Overcoming "Red Flags"---HOW????

[Love To Teach 161]

I have a question. We haven't gotten our reason(s) for denial, but how could you possibly "overcome" or "fix":

 

1. age differences

2. multiple divorces

3. different religions

4. other unchangeable circumstances that are not a big deal in US culture

 

Just curious. I know the only way to overcome "fraudulent relationship" is more visits, chats, letters of support, which we have already planned.

[Dianalorena 1,153]

I'm sorry you're going through a denial. Is the case going back to USCIS and are you going to appeal for reconsideration?

what sort of age difference are we talking about, is the female older, how many divorces are we talking about? U.S citizen, beneficiary, both?  It sounds like you have quite a few red flags. 

 

Pakistan from what I know it's not an easy embassy, and we're undergoing some questionable political times. You could and should definitely increase visits, and also other solid forms of financial co mingling are important such as bank accounts, wills, insurance, affidavits and the sort. Remember they care more about these documents, than pictures (although you should have a variety of pictures as well, not only together but with family members, friends, etc.) Wish I could help more. 

good luck!

 

[Elsalove2016 34]

Get advice from a very experienced immigration attorney , don't give up . Ive seen time línes of people that were denied 2 even 3 times but at the end they needed up bringing their loved one and are together now . 

Edited July 22, 2017 by Elsalove2016

[Love To Teach 161]

Thanks for the kind words, Dilorena...I have 4 divorces (2 when I was really young (1 had a girlfriend; 1 went back to drugs; then married for 23 years--we let it die, then he didn't want to try to fix it; last one was k-1 Moroccan I brought her, was abusive--I have proof). I admit my track record isn't great. That's why I didn't rush into marrying my current husband. And I sure can't fix previous divorces.

 

I have 7 trips to visit him, have known him 6.5 years. I am 16 years older than him. He has 1 divorce, 4 great kids (2 finished college, 1 in college, 1 finishing high school). I have no kids. We had more than 6 pounds of evidence. We both are educated. I have been a teacher for 43 years (that should count for stability). He has a tour business and an export business. We co-own a business, have joint credit cards and bank accounts in several countries, he is in my will, had letters from family and friends, his family is very happy for us. I'm Christian, he's Muslim. We believe in one God, so it's not a big deal. I feel like we are being judged on cultural issues that are 50 years old, and not such a big deal here in the US. It makes me think they didn't even look at our evidence. 

 

The only things I can think of is to keep visiting, getting more letters. I can't change the past.

[Love To Teach 161]

We are working with 2 senators' offices. They have advised us to wait until USCIS tells us the reason(s) for denial, THEN see what needs to be done (as far as getting an attorney). An attorney can't get any further with USCIS at this point.

Edited July 23, 2017 by Love To Teach

[Love To Teach 161]

To Elsalove2016--Thanks for the support! I'm 66 (he's 50), and hope I/we live long enough to have many years together. That's one reason this is so sad. If I were in my 30's or 40's, I wouldn't be feeling such an urgency. It's just heartbreaking....

[Going through 5,671]

1 hour ago, Love To Teach said:

have joint credit cards and bank accounts in several countries,

Actually, this can certainly be a red flag too.

 

When you say "several" countries---how many different countries are you talking about?  Which countries?

 

It's normal to have bank accounts in one's home country and then perhaps the country they are immigrating to (ie. US).  If someone maintains active bank accounts all over the world, it can begin to look a bit fishy.

 

I agree, the religion/age/divorce thing you can't change now---although that all raises red flags, along with multiple bank accounts across the globe, and as someone else pointed out earlier Pakistan is one of the harder embassies. 

Edited July 23, 2017 by Going through

[Love To Teach 161]

Let me clarify. My husband exports meat (actually sheep guts for sausage casings) from Pakistan to Serbia, where he lived for 3 years. My name is on that bank account. We own a piece of land there where we have the refrigeration equipment to store the meat that he exports. He is in business with a friend there in Serbia. He also has a tourism business in Pakistan. Both businesses he runs from Pakistan, although he began the actual sheep guts business with a friend in Serbia. So it's not like we are some shady couple. We put my name on that account to show that we are a real couple. It's very simple. When tourism from Pakistan started going through hard times due to terrorism, my husband decided to start another business. We met a good friend in Serbia, who is his business partner. My husband sends the meat to Serbia, his partner cleans and stores it, then delivers it to stores there in Serbia. My name is also on his account in Pakistan, as his will be here. My credit union won't let me put him on my account, and I don't want to change banks to be able to do it.

 

I didn't want my name to be put on the land until we sort out our taxes and such, hopefully when he gets here. It seems you can't win. You do this, it looks shady. You do that, it's not enough. All we are doing is being honest and trying to live our lives honestly and survive financially and support our kids.So he works two jobs...and I teach.

Edited July 23, 2017 by Love To Teach

[Lemonslice 4,836]

I don't think any evidence is as strong as time spent together in person, publicly living your married life.

[xillini 71]

If USCIS denies the applications you may appeal to EOIR Executive Office of Immigration Review, where Board of immigration  appeal will review your denied application.

 

USCIS will specify if you can appel to EOIR or not depending on how it thinks about your case. EOIR processes only thru paperwork without face to face interview but your attorney or legal representative will have to show up in the court and explains why your marriage is bona fide. At least you can try here, where it may override USCISs decision

 

[Love To Teach 161]

22 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

I don't think any evidence is as strong as time spent together in person, publicly living your married life.

We thought we had that with 7 visits in about 3 years.

[caliliving 606]

3 hours ago, Love To Teach said:

I have a question. We haven't gotten our reason(s) for denial, but how could you possibly "overcome" or "fix":

 

1. age differences

2. multiple divorces

3. different religions

4. other unchangeable circumstances that are not a big deal in US culture

 

Just curious. I know the only way to overcome "fraudulent relationship" is more visits, chats, letters of support, which we have already planned.

More visits!!! The only thing that will overcome anything is to continue to make frequent visits every few months and wait a few years!!!! 

 

How often have you guys visited each other????

[Coco8 1,042]

2 hours ago, caliliving said:

More visits!!! The only thing that will overcome anything is to continue to make frequent visits every few months and wait a few years!!!! 

 

How often have you guys visited each other????

She said 7 visits in 3 years. That seems pretty often considering she probably has to visit him. 

[caliliving 606]

3 minutes ago, Coco8 said:

She said 7 visits in 3 years. That seems pretty often considering she probably has to visit him. 

Oh damn I didn't realize that! That is the only thing to overcome red flags so their is not much else to do after that.

 

[amicablebride 25]

11 hours ago, Love To Teach said:

Let me clarify. My husband exports meat (actually sheep guts for sausage casings) from Pakistan to Serbia, where he lived for 3 years. My name is on that bank account. We own a piece of land there where we have the refrigeration equipment to store the meat that he exports. He is in business with a friend there in Serbia. He also has a tourism business in Pakistan. Both businesses he runs from Pakistan, although he began the actual sheep guts business with a friend in Serbia. So it's not like we are some shady couple. We put my name on that account to show that we are a real couple. It's very simple. When tourism from Pakistan started going through hard times due to terrorism, my husband decided to start another business. We met a good friend in Serbia, who is his business partner. My husband sends the meat to Serbia, his partner cleans and stores it, then delivers it to stores there in Serbia. My name is also on his account in Pakistan, as his will be here. My credit union won't let me put him on my account, and I don't want to change banks to be able to do it.

 

I didn't want my name to be put on the land until we sort out our taxes and such, hopefully when he gets here. It seems you can't win. You do this, it looks shady. You do that, it's not enough. All we are doing is being honest and trying to live our lives honestly and survive financially and support our kids.So he works two jobs...and I teach.

In the eyes of US customs, you sound more like business partners than a romantic couple in a loving relationship.