The Hunger Rants

[cdneh 3,112]

Just now, SAT said:

Your husband gives you no emotional support?

Other than apologizing over and over for the behavior of his mother? Not really. That alone drive his BP up to ridiculous heights, and then he starts vomiting, and then he becomes a second person to deal with. I've learned to keep my problems to myself. If being stressed makes him hypotensive, which it does, and I've been told to try and keep him on an even keel by Neurology, it's for the best. But it sucks. I'm on my own here.

[SAT 9,609]

Now I'm sitting with my mother. Her daughter in law finally found it on her heart to call her. 

How caring huh? 

 

 

[SAT 9,609]

9 minutes ago, cdneh said:

Other than apologizing over and over for the behavior of his mother? 

 

At least he's aware of your hardship and apologizes. 

My wife fights with me. 

[SAT 9,609]

It's like I have to apologize for the inconvenience of my mother's hospital stay is causing her...

I swear if I didn't have kids with her, I'd leave her tomorrow. 

[cdneh 3,112]

3 minutes ago, SAT said:

 

At least he's aware of your hardship and apologizes. 

My wife fights with me. 

True.

[SAT 9,609]

Wait till she ####### needs something from me again. I'd tell her where she can go...

[trudi 1,317]

1 hour ago, SAT said:

I had a big fight with tiff. We were coming to the hospital, all the way three she was like, "I can't stay long I can't stay long"

I'm like, can you at least pretend you give a #### about my mother? You'd want me to visit your folks if they were in the hospital right? It's called compassion. It's called family.  I'm having a tough time doing everything already, can you at least not get on my nerve and make everything worse? 

She kept throwing a fit, I said just don't come. I ended dropped her off before coming to the hospital. 

Nice daughter in law huh?

Nice wife?

 

43 minutes ago, SAT said:

 

What was Trudi saying? 

Times like this, people reveal their true faces?

What was I saying?

It'd be nice to see a soul? When everyone hides behind a mask? 

 

Is my step mother like my mother? 

No. I never knew how that feels. 

But there's an old lady all by herself, and I'm the closest thing she has to a son...

Her daughter isn't here, her sister is in Cali. And as far my my kids know, grandma is in the hospital. 

So, I'm it. And I get no support, emotionally or physically...

That's the story of my whole life. In 1 paragraph. 

 

Its heart wrenching when those we should be able to count on show they aren't what we thought they were, it's leaves a deep scar on the soul

Edit because I forgot to add, you are a good person, you can bet your step mom knows and appreciates you and is very aware who hasn't made an effort.

 

You ever need support just holler, we're all here for each other 💐

 

28 minutes ago, Russ&Caro said:

Choosing when and how much to support the people we love is some of the toughest decision making we face. If we had unlimited resources the answers would be always and however much is needed.

 

I was fortunate a year ago when my father had his last bout in the hospital before dying a few months later. I took off from work and flew up to Seattle to see him and care for him as he transitioned from hospital back to his assisted living apartment. It was tough leaving him after only 1 week but my wife volunteered to take off from school and be with him for a 2nd week, as I went back to work. As a result, she has fond memories of old Tony, even though he was an 84 year old cantankerous s.o.b.

 

Perfect example of support being there when you need it, I'm glad you had the time with your father and that your wife cared enough to make memories

 

25 minutes ago, cdneh said:

Other than apologizing over and over for the behavior of his mother? Not really. That alone drive his BP up to ridiculous heights, and then he starts vomiting, and then he becomes a second person to deal with. I've learned to keep my problems to myself. If being stressed makes him hypotensive, which it does, and I've been told to try and keep him on an even keel by Neurology, it's for the best. But it sucks. I'm on my own here.

 

Sounds similar to here, difference is redneck knows it has the dealt with but digs himself a big hole and shoves his head in only coming out when the immediate crisis is dealt with and then gets all puffed up and huffy saying he was going to deal with it

 

The things we do for love....

 

I got offered the job & was all happy until redneck tells me that because they offer insurance to part time workers I have to take it - 20hrs a week @ $10 an hour isn't going to leave enough for gas after insurance

Edited August 7, 2017 by trudi

[cdneh 3,112]

2 minutes ago, trudi said:

I got offered the job & was all happy until redneck tells me that because they offer insurance to part time workers I have to take it - 20hrs a week @ $10 an hour isn't going to leave enough for gas after insurance

 

Oh for heaven's sake, what's the point of people working then? It doesn't make sense, does it?

 

America. That great glittering prize that promises so much, and delivers so shockingly little

[trudi 1,317]

Just now, cdneh said:

Oh for heaven's sake, what's the point of people working then? It doesn't make sense, does it?

 

America. That great glittering prize that promises so much, and delivers so shockingly little

I know, it's frustrating.  I don't have a university education and although I was a senior manager in the U.K. it is really hard translating my experience and skill set to the US resume (different terms, fields of reference, industry requirements etc).  I had a meeting with an employment agency and they suggested I would find it easier if I could show US work history.

Damned if I do & damned if I don't...

[cdneh 3,112]

2 minutes ago, trudi said:

I know, it's frustrating.  I don't have a university education and although I was a senior manager in the U.K. it is really hard translating my experience and skill set to the US resume (different terms, fields of reference, industry requirements etc).  I had a meeting with an employment agency and they suggested I would find it easier if I could show US work history.

Damned if I do & damned if I don't...

I don't know that a Uni degree would help. Most of the jobs I was interested in here require citizenship. Now that I'm about to get that, nobody is interested. As they say on VJ, I've "aged out".

[SAT 9,609]

it's hard to pick up and immigrate to another country. 

 

 

[SAT 9,609]

 

All this talk is making me depressed. 

And you guys know how much I love to joke around. 

My sense of humor got me through life. 

It also got me in trouble a couple of times lol. 

 

[trudi 1,317]

Sure has its challenges

 

We are fortunate that I don't have to work, but I've worked my whole life, I want to work

 

I figure you don't start getting benefits until the 90 day probation period is over so I've got time to figure something out

[trudi 1,317]

My step daughter was just brought home by her maw maw, MIL greeted them (and maw maw is very 'proper') with 'don't pet that dog, we have a flea problem'

 

Im deciding if I can rock the orange jumpsuit look....

[SAT 9,609]

46 minutes ago, trudi said:

 

 

Its heart wrenching when those we should be able to count on show they aren't what we thought they were, it's leaves a deep scar on the soul

Edit because I forgot to add, you are a good person, you can bet your step mom knows and appreciates you and is very aware who hasn't made an effort.

 

You ever need support just holler, we're all here for each other 💐

 

 

 - 20hrs a week @ $10 an hour 

 

Yeah this thread rocks man. (And I invented it, thank you thank you..). Got me through the rough a couple of times.

 

And I'm telling you, that's exactly what I wanna do. "Where do you want me to sweep? Aisle 3? You got it!"

 

You new guys didn't here the story I once told of me actually applying for a job at HD lol. I got a kick out of the phone call from the GM of that branch lol. We had a great conversation...