Issues and Problems

[ya falaha! 0]

Well I believe that would be different. In that case the hand gestures would be sign language and not just random gestures. You wouldn't have to guess at what the person is wanting and if all else failed, they could write down what they wanted. Now if the person can't speak English and can't write English then you're kinda screwed. The gestures would only help some of the time and forget writing something down.

Anyways...it's not something I would do but if others wanna do it then more power to them.

Edited April 18, 2007 by moody

[Fandango 1,439]

I said, "forgive me", first. That always makes things ok. Same with, "with all due respect".

Yep, wadr always softens the blow

[Reynaldo 0]

You know what they say, love is the universal language...

[ya falaha! 0]

True.

However, a lot of problems and arguments stem from misunderstandings. Can you imagine the amount of misunderstandings a couple could have if they didn't understand each other's language? Love isn't always enough.

Edited April 18, 2007 by moody

[Mags 112]

I said, "forgive me", first. That always makes things ok. Same with, "with all due respect".

Yep, wadr always softens the blow

I admit, I had to look that up after I kept reading it in your posts!

[mybackpages 0]

You know what they say, love is the universal language...

I thought that it was music?

[Reynaldo 0]

You know what they say, love is the universal language...

I thought that it was music?

I think that is the universal second language.

They have courses: "Music for Love speakers"

[mybackpages 0]

You know what they say, love is the universal language...

I thought that it was music?

I think that is the universal second language.

They have courses: "Music for Love speakers"

[Fandango 1,439]

I said, "forgive me", first. That always makes things ok. Same with, "with all due respect".

Yep, wadr always softens the blow

I admit, I had to look that up after I kept reading it in your posts!

I had to shorten it cos I didn't wanna continually type it out, lolz

[MPGGPM 0]

I think it's still a grey area cos nowhere does that say she doesn't want advice or she was only doing it for vj's 'benefit'

It's not a grey area at all...................it's more like a "vanished" area.

That's because , contrary to what she is now saying, she actually did come on to VJ early that morning, and made NUMEROUS posts , each in a different forum, and each one a copy of the other..................all asking for everyone's "help" with her petition.

And the only reason you all don't see them anymore, is that each of them has been deleted. Apparently, the moderators weren't too keen on her spamming the website with all of her requests for people to come and join her petition.

Then, apparently, after making "multiple" posts, someone must have asked her what her story was all about.

And then that's when the rest of this started............

[Fandango 1,439]

I think it's still a grey area cos nowhere does that say she doesn't want advice or she was only doing it for vj's 'benefit'

It's not a grey area at all...................it's more like a "vanished" area.

That's because , contrary to what she is now saying, she actually did come on to VJ early that morning, and made NUMEROUS posts , each in a different forum, and each one a copy of the other..................all asking for everyone's "help" with her petition.

And the only reason you all don't see them anymore, is that each of them has been deleted. Apparently, the moderators weren't too keen on her spamming the website with all of her requests for people to come and join her petition.

Then, apparently, after making "multiple" posts, someone must have asked her what her story was all about.

And then that's when the rest of this started............

Ahhhh makes sense now, thx!

[aicha 0]

You want my situation - here it is in a nutshell - there are many reasons why I was not ready to discuss this.

As for the petition - so sorry - I was new to this site and did not know where to post things and did nto realize that if you make one post - it comes up somewhere for all to see - so again sorry for that.

I will also apologize for coming off so strong, but you ca nchoose to believe me or not - I was not ready for this subject. Someone asked me before I posted anything about the petition. And just to clear that grey area - that petition is not for me it is for all people who go through this grueling process - this was something my husband and I were going to do when we got back to the states - well that kind of got a little sidetracked, so we figure we have time now - we might a

[aicha 0]

You want my situation - here it is in a nutshell - there are many reasons why I was not ready to discuss this.

As for the petition - so sorry - I was new to this site and did not know where to post things and did nto realize that if you make one post - it comes up somewhere for all to see - so again sorry for that.

I will also apologize for coming off so strong, but you ca nchoose to believe me or not - I was not ready for this subject. Someone asked me before I posted anything about the petition. And just to clear that grey area - that petition is not for me it is for all people who go through this grueling process - this was something my husband and I were going to do when we got back to the states - well that kind of got a little sidetracked, so we figure we have time now - we might as well work on it now and hopefully by the time we get to the states we will have enough backing to make some changes for all of the people this affects - not just me - all of us.

I have been together with my husband for almost 15 months now and we have been living together for almost 8 of those 15 months. I luckily am in a position where my children are grown, still very young, but grown - so I could make the decisions to come and live here while we went through all of htis process. When I came here the first time and stayed for 2 1/2 months - I left to go back to the states to get my stupid exit stamp taht I was told by our lawyer that we needed to file the papers - that was so hard on both me and my husband - our health was affected and the emotions were just out of control - I returned back to Morocco and we made a decision that we would not be apart again and that I would stay here until we could go home to the US together, as a family!

I paid out 1800 to lawyer who was a specialist in immigration and had over 17 years of experience in the field. Regretfully the man did not own up to his experience. Not one time did this man ever talk to me and my husband - it was always communication through his paralegal - there was no prepe for the interview process, the only thing we were told from them was "do not worry, it is only a few simple questions, do not answer anymore than the specifics and remember - your proof is that you guys live together!" Wow - was that a joke! Since the denial - this supposed lawyer, has only contacted the CO one time - that was teh day after our inerview - they did not reply and the lawyer never contacted them again. Then the paralegal went out of the office due to health problems of her child - I got transferred to another paralegal - they in turn were not responding to me - when they did it was to lecture me on diplomatics - I did not have any diplomatics at that point because the people I hired to do this job and help us - were sh--ing on us - more than the CO. I was told wer will work with you when you can get the SEnator of your state involved and if they want we can work with them and present case law, however, I think you should consider divorcing and moving your petition to another country for processing, the Casablanca CO is a problem CO andyou will never get your VISA through there even if it is reaffirmed.

My lawyer said to me the last time I actually spoke with him, "Do not contact me unless you have a problem - taht is what you have a paralegal for to communicate with - only contact me when you have a problem" - Wow! - I thought I did have a problem - we are fighting our denial!

I will still stand by my statement that the CO took a simple question of "how did you learn english? - response "friends helped me" - and turned it around to we have help communicating in all areas, e-mails and even when I am in Morocco visiting. I am sorry if I view that as a fabrication - I will continue to stand by that in whatever word you want it in.

To continue my story - I thought we would have been home by now - my mother is 65 years old and my step-father is 50 - age difference (they have been togetehr for over 20 years) - anyways - tehy both have health issues - my step-father has to undergo esophogael dilations every month , which consists of anestesia. The last two times he went under - they had to revive him. Now he was just informed that he has a thoracic hernia that is engulfing his entire right lung and he is on oxygen 24/7 - he is scheduled to undergo surgery fopr this on May 11 - their insurance does not cover any in home care and the rehabilitation from this will be extensive, if he survives. I was informed of this after I was already here and this is why we had hoped to be home by now.

I gave up my home and everything when I moved here - when we went back to the states we were planning the move over by my parents so I could be there to take care of them. I am the only one they have - my sister is on the east coast and does not have a relationship with my mom - she has even told me that when she dies, she will not take the time to drop everything in her life to come to the funeral. My mom has sent us an emergency letter - and I have transferred that to the Senator, which I now have contact with - they are trying to expedite our case. I will post more later - this is long enough.

[aicha 0]

Continuation of my post - and sorry for the double post on the last - I was typing so fast I hit the wrong button.

There was so much we did not know in this process and if we had, we would have done thngs a lot different. I would have had Senator's and privacy forms signed and sent befoer we ever started this journey. Because of that delay and the lack of response from our attorney - our papers were returned - by the time the Senator sent the first message to the CO asking for an immediate freeze of our papers - it was too late. But in everything I have sent them - they knew something was not right in this inerview process and therefore did not stop to ask about the reasons or anything else - they tried to ask immediately for a freeze and review. They now are having to watch for the papers to enter the US - they are in constant contact with the NVC and USCIS at this point and are contacting me daily. As soon as the papers are received, our case will be expedited.

I feel most of the fault is with our lawyer and we relied on him to do a job and prepare us for this - he did neither. Now we are trying to repair the damage done because of his so called advice of do not give them details, only answer the questions to specifics - your proof is you living together - we never even got a chance to show any of our proof - including the fact that we are living together - nothing.

My emotions over the last two days have hit a breakdown - I was doing my best to be so caught up in stopping all of this and contacting anyone and everyone that I would not give myself a chance to feel. When I did that post - I did it jsut because someone asked me to do it - really it had nothing to do with the petition - and again I will state that the petition is not a petition just for me. When all of a sudden people started coming back to me giving me advice - I was floored and at that moment could not deal with any of it - and I still feel that it was not done in the best of ways - and I am sorry if I feel that way about it. I have been tore apart by the people who were supposed to be helping me - the last thing I needed was more advice and I really did nto want to stop to take time to feel because if I did it may interfere with my ability to stay focused - and being focused was something I needed because of the urgency of our situation.

If you want to know more - then ask me, but please do not jump me - I simply can not deal with that right now.

As far as the petition is concerned - I hope you reconsider - because in the end you are helping yourself - you also have went through a rediculously grueling process just like me - whether you have beend denied or approved - it does not matter - the process is still very lengthy and really not right in any wayn shape or form. But please believe me that this petition is not for my case personally - never has been.

I can only pray you all understand this time and thank you for that.

[Fandango 1,439]

My heart goes out to you but it seems to me that if the situation at home with your step-father is that dire, you should prolly fly home to be support for your mother. She may need you big-style right about now.

Good luck