adjustment from K-1 to legal permanent resident).

 

3 minutes ago, Taradao said:

Marrying a person here in the USA  does not guarantee  that there is happiness  forever. More than 60% of marriages here in the US  result in divorce. 

I think this is the modern day norm almost everywhere.

 

3 minutes ago, Taradao said:

As I told everybody here, it was not my intention to fall for anybody overseas. It just landed in my lap, and I will see where it leads. I will take my time and visit her. No need to rush anything.

D4mn right  

[Taradao 4]

Hey guys and to the gals here that said they would never  fall for  a 62 year old man. Never judge  a book by its cover. I am blessed with good genes and look way younger. It was never her idea or mine to discuss  some kind of relationship from the onset, it just develop over time and the same things we enjoyed and liked. She said later over 2 months that I should visit her and she would show  me her beautiful country. I used to live in Vegas, as far as I know, that's  the living that I enjoy. Then i suggested that after my visit, she should come here and visit me. So her intention was a friendly visit, but who the heck can refuse a beautiful young lady requests. I was the one that  brought  up the marriage idea if things work out. I have graduate degrees and life experiences of raising  two daughters, one of which is a psychiatrist today. I know a trick or two if I see one coming my way. I don't  want to be beheaded any shape  or form, so my intentions are purest at heart. Simply a visit and go to  tours with her as a guide. If and when anything develops I will take my time. As most of you here, it has been a long journey to find  the love of your life; and I do  dare  to say, it did not crossed your mine of marrying anybody overseas, it just happened.  We can  not choose our parents, or sexual gender we are born with, but we can certainly make what we want to be and the person we want to spend our lives with.

[Keith & Arileidi 437]

51 minutes ago, Taradao said:

Hey guys and to the gals here that said they would never  fall for  a 62 year old man. Never judge  a book by its cover. I am blessed with good genes and look way younger. It was never her idea or mine to discuss  some kind of relationship from the onset, it just develop over time and the same things we enjoyed and liked. She said later over 2 months that I should visit her and she would show  me her beautiful country. I used to live in Vegas, as far as I know, that's  the living that I enjoy. Then i suggested that after my visit, she should come here and visit me. So her intention was a friendly visit, but who the heck can refuse a beautiful young lady requests. I was the one that  brought  up the marriage idea if things work out. I have graduate degrees and life experiences of raising  two daughters, one of which is a psychiatrist today. I know a trick or two if I see one coming my way. I don't  want to be beheaded any shape  or form, so my intentions are purest at heart. Simply a visit and go to  tours with her as a guide. If and when anything develops I will take my time. As most of you here, it has been a long journey to find  the love of your life; and I do  dare  to say, it did not crossed your mine of marrying anybody overseas, it just happened.  We can  not choose our parents, or sexual gender we are born with, but we can certainly make what we want to be and the person we want to spend our lives with.

One thing to remember about this site is that people are not just speaking about your specific case.
Chances are, someone with a similar question will find this in a random search engine. So they speak as if they were informing a rather broad audience as opposed to just the OP.
While you may be and/or think you are an exception to the norm, its still important that everyone approaches this topic with a considerable amount of skeptism.

No reason to take offense, just take the the advise for surface value.
I mean.... it is the internet. lol
 

[Peot 161]

12 hours ago, Cruise77 said:

Legally yes but let's not pretend age isn't a factor here.  It is the huge gigantic elephant in the room.  And in this case 40 years is a massive factor. 

Elephant in the room or not, as you said, there is no legal basis for denial of the application. If they did deny it and age WAS a factor, it would mean a massive human-rights violation / age discrimination had been committed by a government body. That's not going to happen. Give me a break.

 

The OP is completely and perfectly fine with submitting an application, it's not a "dangerous decision".

 

And lastly, to most people who posted in this thread: This forum SHOULD be about the legality rather than crude assumptions, speculation, scare-tactics, and misinformation. You should be trying to HELP people find the proper and legal information they're looking for, not saying "there's no way she's into you". It's not our place (or the governments) to tell two complete strangers how they should think, feel, or act towards each other. If they want to get married, there is nothing at all to stop them, especially people's opinions on age.

[Roel 7,193]

Well, it's a public forum and people will say whatever you want. There was nothing offensive said, actually.

 

Also "Look out because she might be/probably is a scammer " (assumption based on thousands similar cases like that) seems like a valuable advice to me. Especially when it comes to the immigration. We have seen stuff like that happen before and people coming back to this forum crying about the foreign spouse/fiancee suddenly running away as soon as they get the green card.

 

It's a valuable advice, coming from people who aren't blindly in love/fascination stage like OP is right now but people who can look at his case without any emotions.

[Going through 5,671]

@Taradao don't worry---age difference cannot be the ONLY reason an application is denied.  It most likely will be used in combination with other reasons though if there are more than a few red flags when the Officer is determining your entire case...but no, it cannot be the ONLY reason for a denial.  And a combination of red flags doesn't always mean you will be denied, either, so long as you can prove the strength of your relationship.

 

The age difference of 38 years may be a red flag.

The country of origin for your maybe-soon-to-be fiance may be a red flag.

How often you have actually met before getting married may be a red flag.

Lack of face-time before getting married may be a red flag.

Her religion vs. your religion may be a red flag.

Talk of marriage before even meeting, and talk of immigration to the US before even meeting may be a red flag.

 

That's not to say you don't have factors going for you, either---make sure to keep a log of your emails/chats.  Make sure you keep proof/photos of your visits together (camera time-stamps are a wonderful thing, btw), enjoy your visits and get to know one another as much as you can.  Even if she doesn't end up being your one true love, you'll at least will have had a fantastic vacation....I wish you the best.

 

 

[Taradao 4]

To:GOING THROUGH.

Thank You for your advises and other people's comment here on my situation. I even question her about our age difference and she has no problem  with that. She told me that within the Arab  culture it is not unusual to see a large gap between the couple's age. As mentioned here , I do see a few red flags: age difference and race. I am Asian  by birth, prior citizenship is Brazilian, and I am highly educated,  got my citizenship because of my education( not bragging). I do speak 5 languages. Porquito English.

Going to be frank with you folks about this relationship with her. She is finishing college this year, stunningly beautiful (face and body), witty,  laughs at my corny jokes, holds the same family values like i do and one great asset most here will forget to ask their mates: she is a fantastic cook. Also, she speaks  4 languages, between the two us, we pretty  much can travel  most places and one of us could speak the language. My last relationship was a nightmare: she could not even cook pasta if her life depended on it, never did any laundry, and never pick up a vacuum  cleaner. That's only a few things, I am being  really kind to my ex ( she is a U.S. citizen)

Sorry for the rant, but when I get older and my eyesight is failing, I have a real good partner who can drive me around.

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52 minutes ago, Taradao said:

To:GOING THROUGH.

Thank You for your advises and other people's comment here on my situation. I even question her about our age difference and she has no problem  with that. She told me that within the Arab  culture it is not unusual to see a large gap between the couple's age. As mentioned here , I do see a few red flags: age difference and race. I am Asian  by birth, prior citizenship is Brazilian, and I am highly educated,  got my citizenship because of my education( not bragging). I do speak 5 languages. Porquito English.

Going to be frank with you folks about this relationship with her. She is finishing college this year, stunningly beautiful (face and body), witty,  laughs at my corny jokes, holds the same family values like i do and one great asset most here will forget to ask their mates: she is a fantastic cook. Also, she speaks  4 languages, between the two us, we pretty  much can travel  most places and one of us could speak the language. My last relationship was a nightmare: she could not even cook pasta if her life depended on it, never did any laundry, and never pick up a vacuum  cleaner. That's only a few things, I am being  really kind to my ex ( she is a U.S. citizen)

Sorry for the rant, but when I get older and my eyesight is failing, I have a real good partner who can drive me around.

Age gap between men and women ( older men/younger women)  is culturally accepted within the Arab culture. Not sure whether it still is, but throughout history it was very common.

But just be cautious, and pay attention to things ( not just her face and body   )

Edited August 1, 2017 by Beachlover

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7 hours ago, Peot said:

 

And lastly, to most people who posted in this thread: This forum SHOULD be about the legality rather than crude assumptions, speculation, scare-tactics, and misinformation. You should be trying to HELP people find the proper and legal information they're looking for, not saying "there's no way she's into you". It's not our place (or the governments) to tell two complete strangers how they should think, feel, or act towards each other. If they want to get married, there is nothing at all to stop them, especially people's opinions on age.

Amen to that!

[Going through 5,671]

Put it this way---yes, USCIS will question the age gap ...but it would be MORE of an issue if *she* was 38 years older than you.