Broke apart

[Diane and Chris 651]

20 hours ago, cd37 said:

i dont think you can get away with spliting what you own in half. Once you are married, you are married, doesnt matter how long. when you divorce everything splits into half your debt, property, 401k or anything else. 

That is not true. Consult an attorney. Many have free consultations. 

[Ontarkie 14,254]

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Edited July 26, 2017 by Ontarkie

[Maria1989 403]

 Make an Infopass appointment, tell them you would like to pull the AOS, if you truly in your heart feel it was Fraud. If you file for divorce, as far as dividing assets, highly unlikely, with such a short marriage, there are very very very few Judges that would award any alimony in such a case. The only thing that a Judge will consider dividing would be a huge asset acquired during the marriage. Pay from employment during the marriage is not considered an asset. States differ with respect to that...... However in the case of such a short duration, it wouldnt be much difference. It seems like there was definitely a lack of communication here, things are said while people are angry. Maybe you can work this out, maybe not. Good luck to you !!!

[ecwai 13]

After more reflection and study, I came to realize that my wife is a sociopath. Every characteristic was right on the dot including criminal behavior. I felt stupid to not have thought about that at the beginning.

 

Because I did not expect that, I felt really bad everyday not knowing why to deal with such an irresponsible constant liar. We would argue when I called out how she blatantly lied to me, dealing with the constant betrayal, single-handedly trying to make our relation more loving. All efforts were futile. It stressed me and hurt me so much. I kept thinking whether I did something wrong, and what else I could have done to improve our relationship.

 

Now, the fact that she could not keep any promise, unable to learn from experience, unable to feel guilt, unable to accept criticisms, and lack of love all make sense. My experience felt like a clone to the accounts in the comments here. There really are "pure evil" people. But they are not "evil", they are sociopaths. 

 

Now I am reading up on the relationship between sociopaths and society to educate myself to make a decision on what to do. I think that exposing her remorseless attempt to defraud is necessary. 

Edited July 28, 2017 by ecwai

[Perfect two 💑 1,147]

14 minutes ago, ecwai said:

After more reflection and study, I came to realize that my wife is a sociopath. Every characteristic was right on the dot including criminal behavior. I felt stupid to not have thought about that at the beginning.

 

Because I did not expect that, I felt really bad everyday not knowing why to deal with such an irresponsible constant liar. We would argue when I called out how she blatantly lied to me, dealing with the constant betrayal, single-handedly trying to make our relation more loving. All efforts were futile. It stressed me and hurt me so much. I kept thinking whether I did something wrong, and what else I could have done to improve our relationship.

 

Now, the fact that she could not keep any promise, unable to learn from experience, unable to feel guilt, unable to accept criticisms, and lack of love all make sense. My experience felt like a clone to the accounts in the comments here. There really are "pure evil" people. But they are not "evil", they are sociopaths. 

 

Now I am reading up on the relationship between sociopaths and society to educate myself to make a decision on what to do. I think that exposing her remorseless attempt to defraud is necessary. 

Do whatever you think is the best for you and your spouse. Members here can only give you an advise. But, the decision is on you. Wish the best for you.

[Angel&Eric 185]

On 7/25/2017 at 9:23 AM, ecwai said:

Thank you for the replies,

 

Do you mean that if I file no-fault divorce, there is still a good chance that I don't need to split half of my assets during the marriage? While we were married, Only I was working. She never got any paycheck that I know of. But I filed tax jointly last year and got a credit. We have no property we bought in both our names (no cars, houses, etc). 

 

I believe no-fault divorce does not need to be served (I am in California). If I also don't need to split my assets, this will be the easiest and fastest way.

Every divorce in California is a no fault divorce.

[RO_AH 1,659]

2 hours ago, ecwai said:

After more reflection and study, I came to realize that my wife is a sociopath. Every characteristic was right on the dot including criminal behavior. I felt stupid to not have thought about that at the beginning.

 

Because I did not expect that, I felt really bad everyday not knowing why to deal with such an irresponsible constant liar. We would argue when I called out how she blatantly lied to me, dealing with the constant betrayal, single-handedly trying to make our relation more loving. All efforts were futile. It stressed me and hurt me so much. I kept thinking whether I did something wrong, and what else I could have done to improve our relationship.

 

Now, the fact that she could not keep any promise, unable to learn from experience, unable to feel guilt, unable to accept criticisms, and lack of love all make sense. My experience felt like a clone to the accounts in the comments here. There really are "pure evil" people. But they are not "evil", they are sociopaths. 

 

Now I am reading up on the relationship between sociopaths and society to educate myself to make a decision on what to do. I think that exposing her remorseless attempt to defraud is necessary. 

I really hope for the best! For her.

[ecwai 13]

I could not reach USCIS by phone on time, so I pulled by I-129F and I-864 during the interview and testified for her attempt to defraud.  

I asked a lawyer and he said her text message was enough ground for a marriage annulment based on marriage fraud. 

Edited July 30, 2017 by ecwai

[f f 725]

4 minutes ago, ecwai said:

I could not reach USCIS by phone on time, so I pulled by I-129F and I-864 during the interview and testified for her attempt to defraud.  

I asked a lawyer and he said her text message was enough ground for a marriage annulment based on marriage fraud. 

wow using something that can be faked in less than 5 minutes as good enough evidence for marriage annulment.

 

notice the "insert sms feature"

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.mdroidapps.smsbackuprestore

 

[Unidentified 2,930]

11 minutes ago, ecwai said:

I could not reach USCIS by phone on time, so I pulled by I-129F and I-864 during the interview and testified for her attempt to defraud.  

I asked a lawyer and he said her text message was enough ground for a marriage annulment based on marriage fraud. 

So you pulled the application for fiance visa even though you are married and your lawyer thought a text message was enough to prove marriage fraud? Right... 

[ecwai 13]

56 minutes ago, f f said:

wow using something that can be faked in less than 5 minutes as good enough evidence for marriage annulment.

 

notice the "insert sms feature"

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.mdroidapps.smsbackuprestore

 

In my case I also have a police report and the police confirmed with my wife in person that she sent the message. 

 

52 minutes ago, Unidentified said:

So you pulled the application for fiance visa even though you are married and your lawyer thought a text message was enough to prove marriage fraud? Right... 

I didn't know that I need to withdraw I-129F until the interviewer (immigration official) informed me to withdraw both. 

 

You guys are so smart. That lawyer's answer wasn't that good. He probably shouldn't be able to say yes based on such little information. Maybe he tried to keep the technicalities simple (?). I will see how the other lawyers answer the same question. 

[Unidentified 2,930]

1 minute ago, ecwai said:

In my case I also have a police report and the police confirmed with my wife in person that she sent the message. 

 

I didn't know that I need to withdraw I-129F until the interviewer (immigration official) informed me to withdraw both. 

 

You guys are so smart. That lawyer's answer wasn't that good. He probably shouldn't be able to say yes based on such little information. Maybe he tried to keep the technicalities simple (?). I will see how the other lawyers answer the same question. 

Why would you have to withdraw an application for a fiance visa that has been approved and dealt with and is history? You were doing Adjustment of Status? 

[ecwai 13]

1 hour ago, Unidentified said:

Why would you have to withdraw an application for a fiance visa that has been approved and dealt with and is history? You were doing Adjustment of Status? 

I am not sure. Yes, we were doing adjustment of status interview.

Maybe it is because if I does not withdraw that, she could file I-485 again by herself (?)

 

[Unidentified 2,930]

1 minute ago, ecwai said:

I am not sure. Yes, we were doing adjustment of status interview.

Maybe it is because if I does not withdraw that, she could file I-485 again by herself (?)

 

There is no point in withdrawing it. The 129F was only so that she could be allowed to apply for the K1 visa at the embassy. It's done and over.