thai bride price Thai bride sin sod amounts

[Ula Svensson 8]

Boiler... Yah thanks...

[narakthisud 174]

On 7/29/2017 at 9:53 AM, Boiler said:

It is extremely unlikely she would be able to get a Tourist Visa, plan accordingly.

Don't be so sure! My now-wife was a dialysis nurse in Thailand earning a decent sum. Seeing as OP's girlfriend is also a nurse, I could very well see her being approved for a tourist visa.

 

 Back to the topic at hand...

 

I myself have struggled mightily with the concept of sin sod. Honestly, I wish it didn't exist. But I married a Thai girl and everything that comes with that. Now, bear in mind that my wife is a very modern woman with a good sense of how things are done here in the US. She requested a $10K (฿330K) sin sod which I felt was fairly reasonable given her age (30+) and the fact that she's university-educated. I still have a hard time with the idea of handing over even what some might consider a "small" sin sod to her family. She lost her dad over 16 years ago in a motorcycle accident, one of her sisters also lost her husband, and the other sister has a do-nothing husband with a bad amphetamine addiction which has landed him in jail previously so I feel that the money will be put to good use and help them with the loss of income as a result of absentee men.

Edited September 12, 2017 by narakthisud

[Boiler 45,486]

By now it should be a known fact rather than speculation.

[Ula Svensson 8]

narakthisud, thats what im talking about brother! thnx!

[narakthisud 174]

48 minutes ago, Boiler said:

By now it should be a known fact rather than speculation.

Are you referring to the granting of tourist visas or sin sod?

 

40 minutes ago, calyorker said:

narakthisud, thats what im talking about brother! thnx!

Anytime! Happy to help out a fellow farang/falang. I'm blessed to have a wife who "gets" how things are done here in the US.

[Ula Svensson 8]

Uhhnmmm...

I'm afraid to announce that she has mite or less given up and shut down... she seems to have substantial depression and schizophrenia, her family is killing her and she had convinced herself ours impossible to leave them...

My western mind just cannot shake that allot of it is bcuz I can't or won't pay the one million bhat sin sod and says her parents don't approve of us, partially because I have a but of a criminal record even though I explained that has no play in this... she changed dramatically and doesn't text me anymore although we still check on reach other at our private chat app... doesn't look good guys.. and I'm sad but the more I think about sin sod, the less I'd be willing to pay, especially when she simply doesn't do anything you make me feel anything (was going to say deserve it) don't know what to do now! I still care for her and want  to prove outs still possible

[TBoneTX 45,287]

An anguishing situation for you, certainly.

You don't want a schizophrenic or depressed girlfriend or wife.  Not there, and not locally.

Take what you see now and multiply it exponentially after she or someone else like that comes here (consequent to homesickness, etc.).

 

Difficult though it might be, avoid putting pressure on her or yourself.  See how things evolve.  Whatever is meant to result will happen.

[Boiler 45,486]

Time to move on, sounds like you just missed a really bad situation.

[Ula Svensson 8]

thanks everyone and yes i will stay positive and hopeful, ofcourse... i never quit and i knew from the get go it would always be an uphill battle and im battle ready hehe... at least she admits these things and although i get jealous and yearning for her touch when i see her put up a post on her facebook page she looks so happy and sex (in a nerdy way, which i love about her hehe) she says that its a fake smile to stay positive for her family... shes so strong and yes i might have dodged a bad situation but i think if she could break free she would find a free life here.. should i give up on her when shes in need? when her heart is in such pain? when she is resounded in failure and sadness? i will have to wait and see and i let her know she can always find me here for her... 

[cyclone27 710]

Way to much sinsod and being over 30 is one of the reasons why.

 

simple question you need to ask yourself:  What would an average Thai lad pay? I can guaranteed you it's not remotely anywhere near the 10k mark.

[Ula Svensson 8]

Cyclone27 you're the best! hehe  and I've known this from the start.... I don't mean to make light of this, for everyone following this but I'm trying to cheer us all up, just as I do for her...  so now it's a waiting game... maybe in a few years her parents will accept these couple rolls of quarters I have a finally stop suffocating her.. yes, culture, tradition, etc etc etc... stop already..

Edited September 12, 2017 by calyorker

[Ning 619]

On ‎7‎/‎25‎/‎2017 at 7:31 PM, KULtoATL said:

No that I know about Thai sinsod concept but I looked it up online and it's supposed to be a marriage dowry. I'm curious, unless you're engaged to be married, why would the talks of sinsod come up so soon?? Is that normal in Thai culture @Ning? Just want to learn about it and I mean no offence.

I am very late in this response but it may still help others. No offense taken. This is a very subjective subject where the farang typically wants badly to believe they have it all figured out. They don't. 

The O P said she didn't bring it up I think. That means the parents did. That's very Thai & I am sure the whole family was or is talking about the subject of sin sod. A cash cow has arrived or will one day because as we see here the O P hasn't even met her yet. That being the case the family is just fishing & using money as bait. It is sadly normal in Thailand due to lack of understanding about farangs; especially Americans. The fact that this subject is here again should indicate that people need to be very careful as they enter into these things. 

Its a terrible way to start an relationship but I have seen this many times. There is a lot to understand & do in this case I am afraid. The statement that she is a slave ect & cant stand to leave her family is troubling when she then says she will never return to see them if she gets away. Few Thais will turn their back on the family. Pay huge sin sod to a family that she describes? 

Of course I hope it all works out but there is a lot of work & time to put into this & sin sod shouldn't be part of it until way down the road. 

[Ula Svensson 8]

NING... everyone listen up here! we love this girl and shes the real deal, Ning is the best and always correct... yes 99% of us farangs do not grasp the entirety of the situation but some of us (yes me) have done countless hours of research ..I subscribe and watch numerous youtube chanels of farangs living in Thailand and the US and although they seem to honestly lay things out for us properly, yes I still do take things with a grain of salt and average the information in with caution and an open mind, ofcourse...    and Ning my dear, yes I will remain loving, supportive, always present and with a very open minded! Thank you, everyone as always! Cheers!

[Ning 619]

13 minutes ago, calyorker said:

NING... everyone listen up here! we love this girl and shes the real deal, Ning is the best and always correct... yes 99% of us farangs do not grasp the entirety of the situation but some of us (yes me) have done countless hours of research ..I subscribe and watch numerous youtube chanels of farangs living in Thailand and the US and although they seem to honestly lay things out for us properly, yes I still do take things with a grain of salt and average the information in with caution and an open mind, ofcourse...    and Ning my dear, yes I will remain loving, supportive, always present and with a very open minded! Thank you, everyone as always! Cheers!

With your attitude I think in time you will succeed. If not with this girl for some reason then by then you will have learned a lot about all of this Thai cultural stuff. That being the case there are a lot of ladies in Thailand that would love to find a quality person to become part of their lives. Ask your lady to read Thailand Fever & formulate some questions for you. You do the same. Get away from money entirely. As her what she knows about America & American people. Find out what she sees in her future. 

We are here to help & there are many qualified advisers here on V J. 

[Umka36 781]

Should the OP do this international relationship again in the future, I suggest making the trip sooner. My wife would have dumped me if I had waited a year to visit her.