im Going to marry this week (my wife disabled)

[mallafri76 1,012]

OP, you've gotten some good advice. I don't think people are trying to discourage you, they are just trying to advice you in how to get the best possible outcome on your visa application. 

 

You are going through a tough Embassy and you do have some red flags but they can be overcome. I've been very open on VJ about my husband petitioning me from prison, so I've had several people in the same situation reach out to me, many of whom were denied an immigration visa and didn't understand why, when my case was approved. The answer is VISITS. I flew over to visit my husband in the US about 18 times before I finally immigrated. I don't care if a case like that went through Ghana or Germany, there is no way a CO can justify denying a visa when you have a good amount of visits in the baggage. And that's what you need, you need more visits. If I understood you correctly, you met for the first time now and you're also getting married now, on this first visit? One visit is just not enough with all the other red flags you have and going through a tough Embassy. If I were you, I would plan more visits. Either she comes to you or you meet somewhere halfway.