We never applied for the GC and going to divorce. What are the consequences?

[Hopeful diva 99]

4 hours ago, htfaust said:

Yes! So much this! The K1 is really a worse deal. I was carried into it because I didn't want to be apart and the inicial visa processing time was shorter. Biggest mistake I ever did. I currently always recommend IR1/CR1 over K1 no matter what. The autonomy and liberty you have as soon as you cross the border is priceless. I'd be in a much better position now (almost a year after I got here) if I had gone that route. Hindsight is 20/20, but I hope someone will read this and be dissuaded from making the mistake I did. (My case involves abuse by the US citizen petitioner and I'm currently in the VAWA process).

Yes I remember you from the VAWA thread. Luckily for me, I came in with a B2 and not K1, I also recommend the CR1 for anyone. That way one is not tied down to one spouse in the event that things do not work out 

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13 hours ago, caliliving said:

Wow that is awful!!! Def emotional abuse..lile he owns you and you owe him something bc he can give u this "life"

How awful and I'm sorry you are going thru that!! Your next k1 would be heavily scrutinized and if it's close to this one won't work. You will need longer visits and more time spent w the next guy. Also, you probably won't get a tourist visa at this point. But at least u won't have a 3 year ban if u do fall in love again...

 

So awful that is happening but better to get out now while ur young and have less invested 

 

You know I've wondered many times if USCIS should not include also some sort of Psychology / Psychiatry battery of tests along with the medical tests on USC petitioning someone. And these tests should include the beneficiary immigrant as well. Because let's be honest not everyone really knows the other person deeply unless you spent a lot of quality time knowing each other before marriage and sometimes in distance relationships continuous visits is just not possible and even that won't guarantee a successful relationship since you really don't get to know someone until you live with that person for a while. 

And this tends to happen a lot in particular on women on K1 because they need to depend on their USC petitioner that use power to show who is in control. But who helps the beneficiary in a situation like this? 

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19 hours ago, Ebunoluwa said:

The consequences are you have to go back to your country or live in fear of being deported as an illegal if you stay.

with either one of these, the OP has to contemplate the lesser of the 2 evils.

[Maria&Derrick 22]

Well, I don't have a goal to stay in country no matter what. What's the point in GC if you have no decent job, place to live, own car and American education and have no one to support you (not necessarily financially, but help you to adjust, encourage you and such?). Just a useless paper.

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44 minutes ago, Maria&Derrick said:

Well, I don't have a goal to stay in country no matter what. What's the point in GC if you have no decent job, place to live, own car and American education and have no one to support you (not necessarily financially, but help you to adjust, encourage you and such?). Just a useless paper.

Very true, you start accruing illegal presence after 90 days, so as long as you leave before 90 days plus 6 months you will have no ban.

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56 minutes ago, Maria&Derrick said:

Well, I don't have a goal to stay in country no matter what. What's the point in GC if you have no decent job, place to live, own car and American education and have no one to support you (not necessarily financially, but help you to adjust, encourage you and such?). Just a useless paper.

Exactly true. I do have a job and car, but if I divorced my husband I would want to go back home. There's no life here if you're all alone. 

[caliliving 606]

To be honest...i was an overstay but i would have never trusted a k1...i can see how people from countries that can NOT get a tourist visa do it, but I do question why those from a country that can travel easily do the k1 over a cr1??

[Maria&Derrick 22]

Well, maybe they think that it's better to live together for 3 months before getting married, and see if it will work out. Even if you can travel, it's not that cheap and most people have jobs and can't stay in other country for too long.

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11 minutes ago, caliliving said:

To be honest...i was an overstay but i would have never trusted a k1...i can see how people from countries that can NOT get a tourist visa do it, but I do question why those from a country that can travel easily do the k1 over a cr1??

Because the CR1 takes forever?

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2 minutes ago, caliliving said:

To be honest...i was an overstay but i would have never trusted a k1...i can see how people from countries that can NOT get a tourist visa do it, but I do question why those from a country that can travel easily do the k1 over a cr1??

In my case, I tried entering the US as a visitor with my car packed full of my stuff. I kept my job and apartment but my lease was ending in 1 month and I had no plans to renew it. I planned on requesting a 6 month leave of absence from work once we made it through. 

Long story short, customs was suspicious. I was traveling with my American boyfriend, which was supposed to help it look less suspicious. Boyfriend ended up cracking and telling the agents my apartment was totally cleaned out / lease was over and I planned to "try" living with him for 6 months and date normally, then he planned to propose. In MY interview, I said I planned to stay with him, still had my apartment and job. He needed SOLID PROOF, and since it was a Sunday evening, he couldn't contact the leasing office or my employer. 

So in the end, our best option was the K-1 or end the relationship. I guess we had no interest in getting married first, living apart, and waiting for CR1 approval. I spent a year living in my empty apartment. We saw each other as much as we could. Facetimed all the time. And eventually, I was approved for the K1. 

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28 minutes ago, amicablebride said:

In my case, I tried entering the US as a visitor with my car packed full of my stuff. I kept my job and apartment but my lease was ending in 1 month and I had no plans to renew it. I planned on requesting a 6 month leave of absence from work once we made it through. 

Long story short, customs was suspicious. I was traveling with my American boyfriend, which was supposed to help it look less suspicious. Boyfriend ended up cracking and telling the agents my apartment was totally cleaned out / lease was over and I planned to "try" living with him for 6 months and date normally, then he planned to propose. In MY interview, I said I planned to stay with him, still had my apartment and job. He needed SOLID PROOF, and since it was a Sunday evening, he couldn't contact the leasing office or my employer. 

So in the end, our best option was the K-1 or end the relationship. I guess we had no interest in getting married first, living apart, and waiting for CR1 approval. I spent a year living in my empty apartment. We saw each other as much as we could. Facetimed all the time. And eventually, I was approved for the K1. 

Yeah piling your life into a car definitely raises suspicions with border patrol 

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2 hours ago, Maria&Derrick said:

Well, I don't have a goal to stay in country no matter what. What's the point in GC if you have no decent job, place to live, own car and American education and have no one to support you (not necessarily financially, but help you to adjust, encourage you and such?). Just a useless paper.

I agree with you 

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1 hour ago, amicablebride said:

In my case, I tried entering the US as a visitor with my car packed full of my stuff. I kept my job and apartment but my lease was ending in 1 month and I had no plans to renew it. I planned on requesting a 6 month leave of absence from work once we made it through. 

Long story short, customs was suspicious. I was traveling with my American boyfriend, which was supposed to help it look less suspicious. Boyfriend ended up cracking and telling the agents my apartment was totally cleaned out / lease was over and I planned to "try" living with him for 6 months and date normally, then he planned to propose. In MY interview, I said I planned to stay with him, still had my apartment and job. He needed SOLID PROOF, and since it was a Sunday evening, he couldn't contact the leasing office or my employer. 

So in the end, our best option was the K-1 or end the relationship. I guess we had no interest in getting married first, living apart, and waiting for CR1 approval. I spent a year living in my empty apartment. We saw each other as much as we could. Facetimed all the time. And eventually, I was approved for the K1. 

Interesting story. Makes sense why the K1 was the better choice in your case.

 

Still, the K1 is an inferior option in my opinion. But it is a better option in many situations like the post quoted above.

 

I do agree that loading up your apartment in your car was a bad move. But many don't know better. But it is also one of the reasons why it is tough for many to get a visitor visa.

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2 hours ago, Unidentified said:

Because the CR1 takes forever?

No bc you get a green card right away and from a vwp country or Canada you shouldn't have problems traveling before it's issued! Therefore imo it's the better option!

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59 minutes ago, NuestraUnion said:

Interesting story. Makes sense why the K1 was the better choice in your case.

 

Still, the K1 is an inferior option in my opinion. But it is a better option in many situations like the post quoted above.

 

I do agree that loading up your apartment in your car was a bad move. But many don't know better. But it is also one of the reasons why it is tough for many to get a visitor visa.

In my oopinion  a k1 is a visitor visa that allows u to marry! If u did the cr1 and never loaded up your car lmao you would have been able to visit while it was pending and granted a gc upon entry to america...k1 are good for those from countries that can NOT get a visitor visa.